And you can wrap it in whatever "to paint a narrative" package you want, it's still bullshit under that shiny wrapper.
thats the point of their lawsuit, though. to expose the sexist climate and practices of the company as a whole. so they're trying to put down every instance of that they can.
People might talk about who they think looks cute/hot/sexy or whatever. It's normal, and again not limited to guys. Is keeping a list between dudes about it sad? yeah, it's absolutely pathetic and most guys won't even agree on a list.
you're right, I think most people at least have a mental ""list"" of what friends they would smash given the chance. i think thats fairly normal, as its just personal opinion yknow? but thats taken to a much more serious level when you start making an 'official company list' of the hottest female employees and forwarding it around the office regularly (which they allege on page 6, point 15: subsections a. and b.) and describing how you would penetrate her.
like... gross. thats horrible.
anyways.
if i'm talking to ma man george for example and i make a dick joke, that doesn't affect elaine one bit. She has nothing to do with that conversation. If she listened to my private conversation and gets offended, that's her problem.
You can't expect a group to accomodate you and only you. There's gonna be shit you like they don't like and vice versa.
Some of my friends love fart jokes for example, so i let em do that shit in their house. But in my house you don't.
You can ask them to stop, they might, they might not. But nowhere have i read anything about them being asked to stop.
I was going to go through and make my own remarks and counterpoints here, but I feel like at that point we would be doing what you're saying the defendant should stop doing.
i'd like to leave you with this scenario: say you've been assaulted by a knife-wielding man on the street at night. he leaves a nasty gash on your arm, roughs you up, and makes off with your purse or wallet that has your important stuff in it. you'd probably want to file a report with the police, right? lets say you do; and they request a report of the crime committed.
imagine that before he started slashing at you and beating you up, he was throwing a barrage of insults and cuss words at you (any youd like to imagine.) being really really explicit. you'd probably include that in the report, right? youd say "before he slashed at me and beat me senseless, he was screaming profanities at me." on it's own, thats not really a huge thing to be upset about. you get insults hurled at you all the time on the internet, and even at some jobs.
but you'd still include it because it was related to the crime, right? maybe, maybe not. but the thing is that you wouldn't have your legitimacy questioned because you 'included something that wasn't even important" in your report.
in the end it isn't up to us anyway, i just get a bit upset at people not taking things like this seriously