Farm junglers feels underwhelming to play

It's quite frustrating to play a farm/jungle control champion and not have any effect on the game whatsoever. Nearly all of the time the score is skewed 0-4 before you can even clear your first double buffs with at least one person on the losing side giving up before ten minutes spamming "ff @15" in chat". I can't express how many times I get blamed for not ganking before the average team level of both side are 4-5 despite sneaking a drag or stealing the enemy jungler's camps. Even if one lane is ganked, there's always the other lane that blames the farm orientated jungler for not ganking. I keep hearing "this season is about which team has the better jungler" which is true but only up to a point. A jungler can only have so much map pressure at once due to the limitation of their champion. If both teams laners are going even then yes, junglers will have a strong influence on a game but when there's a significant lead while the losing team has a quitting mentality, then I'm sorry but that jungler won't be able to do much. A jungler can carry a bad team with a "let's try our best and minimize our mistakes mentality" but we can't carry a semi-mechanically good team that can win but doesn't want to play out the game.

Usually the situation is something like "Hey guys, we got this, I scale hard into late game as tryn (jungle) and ziggs got the lane control so let's just stall the game" "Nah I we lost, u didn't gank my lane and now top is fed" -Swain goes off to push the entire game and dying everything he gets caught. "Swain pls, just group so we can win" "Ur a bad jungler we lose" "Swain we can't 5v5 or I can't split if you keep farming" .... -Swain continues pushing Then we slowly lose despite having a two dragon advantage because one person tilts instead of stalling the game to a point when it's winnable.