This is not a "Toxic players are awful" thread. This is a love the community thread.

Oelyk··20 votes·1,586 views

Hi all! My name is Lazy cat and I've played this game about the time Spirit Guard Udyr was released(Late season 3). I mained top though a majority of my League of Legends career, although I have moved into mid lane as of recently. In real life I am a high school senior everyday asian guy who likes games.

I just wanted to make this post today because of recently, I have been really feeling the cruel edge of life and league is really a part of me that make's me feel, even if only a little bit, better mentally. This also made me more sensitive to my actions, my instinct, and my awareness to the players around me. I think League of Legends is a great game, and I love it dearly. However it has come to my attention that it's also not an asylum.

There are people in this world who somehow where influenced in such a way that they will go out of there way to harm others though, and that's just a fact of what it is. This negativity seeps into other players and this hatred is redirected onto other players to taint others. I believe there are no league players who were not once a good player, only those who bring hatred into the game.

The thing is there is no one bringing positivity into this game. A few days ago, I was talking to my favorite teacher, 37 year old eccentric asian guy named Kenny and he said to me: "(my name), there is nothing you can do to disappoint me." This quote really made me think about people. My negative view of the world, human interaction, and actions towards me, along with my raging low self esteem made every interaction, not matter the intention to help or hinder, seem like an attack, a provocation, an invitation to close out the world and idle alone in a quiet space in my own lonesome.

I carried this mentality to my league games that night. My team could never let me down, And I would always let them know that I trusted and cared about them. Before you think this is really weird and down vote, I say I may have not loved them, but I still said I loved and appreciated them, and repeated the kind words of Kenny to every one. I congratulated them when they got a kill, I thanked them when they ganked for me. I congratulated the enemy team to, but only when they killed me.

The expierience was completely different. I noticed that I felt better about myself, but also about others. They were not just "that Janna Jungle," they were a person, who for some reason decided to play jungle Janna and take a questionable build path, who was on the other side of the screen, playing a game we all love and enjoy. We must remember that conflict only brings negative emotions, while the low effort compliment, as simple as "NJ Bot!" goes a long way.

We must remember that we are all people, be it one way or another we are different, but we must not attack each other simply because of differences, of actions, or of the way they communicate.

I like to think that by me being unconditionally positive and kind that I made the game, no matter how bad, a better expierience for my fellow team mates. I share this with you, the boards, because change does not come without power, and power is in numbers. Condemning and attacking others only leads to more and more negativity, were as if we praise, congratulate, and appreciate others, we can change the entire expierience.

I thank you for your time, and I wish you the best of luck in all your games.

With best regards,

Lazy Cat

22 Comments

Crett6 votes

rock on

Magical Player5 votes

[zombie-nunu-hearts]

TyrekGoldenspear3 votes

[slayer-pantheon-thumbs]

LawUrDepravdHart3 votes

It's tough to stay positive when there's so much negativity nowadays. I'd like to learn from your example and try to apply your mindset to my own games. There are times where it's tempting to give up or flame a teammate, but doing so would likely affect the quality of my own gameplay as well. Keep it up!

Oelyk3 votes

Exercising kindness and support leads it to become habit.

So long as you are aware of your temptation to flame, aware of the reaction you'll get, and the ultimately know what the result of such negativity will be, you are already going in the right direction.

Unconditional kindness and trust, and though your team mates may fail to live up to high standards, or fail to behave, there is great satisfaction in remaining positive, because people will recognize and hopefully follow such behavior. No one loves conflict, they only go into battle mode when they feel threatened or frustrated. Times like these it's better to keep a stable mind, because no matter what the consequences, kindness is the best answer in the long run.

INoble KnightI3 votes

Hey if you ever need a random friend to play with I'll be honored to play with you. Reading this made me realize how much negativity I see in games and I'd love to see some honest kindness for once. Hell it may even make me a better person to see it as well. This extends to everyone else here :D

Oelyk2 votes

I more than welcome playing with you! I am glad someone asked!

Out of curiosity, what lane do you play most?

