As a jungler, I do what you feel is the right choice

When i jungle i mute pings and everyone on my team to focus on what i have to do to win the game even if i have to ignore my laners to do so. I will gank when i feel there is a chance for a kill, and i will ignore the lanes that want a gank just because they are frustrated in there lane. I make the calculated decisions in my head instead of doing something rash like trying to do a counter gank in a situation i know we wont win (like a 2v2 or a 3v3 against an elise or udyr jungle). Im not going to try to counter gank against someone like elise unless im extremely fed otherwise i will just die with my laner which will only set my laner and me behind as well. Yea, quite often i have to deal with the ungrateful teammates who only know how to bitch and whine, but im in it to win it, so if i have to sacrifice a lane that i know wont be able to make a comeback, i will do so. I will tower dive with the winning lanes and counter jungle when i have opportunities and ignore my laners when they keep back pinging me from the enemy jungle.

Just like how junglers dont tell laners how to lane, laners should not tell the jungler how to jungle or they will only go on tilt. Junglers are already under pressure to make the best choices so we dont need laners increasing the pressure by telling us what to do.