How to be alone without feeling lonely?

Niyumi·Apr 16, 2017·1 votes·415 views

Title, really. Went to Sakura-Con today (I've never been to a con, wanted to go to one for years), and it made me feel more lonely than I usually do.

Never had friends, family doesn't like being around me, never so much as hugged a girl or been on a date, nothing -- never even had internet friends in my 14+ years of MMOs.. As you can imagine, that's not a lot of fun. But, it's obviously not going to change any time soon, seeing as it's gone on for 23 years now.

So, without the whole sob story, how can I be alone without feeling lonely?

9 Comments

69469238DEL1Apr 16, 20172 votes

Literally just start eating healthy and work out. It'll fix the loneliness because people will take interest in you, and will be attracted to you. Even if you aren't handsome, health and strength will always attract people.

NiyumiApr 17, 20171 votes

I already eat well (for the most part) and get exercise. I'm not fat in the slightest, and I'm not a twig either.

And I don't think looks have much to do in the way of just making friends, but as far as girls go, I've heard people talk about me and say I look fine but have no personality (I do, it's just not apparent in public; I'm kind of quiet unless I'm comfortable somewhere).

69469238DEL1Apr 17, 20171 votes

It isn't about doing enough to be average, anyone can be average. When you can emit that aura of strength and health this problem you have doesn't exist. Take a serious interest in bettering yourself in this way and you'll learn to navigate social interactions naturally as well. This is the best advice I can give you. It is simple and hasn't failed anyone who's taken it yet.

NiyumiApr 17, 20171 votes

I have no issue with who I am though, and I don't want to change my entire lifestyle for vanity. I've given up on finding friends or anything a long time ago, hence the title of the post.

69469238DEL1Apr 17, 20171 votes

If you think that improving your life is only for the vayne, then I am out of words.

OurLestradeApr 16, 20171 votes

Meh, I just got used to it.

NiyumiApr 17, 20171 votes

I did for the most part too. But I still don't like being alone all the time. : / Just having one person I could be close to would be enough.

ZILLAGULAApr 16, 20171 votes

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NiyumiApr 17, 20171 votes

No, don't feel bad. Nothing you caused, and it doesn't usually bother me unless I think about it (several things make me think about it). I just saw all kinds of couples and groups of friends at the convention, and I just felt left out, for lack of words.