I, for one, play a majority of mid and top lane, does this conflict with your interests?

INoble KnightI1 votes

Mostly Jungle and Top but in order it's Jungle, Top, Mid, Support, and ADC. Trust me I'm a terrible ADC

Wiggle Dat Butt2 votes

LOL, another clown fishing for upvotes

Oelyk11 votes

I apologize if my behavior seemed fraudulent, but I have my best intentions at heart. You don't have to pay anything for kindness, and there for, I want you to know that I appreciate you speak your feelings. I will try harder in the future. Thank you.

NvestmentPlanker3 votes

lol. the definition of killing them with kindness. holy

Ryomaru Reaper4 votes

Another lame-o trying to downgrade kidness, to jealousy.

Is it hard to be a douche-nozzle, or you just don't want a better community?

Which one is it?

ModKnightsKemplar2 votes

Preach on, Lazy Cat. I try to stay positive in my games in the last year, and it's also really improved my experience. This game is a lot more fun when you focus on the positives, and you win more, too.

Great Muta2 votes

How much did Riot pay you to post this?

Oelyk2 votes

Not a dime, but I will not deny there was a purpose to writing this that may have been my own selfishness, but also to share a message, a mindset, that is so often forgotten that we begin to spiral and funnel into a pit of negativity.

Kindness costs us nothing, but is worth more than gold.

Anyone who has been impacted by this thread and remembers it makes me equally happy and proud that maybe I might have made the world a slightly more enjoyable place, even on microscopic scale.

boo9102 votes

thank you for posting this lazy cat

also quick question

how many people in this game are really toxic

Ive only met one toxic player. ever

Oelyk1 votes

I have been playing for quiet a while now, so I have encountered a fair amount of people who can be classified as toxic, such that they are intentionally sabotaging a game in hopes of a negative reaction from any of the players in that game. Examples include Intentionally feeding, verbal assault/abuse, trolling, and so on.

I cannot deny that I was not always a kind person, and I have had my fair share of frustration too, but ultimately I realized that focusing on the negatives makes me forget about the positives. I believe toxicity is born from toxicity, like an acid slowly corroding everything in its path in a chain-like style. People expierience toxicity, and hence the way they act and treat others is in retaliation to the negatives they experienced. That's why I believe in kindness and trust, If they can be complimented, to feel good, and to understand that your team is supportive and not potential enemies, that maybe, just maybe they can carry that kindness into there next game and so forth. it is so easy to forget kindness in the midst of strangers, to abuse incognito status to attack others so that this negativity grows and grows to define the very norms they play by. I don't want the norms to be negativity, I want it to be positivity so that the expierience is possible for every one, because that's what games are for.

Edit: I am so sorry, I failed to directly answer your question, but If I had to guess, I would say a lot of people fall under the profile title of toxic, and I am afraid it is still growing. I also believe that no one started toxic, but rather was exposed to it, and in hence they are good people and condemning and calling them out in the first place only places them deeper and deeper into toxicity, because they want to protect themselves from people who attack them, in the most effective way they know how.

Raven Redeemed2 votes

Nice post. If people are making mistakes on your team I find it best to focus on your team's win condition instead of blaming them. Is my adc being too aggressive during fights? Then I'll position myself so that I can focus on peeling for them. Is Riven tilted and afk farming top? I can delay fights as much as possible or push out bot lane if the enemy goes for her.

Of course you can try to kindly offer advice through chat, but a lot of people are used to being raged at and don't like being told how to play so that does not always work out. Blame, rage, and passive aggression (including ping spam) will only decrease you chance on winning not to mention make the world a darker place.

Sweet Butt2 votes

Take that love and shove it where the sun doesn't shine

ModPeriscope2 votes

Feels good when you hear "I love you (Usually Nami, but has been raka)"

AhmCha2 votes

Damn, I've noticed myself becoming more and more toxic in-game lately and now I actually want to nip that in the bud. Happy days friend, you're doing a good thing.

starchîld1 votes

It's people like you that keep me invested!! Love the positivity!!!

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