How do you stop yourself from being toxic?

The Highest Noon·Feb 15, 2017·1 votes·806 views

I could go into detail about what makes me toxic, but doesn't really matter. I need advice on counter-toxicity. Hallllp!

18 Comments

Fluffertons FuryFeb 15, 20171 votes

I practice self control.

SarutobiFeb 15, 20171 votes

Dont hit the enter key!

The Highest NoonFeb 15, 20171 votes

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Dont hit the enter key!

Sometimes I feel like I have to, though. Like, if I don't tell what they're doing wrong then they'll just keep doing it. No salt included, just a "can you not do this?" then comes the retort of insults. Que toxicity

ModPrandineFeb 15, 20171 votes

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Sometimes I feel like I have to, though. Like, if I don't tell what they're doing wrong then they'll just keep doing it. No salt included, just a "can you not do this?" then comes the retort of insults. Que toxicity

Even if you're nice about it if they're not receptive of it then just drop it and move on, and even mute them afterwards if you have to. If they want to listen they will, and if not they won't.

Anyways, I just rage at the screen or punch a pillow or my bed or something rather than typing it in the chat. By not actually wasting time typing out insults I ensure that I don't get punished for being a jerk to someone else.

The Highest NoonFeb 15, 20171 votes

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Even if you're nice about it if they're not receptive of it then just drop it and move on, and even mute them afterwards if you have to. If they want to listen they will, and if not they won't.

Anyways, I just rage at the screen or punch a pillow or my bed or something rather than typing it in the chat. By not actually wasting time typing out insults I ensure that I don't get punished for being a jerk to someone else.

That sounds like a bad idea for me. Only thing I've got to punch is a window and my computer. xD But I've tried muting and it's kinda working.

ModPrandineFeb 15, 2017

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That sounds like a bad idea for me. Only thing I've got to punch is a window and my computer. xD But I've tried muting and it's kinda working.

Well you could always try bringing in a pillow from your room or get one of those table-top punching bags that you can hit whenever you get mad or frustrated. Just a suggestion ;).

KORGtunersFeb 15, 20171 votes

Practice makes perfect.

RyukLikesApplesFeb 15, 20171 votes

Communicate with pings not text if at all possible. It's all too easy to let your frustrations show through your writing even if you think you're being constructive, so just don't start there. Inciting annoyance from spamming pings is far less serious than chat toxicity provided you don't overdo it.

The Highest NoonFeb 15, 20171 votes

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Communicate with pings not text if at all possible. It's all too easy to let your frustrations show through your writing even if you think you're being constructive, so just don't start there. Inciting annoyance from spamming pings is far less serious than chat toxicity provided you don't overdo it.

Then sometimes they say they won't do this or that because of pings. x_x

Magical PlayerFeb 15, 20171 votes

Learn to speak over typin :D Open discord or your choice of voice and just start talking, really just goto town and start describing every thing that is making you upset at something. Just keep spewing the aggression out the mouth and presto No more typign in chat :D

Bumek ReformedFeb 15, 20171 votes

same issue, i hope they implement the "self mute button" thingy, I just can't control myself.

RookPusherFeb 15, 20171 votes

Mute everyone immediately.

The Highest NoonFeb 15, 20171 votes

Like, unless the team is overwhelming the enemies and everyone is doing everything perfectly, there is always a toxicity in games I'm in, even when I choose to say nothing at all. I think I'll try to be unnecessarily positive.

Ambient SnowFeb 15, 20171 votes

Break open a bottle of Alcohol and enjoy ,

A glass of scotch really makes the game more enjoyable

FLY RedstarFeb 15, 20171 votes

You have to learn what the real game is. Solo q isn't about winning as many matches as possible. It's about who can endure the most shit the longest and still continue to improve. It doesn't matter if you win or lose the game as long as you are continually improving. The game is actively trying to give you a 50% win rate. That means if you win too many games the game itself begins to actively try and make you lose. The only way to climb is to continually improve yourself as a player. You don't need to give anyone any pointers, it's just a waste of time. Instead you that small amount of time to reflect on your own gameplay. Even if your the best player in the game and are 27/0/19 there are still things you can prolly improve on. Basically what I'm saying is your always going to lose games because of teammates, that's part of the game. But you will never improve if your always trying to coach them instead of yourself.

The Highest NoonFeb 15, 20171 votes

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You have to learn what the real game is. Solo q isn't about winning as many matches as possible. It's about who can endure the most shit the longest and still continue to improve. It doesn't matter if you win or lose the game as long as you are continually improving. The game is actively trying to give you a 50% win rate. That means if you win too many games the game itself begins to actively try and make you lose. The only way to climb is to continually improve yourself as a player. You don't need to give anyone any pointers, it's just a waste of time. Instead you that small amount of time to reflect on your own gameplay. Even if your the best player in the game and are 27/0/19 there are still things you can prolly improve on. Basically what I'm saying is your always going to lose games because of teammates, that's part of the game. But you will never improve if your always trying to coach them instead of yourself.

You know that doesn't work in a team-based game, right? This isn't a game that rewards individuals, it rewards wins. It doesn't reward cooperation, it rewards wins. It doesn't reward positiveness, improvement, self-reflection, and all that nonsense. It rewards wins. And as players, we don't give honors based on self-reflection. We give honors based on positiveness, teamwork, GIVING ADVICE, and playing well. And whether you have enough self-esteem to admit it or not, the fact is there ARE people who need coaching, and there ARE people who don't need to improve. You don't learn from making the same mistakes repeatedly, you learn because someone who may or may not be BETTER THAN YOU took the time during a game to explain why something works better than something else.

And as I mentioned above, this isn't an individual-rewarding game. It rewards the team. But I'm willing to change that if you can prove that it's better to be trapped in the muck of bronze V elo, where people blatantly ignore advice, positiveness, teamwork, pings, and refuse to help, and instead do whatever they want whenever they want no matter who it burdens.