Y'know what? I go out of my way to be polite and respectful to you, but just this once, I'm gonna say exactly what I think, the way I think it:
I'm absolutely fucking sick of you making ridiculous assumptions about my morality. I'm sick of your holier-than-thou mentality, and I'm sick of you acting like what you think is somehow the same as what is, purely by virtue of you thinking it. It's utterly ridiculous.
That said, allow me to address your specific statements to ensure clarity.
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If you get a sense of accomplishment out of others' misfortune, then I guess there's just a fundamental moral difference between us.
You're assuming that the sense of accomplishment comes from the misfortune. I contend - as I've stated before - that the sense of accomplishment comes from the prevention of future problems.
And yeah, maybe there's some vindictiveness in their words. But humans are complex creatures, fully capable of experience and recognizing multiple emotional states at the same time. To assume that the entirety of that can be summed up in such a simple concept as "spite" is foolish and petty.
When a person does something bad and gets what is coming to them I think to myself 'damn, I wish I could've done something to prevent that from being necessary' not 'hahahahahaha he got what's coming to him! WHAT A JERK! MWAHAHA'. There's no satisfaction in it for me. Because, while I accept its necessity, I don't see it as a positive. I see it as a failure that it was necessary in the first place.
And what's wrong with, "Well, that sucks, but at least he won't be bothering anyone else?"
Or, "Thank God, after being matched with that guy 3 times in a row, I was worried about having to deal with him again."
Or, "At least it's done."
Let me try and be really clear, here: your emotional reaction to this is not the only morally correct one, nor is it the only reasonable or rational one.
It's a pity you see other people having bad things happen to them, deserved or otherwise, as a positive. As an accomplishment. The accomplishments are when I manage to take someone who is acting toxic and help them through it so they can become productive. THAT is where there is real accomplishment, not in letting them get to the point the system needs to take a hand in it.
I didn't say I saw it as a positive. I never actually said a word about how I saw that specific situation. I was, however, clearly stating that when I see what other people are saying, I am seeing them expressing a sense of accomplishment.
You talk about accomplishment like it's a binary thing. Like you can't have scales of accomplishment. Like you can't feel good about a partial victory: "I didn't manage to calm him down, but at least he can't hurt anyone else for a while." Except people can. People can choose to recognize the positive of a bad situation. There's a cliche for it and everything.