"Sportsmanlike players have more enjoyable games"

Naut·Apr 12, 2016·2 votes·972 views

As a player who hasn't unleashed his rage on another player for a very long time now, I can honestly say it's not true. I would be so much happier if I can verbally tear some of these fuckwits new assholes. It's more frustrating than I can express to know that they can be pricks all they want, but because I'm afraid of getting banned I can't give them what they deserve.

Edit: Just for clarity, I've never had any punishments for my behavior besides low priority queue once for 5 games, although admittedly I probably should have been punished back in the day. Nowadays I mostly say nothing the whole game aside from important info like flashes and such. I'd likely end up with a chat restriction rather than a ban if I did go off on someone, but that doesn't make taking their shit without retaliation any easier.

19 Comments

TwigglesApr 12, 20165 votes

but because I'm afraid of getting banned I can't give them what they deserve.

You're afraid of silently and rightfully reporting them? Because that's what they deserve. If you think flying off the handle at them is what they deserve or going to change how they behave, then you are sadly mistaken.

NautApr 12, 20161 votes

Perhaps it's not what they deserve, but it would definitely make me feel less helpless and satisfy that need for justice/revenge.

HexaDecimelApr 13, 20161 votes

Here is how I look at it. If a player is harassing me or trolling what is it that they are trying to do? You could say throw the game or make me lose, but deep down the core objective is to get a reaction out of me. They want to ruin my experience and get an emotional reaction out of me.

So at this point I have a couple decisions to make. Do I give them the reaction they want. Do I rage, fight, defend myself, and complain. Or do I stay silent and not give them the attention they are so desperately seeking. Do I mute them, refuse to stoop to their level, refuse to take the bait, and just report them at the end.

While all this is happening I am also aware of the rules. I might not agree with all of them but I cant control that so it doesn't really matter. First Rule is don't spread negativity, harassment, or hate speech, so I don't talk to the troll. The next rule is don't troll, afk, or intentionally feed even if you think that game is lost, so I keep playing to the best of my ability. The last rule is don't ask my team or the opposing team to report the troll, because one report per game has just as much weight as 9.

At this point I don't feel helpless, sure I can't control the outcome of the game but I know that by ignoring the troll I am starving him of the attention he desperately needs to feel good about himself. He is not going to get a reaction out of me, he is not going to get me banned, he is not going to get what he wants.

redniwediSApr 12, 20163 votes

Acting sportsmanlike and being sportsmanlike are two very different things. You are clearly the former, where as that quote refers to the latter.

NautApr 12, 20161 votes

Being sportsmanlike is a lot easier when people aren't berating me. I have no problem being nice to someone who isn't a dick, even if they're beating me.

ViashinoWizardApr 12, 20162 votes

The thing is, while it might feel good in that moment, not only will it probably make the rest of the game a more negative experience, indulging in anger like that actually reinforces it in your brain and gets you more worked up, making you angrier. It's why "beat up a pillow" therapy has become discredited, people end up unintentionally training themselves to associate physical violence with stress relief.

MasterSomethingApr 12, 20162 votes

I dunno, having a positive environment and constantly playing with really nice people makes the game really fun. Also, you cannot say that based on your experience alone that something is fact.

ModWulf HelhammerApr 12, 20161 votes

Then I reccomended you find another pastime. Particularly one where you don't have to interact with people, because you seem like you need it.

NautApr 12, 20161 votes

I'm not gonna lie, many, but not all, of my favourite moments in this game came from when I instantly /mute all at the beginning of a game. There have been other great moments that wouldn't have happened without other people though. For instance, my duo and I won a game with 3 randoms and because we got along so well we created a ranked team and played together for the rest of the season.

ZerfallenApr 12, 20161 votes

Buy a punching bag or workout a bit. Maybe a talk to a therapist or a friend.

AeroWaffleApr 12, 20161 votes

Technically the hint is still true then.

It's hard to have enjoyable games when you get banned from them.

NautApr 12, 20161 votes

Gave me a good chuckle, mate. I appreciate that.

Demon King MaouApr 12, 20161 votes

Yes... COME TO THE DARKSIDE The Grand Design..

Release your ANGER and become STRONG! But seriously though just get a stressball or punching bag and after a game or when you die and have a long deathtimer get up and go HAM on that bag

LeblancsterApr 12, 20161 votes

This is so true man, Riot Lyte is causing people psychological disorders by forcing them to put up with bullying, disrespect, verbal abuse, and not allowing you to defend yourself. This man should be jailed for creating such an abomination of a banning system.

NautApr 12, 20161 votes

I don't think Lyte is a bad person. I think he's doing his job the best way he knows how. I can't hate him for doing his job, whether or not I think what he's doing is right or necessary.

BlueThingamajigApr 13, 20161 votes

There is, you know, a mute button. There is no part of the game where you need to put up with bullying, disrespect, and verbal abuse.

Also, while I consider "grow up" to be one of the worst arguments I've ever heard, I do consider learning to deal with adversity a very important life skill. In this case, it is learning how to calmly use the tools available to appropriately better the situation. I.e. mute, report, and move on.

PrettyPoison 105Apr 14, 20161 votes

Why be mean when you can be meme? Remember, salt only stings an open wound, but an apache attack helicopter confuses the hell out of everyone. Tilt the enemy team by asking them to wake you up inside.

Ap Mid BurstApr 15, 20161 votes

I think rito means people who just naturally don't want to type in chat "UR BAD"

LaserDeathBladeApr 15, 20161 votes

Uh.. Pretty sure Riot wants you to change your perspective to be more positive, not restrain yourself from BMing in chat because there's already chat block for that.