Got trash talked; need help

SteelMankind·Nov 1, 2016·6 votes·1,021 views

Just got crushed by a Diamond 1 mid (I'm Silver II). After the game, he was so rude to me in the lobby. He called me trash, told me he would shit on me with any champ, that I should go back to bronze.

I had no idea how to respond. I rarely leave my house irl and always got along with my parents growing up, so I have NO IDEA how to handle confrontation. He was hurting my feelings so badly, I felt like I wanted to die. Instead of going out to buy a gun, I curled up into a ball and cried. How am I supposed to deal with people like that? He's a better player than me, and probably a happier person as well. Should I just kill myself? I can't think of any other way to escape this horrible shame I feel.

28 Comments

Ravenous HowlsNov 1, 20168 votes

I can't tell if this is a troll post or not but if this is in anyway serious you need to call and talk to someone and get some help immediately. Suicidal thoughts or actions are not a joke. Also ending your life over a game is never a worthy reaction to someone's bitter or hateful comments. Remember that person is actually just a horrid excuse for the human race who feels the need to validate their existence by hurting other people. That person is weak minded and shallow and you shouldn't allow them to get under your skin. Best of luck m8 and seriously talk to someone.

SteelMankindNov 1, 20162 votes

This is serious. First of all, the help you're describing is the worst possible thing that could happen to me; they'd put me in a center somehow and I'd never see the light of day again. Also, are you sure that person is a horrid excuse for the human race? He seemed so confident and secure; I'm sure he has plenty of friends and a successful job.

Ravenous HowlsNov 1, 20163 votes

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This is serious. First of all, the help you're describing is the worst possible thing that could happen to me; they'd put me in a center somehow and I'd never see the light of day again. Also, are you sure that person is a horrid excuse for the human race? He seemed so confident and secure; I'm sure he has plenty of friends and a successful job.

Listen m8,

If someone really feels the need to put other people, they can't see for that matter, down and invalidate them over playing a video game then yes they are a horrid excuse of a human being. In fact they are probably socially inept and sympathetically stunted as well. No matter how hard I stomp anyone in the game I never gloat. I say "GG WP" to all and leave it at that. I am a very successful individual, quite happy/confident with my life and have a lot of friends both in game and my work/social life.

Talking to someone does not condemn you to a life of solitary. But therapy or psychiatry can be truly enlightening and beneficial for your mental and spiritual self. By doing these things it is not an admission of being crazy or some shameful defect but an informed choice and desire to work through your problems and rise above your fears and clearly and rationally sort out your life.

I am speaking from experience as someone who worked in a hospital and works now as a firefighter. I see horrid stuff all the time and there's no shame in talking to someone about the things you have difficulty in dealing with alone.

h6Tr8Px9VoNov 1, 20161 votes

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He seemed so confident and secure; I'm sure he has plenty of friends and a successful job. That seems like sarcasm to me*[slayer-jinx-wink]*

SteelMankindNov 1, 20161 votes

It's not. In my experience, people who are happy will try to belittle those they look down upon to become more happy. IWillDominate is a good example of this - he has a good job and a girlfriend, and he makes fun of people.

LimmieNov 1, 20161 votes

Since when having a job and a girlfriend equates happiness? If that were so 90% of people would be walking smiles.

SteelMankindNov 2, 20161 votes

A GOOD job. I have a job (math teacher) but I hate it. And idk dude, I've been in a relationship a few times in my life, and I was so happy while it lasted. I know that people do have bad relationships, but I have trouble imagining it as someone who's single.

h6Tr8Px9VoNov 2, 20161 votes

You really think Dom is secure deep down? With all the pros constantly making fun of him, and not wanting to que with him? No, hes hurting just like all the other toxic people

nerak23Nov 1, 20164 votes

I can't tell if this is a troll post or not but if this is in anyway serious you need to call and talk to someone and get some help immediately. Suicidal thoughts or actions are not a joke.

Yes, I agree OP.

I would add though, I don't know why anyone thinks a person who rages on an internet game is successful and etc. as you describe. Sounds to me the person/people insulting you are the ones who feel the worst about their own lives.

