It is the moderator's role to remove posts that do not meet our definition of "civil discussion." We're not going to stop doing it just because there isn't unanimous agreement about what "civil" means in this context. We do have guiding principles, and we ask each other when it's borderline. If you have a problem with a specific removal or a specific moderator, we encourage you to join our discord and ask to speak to someone about it.
Vague statements pointing out that there may be disagreement about our methods isn't likely to change anything. It is inevitable that not everyone will agree on every part of the rules – nonetheless, we can't have a space like this without them. We're always willing to hear constructive feedback about the rules, even if that doesn't often result in a change.