My apologies if you felt lumped in with the crazy rape guys, that wasn't my intention at all.
And I see where you're coming from, and I think a lot of your concerns are definitely very valid, but there's sort of a timeframe for these kinds of things. Like a lot of people have pointed out, the retcon of the IoW was likely planned very far in advance, since a lot of champions like Lissandra and Yasuo have no reason to join, and were never provided one, Judgements stopped coming, etc. If you apply that same idea, there's probably a lot of stuff currently in the pipeline that might rely on there not being an IoW, and reverting the retcon now would shake that up like crazy.
It's probably a time and money issue now, and while I don't think the retcon was a good idea, I think it might be too late to change it. I think if it was going to get changed back, it would have been in about the first 2 weeks since the announcement, like the Jayce lore or the Katarina rewrite. I think the opinions of the majority of the Lore community are known, and have been for a while on this issue, and if they haven't swayed Riot by now, there's probably a bigger force at work. (Corporate mandates, etc.)
My stance on it is, and you can feel free to disagree as well, I totally understand, that at this point it's time to try and help preserve the identities of characters going into the new Lore, and pointing out what we think are the most important things to keep. Looking back to the Yi rework, the community let Riot know that they loved the swordboots, even if they didn't really make sense, so Yi kept his swordboots. For example, for me, the most important thing to keep going into the new Lore would be Kalamanda. Obviously that would have to be tweaked to remove the IoW involvement with the time bubble and such, but that provided a lot of character growth and story for Jarvan, Swain, Katarina, Talon, and Garen, which is something League is usually lacking in, since a lot of champs have a bio, and that's it.