How to deal with this???

I just want to play the game and not get harassed

How do I even go about this? Serious inquiry. I'm super communicative with pings, where I'm going, calling objectives, etc, but lately its harming my games more than its helping. How do I remain effective in communications and coordinate without tilting people?

Before you give me the obvious answer of "be nice" or whatever, I am. However more and more I'll ping a gank (playing jg) and get flamed for it. Ex. from my last game. I ping that im ganking top. I put a ping on him when I'm on the way. I put a target ping on the enemy. The enemy is shoved. I ping a third time exactly where I'm going as I'm appearing in lane.

My laner stands still. I solo atk but they get away obviously. I ping 1 question mark while returning to river like "yo why did you just stand still you ok?" and instantly its "If you don't stfu I'll int feed now just fkn play muted".

If I want to put serious practice in norms and say anything like please group or lets try to get X. No one listens. Then I usually get flamed for "trying hard" or "being serious in norms" and THEN they threaten to report me?

WTF am I doing wrong? Is it really my fault? Should I just use pings but not bank on anyone listening to them? Should I not play for the team anymore? I'm so confused as to how win games now, because If I solo push or do anything, I get swarmed. However if I try and follow my team mates or rally them they A.) don't listen or B.) tell me fuk off.

Help? Ideas? Suggestions?

I want to climb but I'm at loss for where to go