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What drives a person to verbally attack you?

Junsui Aoi··2 votes·374 views

I was playing with some friends last night in a normal draft. I was first time Naut jungle since I was last pick and other junglers were banned. (In the first place, I don't even jungle.) I figured okay, I'll try something new. I didn't know that people like to counter Naut very hard. And that the enemy bot lane would be constantly coming to kill me every time I was blue side (they won the lane I guess, but not THAT hard.). So early in the game I make one comment, that I'll end up seriously regretting. They invaded and the enemy alistar bucked me to safety. So I decided to joke and say "thanks ali! 6th man is always appreciated"

And then comes the rain of fire.

Seriously. They (two of the enemies) nit-picked everything, cussed me out, and attacked me in a personal nature. "Learn to smite noob, you ***** **** jungler" "**** u" "your ***** you ***"

(PS the learn to smite thing happened when I died at drag and drag was too high to smite. so.)

Yes I'm starring things out. But you get the gist of what happened for 20-30 minutes straight. Yes, I know I should have muted. I don't know why I didn't mute, I'm usually very good about that.

But seriously. What drives a person (in this case two people) to become so hateful over one remark. I've had that remark made to me when I'm alistar. I expect it. At my elo, it's normal for an ali to accidentally save someone. Obviously, I won't be doing it again. Heck, after that I'm thinking of just turning off all-chat despite the fact that I sometimes get to make friends with some of my opponents.

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FuryofThornsRedo2 votes

...despite the fact that I sometimes get to make friends with some of my opponents. = Truthful Honest Instincts Owned from Junsui Aoi. Fact of listening and defending one's own personal core of innate instincts reflecting your core value system is a magnificent Bottom-Line to own, and core values to own.

A strong learning lesson. Maybe could say the comment again next time with adding, "nice effort, when I champion alistar I sometimes think this about me and would like to share this with you 6th man, good going." Though if this is bantering, then that might be the specific of the lesson there alone. Could be possible the person Champion with Alistar, might have to have had tried to adhere to the punishment standards for conclusions in other games. There might be nothing wrong with what was shared, but try to remember people might be more sensitive with potential bantering chat sounds. Also remember if the chat did not get far out of hand verbally, they are allowed to own their opinions. I can see length of time to rain down a level of bombardment being mean.

As far as why they did? I am not them, and try to spend less time in owning negative thought processes in analysis.

From: FuryofThornsRedo

FuryofThornsRedo2 votes

Bantering or Ridicule are not those easy to welcome encouraging remarks to always be welcome and willing to receive inside of online video game chats.

Seems to me you own a conscience, which is a valuable asset to own and possess the capacity to listen to!

From: FuryofThornsRedo

Junsui Aoi2 votes

Thank you very much and I appreciate your eloquent and thought out reply. I understand bantering is not always welcome, and perhaps (most likely) I'll simply refrain from instigating that. Though if someone chooses to initiate that towards myself, I'll welcome it instead.

I understand not trying to entertain negative thought processes. I was fairly depressed this morning, and perhaps that wasn't the best question to ask, or the best way to see this experience.

Again, much appreciated. :)

Straw Hat Loki2 votes

In all honesty, I see at least a dozen similar "fails" from both sides of the Rift when I'm in game. If someone points it out, 90% of the time a failed flash or a missed smite or miscalculated headbutts or even Blitzcrank pulls which pull a Sejuani or Amumu into the team is something me and my friends comment on in a manner quiet similar to yours. Of the 90% times we make a mention of it by saying "nice pull xP" or "best flash NA" etc, we have yet to receive a response as such as yours.

I only play normals and have not played ranked yet but usually even the opposing player finds their mistake funny to some extent and laughs it off in my experience. Perhaps the ranked games are more serious with people extremely bent on not losing ELO and thus those mistakes frustrate them to a greater degree. If that does happen and they get really upset then a simple "dw I've done that loads of times too" or something similar to diffuse the situation on your part is all that's needed assuming a logical and understanding person is receiving your comments.

If someone still gets upset and starts to cuss and spews garbage at you (for what should have been a tension relieving moment in the game really) then it is a fault on their part. The game is meant to be enjoyed and if people think it is worth it to drop your own character and mannerism on a non-aggro comment such as that ... then they are playing for the wrong reasons.

You sound like a fun person and a great sport so keep that up and don't let oddballs get to you. I have seen much much worse saltiness and it is really just saddening that some people are taking something enjoyable and refreshing as this game and finding ways to bring anger, resentment and toxicity into it; I just pity them and move on.

If you want some games add me in game: Lokistic :3

Junsui Aoi1 votes

See! That's the thing, I've made that kinda comment before and usually I just get "lol" or "you're welcome :P"

Never seen that much rage o.o That was also in a norm, which is why it caught me so unawares.

SexyTaylorSwift1 votes

Nothing drives anyone to verbally attack me. You know why? I don't troll.

Junsui Aoi1 votes

Well. I didn't think that comment was 'troll.' It was to make light of a situation. If you consider that troll, then fine. And I wasn't asking what I do to make someone attack me, I was referring to their mindset.

I've also been yelled at for not even saying anything.

To me, troll means to constantly belittle someone. To constantly laugh in their face. To purposefully feed. To follow your teammate through the jungle as Syndra making sure you don't get a single farm, just because as the top laner you took about 5 farm to make sure that the turret didn't get it. So my apologies if I define troll differently, and attempt to joke or banter with people.

SexyTaylorSwift1 votes

I never said it was. I just said I don't troll in games so people don't verbally attack me, since that is where 95% of the "toxicity" in the game comes from.

Junsui Aoi1 votes

I never once said I was trolling though?

SexyTaylorSwift1 votes

You asked a question in your title, "what drives people to verbally attack you?" I said nothing drives people to verbally attack me since I do not troll. What part of this are you not following?

Centuros1 votes

Wait, the ENEMIES attacked you all game?

I've heard of allies getting on your case, but enemies?

Junsui Aoi1 votes

Eyup. Allies I'll try and reason with before I mute them if they prove unreasonable, but I think it's cause it came from the enemy that I was caught so off guard.

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