A possibility that most people missed in Varus case

Every time when I see outrage of issues in video games like Varus case. Most people tend to forget that **Sexuality is fluid and ever-changing. **

You can see a lot of examples in your everyday life.

Some people married twice but ended up living with their same-sex couple.

The possibility is that maybe Kai or Valmar had his wife and child like the old lore. They just moved on and discovered a new relationship.