Unconventional way to stop flamers (as a bystander)

HalcyonDweller·10/17/2017, 7:36:08 PM·56 votes·2,309 views

If you're struggling with teammates who argue, it may help to learn how to diffuse arguments and blame-games.

A friend of mine solves it by taking the blame for everything, even if they obviously didn't do it.

Flamer: (to another player) "Dude what the fuck, why would you do that?" My friend: "hey, my bad dude, I didn't realize." Flamer: "No I'm talking to the other guy" My friend: (ignoring the reference to the other person) "yeah man, I made a huge mistake. I'm sorry, it won't happen again." Flamer: "... "

Works like a charm. It takes all the wind out of their sails. They got angry and were gearing up for a fight in chat, but then the wrong person took the blame and there's no simple way to continue flaming.

Plus it's the funniest shit ever to watch them stumble for a reason to stay angry and come up empty.

Give this a try and let me know if you have as much fun as we do.

EDIT: WARNING - Keep in mind if this does not work then the flamer's attention will be on you and you are likely to receive a lot of flame. If you're not ready to deal with that then you shouldn't attempt this. Best thing to do in that case is mute them.

45 Comments

Jo0o10/17/2017, 7:42:33 PM26 votes

Diffusers are great, kudos on finding one that works for you.

Life's too short to get mad during video games.

rtbf22561824110/17/2017, 10:11:36 PM9 votes

Interesting, although it sometimes can provoke them further, thinking you are stupid or something.

Depends on the person i suppose.

The Curator10/18/2017, 12:42:35 AM8 votes

I find that when I get insulted, flirting with them will diffuse them quite often. Be as lewd or perverted towards them as you like, but don't be vulgar. Make them uncomfortable, but don't say anything they can report you for.

Quoting song lyrics is also effective. Bonus points if it's a romance song.

stone the blacks10/18/2017, 12:40:18 AM5 votes

i like to respond to literally every thing they say with "k" and do not stop until they shut it other people will often join in as well

ˉˉˉˉˉˉ10/18/2017, 12:18:53 AM5 votes

Thanks, this is the type of shit that's actually and healthy for gameplay, rather than "hurr durr teammate fight is go MUUTE NOW!!!!!"

Muting doesn't solve shit, it only makes you ignorant to the problems your team has. If this had happened in the background while you had whole team muted, you wouldn't even know your teammates are tilting, and would not even have the chance to resolve it, and ultimately lose the game.

Sorry, anyway, nice post!

A Sealed Box10/18/2017, 6:22:15 AM3 votes

It's awesome to diffuse situations like that, but from my experience here, flamers in League want to burn down the entire team rather than just one person. I've tried it out and the flamer just went straight to me and started calling me names that they would never say to their mothers.

Project omen10/18/2017, 11:28:38 AM3 votes

Negative reinforcement's also good: Sometimes I say things like "stop being a whiny bitch and play, the game isn't over yet". Surprisingly, it works.

Around999People10/18/2017, 6:58:05 PM3 votes

Man I love this. I need to try it

500000000000000010/17/2017, 10:34:04 PM2 votes

Does it also work if they're mad at you?

Cowseed10/17/2017, 10:57:36 PM2 votes

Another way. Tell both participants in the flame war to go fuck themselves. They start working together to flame you now :D

Friendly Ram10/18/2017, 4:21:42 PM1 votes

my fav is"no habla stupidese en ingles por favor" then muting them.

BlakexEkalb10/17/2017, 10:36:37 PM1 votes

This doesn't work. The guy would just start calling you names the whole game and telling you how you're trash. If the guy in that game stopped talking, then he isn't one of the main toxic players out there (aka. Flaming his teammates and calling them trash, not caring what they say and do).

iamthegoatofwar10/17/2017, 11:12:45 PM1 votes

...I'm not trying to insult you or anything, but this doesn't really work as often as people would like...odds are <20%

SchmidttyGames10/18/2017, 11:34:40 PM1 votes

My answer always ends up being, "Because it was fun." Anything they say after that is irrelevant, because I have work to do on the rift and don't have time to chat. Odds are, that if you aren't in someones headset, nothing you say to them has any meaning anyway, so why bother at all? Play the game. Play your way. Have your fun.

"Life is to short to be pissed off all of the time."

Telephone Booth10/17/2017, 10:18:45 PM1 votes

Lol nice. I'm gonna use that.

SurvivorSeranok10/18/2017, 1:51:34 AM1 votes

Mute.