PSA: There's a difference between toxicity and criticism

TotalJerk··2 votes·504 views

I get that most people don't like dealing with being bitched out for making a mistake, but when someone tells you to stop pulling a TSM Wildturtle with Kog'Maw, or to stop trying to fight the enemy laner when you're already 0/3, that isn't toxicity. I'm sick of people getting all indignant and passive aggressive, then telling everyone to report me because I politely asked them to stop making terrible decisions. If you're being dumb, there is no rule in the summoner's code saying I can't call you out for it.

I didn't insult you, I didn't say "..." or "why"; I told you to stay out of the frontline if you were squishy, I told you to peel for our squishies if you were frontline, and I told you that you wouldn't be getting ganked so much if you would ward because our jungler can't be there to constantly babysit top lane every game.

If someone is telling you you made the wrong decision and what you should be doing correctly, swallow your fucking pride and LISTEN to them instead of acting like a crybaby; you might actually learn something. Throwing a fit because of your bruised ego is just as toxic as anything else and not only that, you're actively making yourself a worse player because of it.

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Illiad1 votes

Its not what you say its how you say it [slayer-jinx-wink] Alot of people might mean well by the way they speak but i mostly only see a violent source for my 'criticism'

TotalJerk1 votes

Here's the thing: I generally try my hardest not to be rude or passive aggresive. I just bluntly say "Thresh buy a sightstone, it's been 24 minutes". One time I warning pinged my support to stop chasing people into the enemy jungle, and his immediate response was literally "stfu bitch" followed by acting like a contrarian asshole, deliberately going against any calls I made, mocking me every time I died, and obnoxiously spamming pings.

Illiad1 votes

Thats called a troll, they cant be reasoned with, best to mute and forget they existed

Darkslayer852 votes

(clap) (clap) (clap)

Hayaishi21 votes

People should just grow a pair and realize that the only thing that deserves a report is trolling.

There's a mute button for a reason.

TotalJerk1 votes

I reiterate that being mean or acting like an asshole or whatever isn't even what I'm talking about. I'm saying that these are the type of people that would throw a hissy fit at any amount of criticism or advice because they take everything personally. I've have had people legitimately fucking explode at me for giving them advice. I just want people to leave their goddamn egos at the door when they step into matchmaking.

BluePolarizer1 votes

Exactly. Saying "plz group" and "fuckin retard Lucian useless gg" are clearly different, yet some ppl think that they are equivalently toxic.

JhinemaTheater1 votes

All in delivery. Also, I find that if you also acknowledge your mistakes and appreciate people who are against counters and avoided feeding, it generally keeps a lighter attitude. Also, take the jungler's side more often than not, as he has the considerably hard challenge of farming and having global map presence. If he misses the smite and the other person steals drag, simply say "we'll get it next time, but could you try to smite a little later?". they might get passive aggressive if they have anger issues or are having a bad game, but just try and keep a good delivery, as at the least your team will support you if a report battle ensues.

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