You only have access to one because you won't allow yourself to consider any other than your own.
You consider Natalie smug and disrespectful. That's you. Some people think she is beautiful, others average. You think she looks smug and disrespectful.
You have the right to think that, however you do not have the right to consider her opinion of beauty less than your own if she believes that is beautiful. She does not make your life ugly, you make it ugly because you won't just live your life and let others live theirs.
If someone wants to look ugly according to your idea of what is beautiful that's fine. It's their chosen aesthetic that they chose with their own free will.
If you raise your daughters to think on their own and follow their own free will they won't blindly follow societal norms. They might not choose something you like, but they will choose it because they think it is beautiful, not because other people think it's beautiful. That is what matters and that is what too many people forget, including yourself.