The only part of what you said that could possibly be your fault is getting invaded by their bot and dying. imo it was your bot lanes fault for not pinging it and also not helping you with a leash. Since they didn't help you, they should win lane since they have xp advantage. For top, it is their fault for playing poorly. Since you already got countered hard, you ganking does nothing to provide help because if their jungler ganks too, you will most likely lose. Just remember that if people blame you for stuff, if what they say isn't your fault, ignore them and just play how you feel you should. If they say something constructive or that is correct, like you should have smite up for dragon, well thats your fault lol.