Looking for experienced jungler advice - when two lanes are in a mess in the first 8 minutes...

Looking for some experienced jungler advice. (Just had one of those games where you question why you play the game.)

I just had a normal game on my Elise where my team had a timid Vayne and Thresh on bot (versus a Sona and Twitch), and they got pushed in early. On top lane, I had a Galio who insisted on pushing top against an Irelia (and yes, dying). The Lux at mid was fine - I had dropped a ward on either side of mid while passing through, after having grabbed the red buff and chickens. Of course, with this being normals, there was a lack of warding by any of the players on my team - except for one control ward I had snuck near their red and my own stealth wards. At this time, I was barely keeping up with my farm compared with the opposing Nidalee.

Of course, the toplaner was constantly crying about the enemy jungler being on top and was either dying or forced into early recalls. (Incidentally, after checking the replay, the Nidalee he was complaining about was nowhere near top and was usually either farming or wandering near the mid and bot lanes through this whole fiasco.)

In the end, the Irelia ended up wandering to mid, leading to the Lux dying twice due to joint Talon/Irelia/Nida ganks. I couldn't do anything with the botlane, even though I managed to pull off one successful gank on the Sona - which was ks'ed by the Lux, of course. (They promptly died after not checking the minimap and ignoring my ward and pings that Talon, Nida and Twitch were about to gank bottom.)

Which lane would you pick to help? How would you handle this situation?