Let's talk about lane tax
First off, when the jungler ganks your lane and gets a kill (regardless of which one of you gets it), you're going to earn gold, so be thankful for that. Even if you don't get a kill, if the jungler forces the enemy laner to teleport home, that also gives you an advantage. The jungler also wants to take towers and cause the enemy laner to miss cs, and if shoving the wave does this then that's a good thing. Shoving the lane could also force the enemy laner to teleport or miss a ton of cs, and burning a summoner spell is always a big thing. Since your lane is pushed, you can go shop and then roam/force an objective while your enemy laner has to clear the wave. And first tower gold is REALLY important now, so you want to take that tower ASAP. Basically, don't be so self centered. The lanes don't belong to anyone. The jungler is trying to help your team as much as possible.