Try to remember, most times when a person picks on another is because the bully is insecure and needs to control or make others feel bad and often the one's who make excuses about behavior.

Mute and move on or pick a less stressful game sorry but really This is a Game.

ComeOnAndSlamJamNov 1, 20164 votes

Try not being a bitch.

SteelMankindNov 1, 20161 votes

:P Can't change who I am

ShadòwNov 1, 20163 votes

git gud

Tyrone LannisterNov 1, 20163 votes

I feel bad for the D1 http://i.imgur.com/Divi9yo.png?1

If that guy has such low self esteem that he need to stomp silvers to feel good about himself, then he doesnt deserve that rank

Also like Lazarus said, get help. Suicide is no laughing matter man

ZielmannNov 1, 20163 votes

Relax :)

This is just some random person on the internet, who you're likely never going to have to interact with again. What they think of you doesn't matter at all. Also, remember they're the person feeling all high and mighty for beating up on somebody of considerably lesser skill (not meant as an insult, just stating the facts of the circumstance).

If they were causing problems in all chat in game, just drop in a quick report afterwards, and they'll get what's coming to them. That'll be easiest for you, because you can report them and just leave the post-game and not have to see whatever else they say. If they weren't chatting in-game and only did it in the post-game, you can (and should) still report it. But in this case, it'll be most helpful to copy some of what they're saying and paste it into the comments box when you go to report them (unfortunately this means you'll have to have taken some time and seen/read the crap they're saying). Generally, it's best to not even respond directly to people doing this.

Just understand that you're not in any real danger from people like this. They're like a little yappy dog with no teeth: super annoying but pose no threat outside of gumming on your ankles.

xompNov 1, 20163 votes

Lmfao, op is a beta cuck, how sad. I'm convinced this is one of those "ironic" shitposts, which is still a shitpost.

Tyrone LannisterNov 1, 20164 votes

Ok tyler1 fanboy

xompNov 1, 20163 votes

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Ok tyler1 fanboy

You catching those feels bruv?? hehe xd

VerxintNov 1, 20162 votes

Do you actually know what those words mean or are you just parroting them because they're what your favorite streamer says?

SteelMankindNov 1, 20162 votes

Don't see how this is irony, but I was just looking for attention, if that's what you mean. Now that I've read all the replies people have given me (and played a great game on the infallible clockwise-master Aurelion Sol), I feel much better. Thanks everyone!

XidphelNov 1, 20162 votes

Anyone know what he's saying?

ShinkoMinoriNov 1, 20162 votes

Did you get ptsd from that?

SteelMankindNov 1, 20162 votes

Also, why all the downvotes? Are you guys not believing me, or are you the sort of person who would make fun of people like me?

nerak23Nov 1, 20161 votes

Anyone know what he's saying?

Reverse psychology ???

Ruin LanceNov 1, 20161 votes

i think you should ignore him and carry on with your life.

it's just one person, don't let him put you down.

Hauling AsheNov 1, 20161 votes

I just got out of a normals game where a 2/14 Shyvana jg was screaming that we were bronze, said to report bot lane, and that she wasn't ganking or pushing with any of us because she "doesn't help bronzies :3". Did I mention she was 2/14? Our Poppy support who had a really rough start ended up doing better than her.

Whenever someone makes fun of you, try to find something else funny about the situation. Or just feel sad about that person because they probably make fun of other people because they're worthless bums who can't afford to make fun of themselves. People who are happy do not say those kinds of things. People who make bad choices and want someone else to feel worse than they do say those things.

And, most importantly, don't take anything to heart that someone says about you over a videogame. If you measure your life by your success in a videogame, then I genuinely feel bad that that is what you consider your accomplishment in life. Videogames are for fun, nothing more.

R18Nov 2, 20161 votes

Hes mean, but you're overreacting.

XelnexNov 2, 20161 votes

If you can't adapt, you'll fade away.

midnight oil24Nov 2, 20161 votes

Listen, I have social issues too. Hell, I hate humanity. But I find that the best thing to do is mute them, or, if you aren't at risk of getting banned, poke fun at them during the match. then report them and move on.