There is no "pause" button

edgy xayah main1·Jun 4, 2017·7 votes·878 views

Of all the times I have left matches, I have only left 1 match because of a different reason. All the other times were because of my parents. My parents aren't happy with the fact that I am a gamer girl. They are the stereotypical Asians, and they are always encouraging me to quit my addiction. I admit that I am addicted, but maybe their strict rules is what lead me to it. At one point, they made me delete it, and I didn't. I just hid the file on th e desktop screen. I played whenever I had the chance, which was when they would leave me at home or they were napping. I played under constant pressure, fearing that they would catch me (they have a cam to watch me :/), and I would get in H U G E trouble. And they did, 3 times. Just recently, they finally let me play it. For 1 hour. I play 2 normals before going on to a ranked. On my team was a fizz, who was on his promos, and he was really nice, so I when my parents made me quit, I was horrified. Ok so I got a leaverbuster, whatever. But what really got me was the fizz who was on his promos. He didn't deserve it. So what I'm trying to say? Parents, please don't make your change children dc in the middle of the game. It not only hurts them, but their team as well. This goes for other online games as well. Understand that games can last from 30 mins to maybe an hour. A good solution to that is maybe instead of a time limit (for ex, 2 hours a day) maybe try something like 3 games a day.
I know my argument doesn't seem strong enough, but please, for the sake of summoners on the rift... Parents, don't make your children dc in the middle of a game. Read this letter for a more valid argument https://boards.na.leagueoflegends.com/en/c/miscellaneous/bEhf1EPt-open-letter-to-parents-of-league-of-legends-players Next time I'm getting to RP I'm gifting fizz (I'm gonna give screenshot of it) for the inconvenience I caused :((

18 Comments

oSEXYPLATYPUSoJun 4, 20173 votes

sorry your parents are so harsh on you... but if you are addicted maybe they are right to watch you... but there is no way for riot to put a pause in the game for 1 person to hold up a game indefinitely while 9 others wait. it sucks as it is for afks. trolls and all the other bs in game.

edgy xayah main1Jun 4, 20172 votes

[{quoted}](name=MrFawknSunshine ,realm=NA,application-id=cIfEodbz,discussion-id=hqJEMbNa,comment-id=0001,timestamp=2017-06-04T04:07:24.602+0000)

sorry your parents are so harsh on you... but if you are addicted maybe they are right to watch you... but there is no way for riot to put a pause in the game for 1 person to hold up a game indefinitely while 9 others wait. it sucks as it is for afks. trolls and all the other bs in game.

If they had let me play with a normal schedule, I wouldn't be so addicted. When I'm not allowed to play, it increases my want to, therefore causi ng me to be addicted

oSEXYPLATYPUSoJun 4, 20171 votes

i understand completely , but i cant help you ...

i dont know your age... but maybe if you talk to them and as long as you make your grades. do what other bs they want you to , they should allow you to have the freedom to play.

edgy xayah main1Jun 4, 20173 votes

[{quoted}](name=MrFawknSunshine ,realm=NA,application-id=cIfEodbz,discussion-id=hqJEMbNa,comment-id=000100000000,timestamp=2017-06-04T04:28:27.577+0000)

i understand completely , but i cant help you ...

i dont know your age... but maybe if you talk to them and as long as you make your grades. do what other bs they want you to , they should allow you to have the freedom to play.

Either way, the point of this article was to hope that parents don't force their kids off their computers in the middle of the match. It's not like any parents will read this but at least some of the word will spread around.

oSEXYPLATYPUSoJun 4, 20173 votes

sadly they dont understand that over controlling of a child is what causes a child to lash out, or do things behind their back... for you its league... well for now... but later ... smoking, drinking , drugs, sex and so on...

seen it , hell i did it lol

reminds me of a girl i dated back in highschool who had strict parents she was asian... she ended up doing alot of bad things for a girl her age

IcyPepperJun 4, 20172 votes

My parents aren't happy with the fact that I am a gamer girl. They are the stereotypical Asians, and they are always encouraging me to quit my addiction.

It'd be one thing if they encouraged moderation, but that's not the vibe I'm getting...

anankeJun 4, 20171 votes

Hold on, your parents have a camera to watch you?

edgy xayah main1Jun 4, 20175 votes

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Hold on, your parents have a camera to watch you?

Stupid, right?

anankeJun 4, 20173 votes

Uh, that's definitely not normal and in my personal opinion not okay at all. Are your parents the sort to talk to you about things? If so, I would recommend sitting down and having a discussion about this. First off, I'm going off of the assumption that the camera's set up in your room as a sort of security camera that they can take and watch the footage if they want (because having a camera streaming video of your room in real-time is just too not okay for me). You can explain to them that it is an online game and therefore there is no pause button like in Mario or whatever, and make your previous suggestion that they put a game limit on you. When they ask you how they're supposed to enforce the limit without a camera, you can suggest that you show them your match history or something as proof of your activity. Also, I do feel like it would be a good idea to show them the post you linked in your original post.

HawckeyJun 4, 20171 votes

Maybe there is a reason why Asians are much more disciplined on average than others, so you shouldn't step into their parenting with your opinions lmao. Strictness is good in a lot of cases

anankeJun 4, 20174 votes

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Maybe there is a reason why Asians are much more disciplined on average than others, so you shouldn't step into their parenting with your opinions lmao. Strictness is good in a lot of cases

Um... I'm making suggestions as to how the original poster can right her situation by making a deal that would be beneficial to both parties. Kids should have the right to sufficient privacy - regardless of their race. I do acknowledge that I am not a parent, nor am I planning to be in the near future at least, but I'm pretty sure it can be agreed upon that literally recording your kids' activity is a severe invasion of privacy and should not be regarded as acceptable with very few exceptions. Baby monitors are for babies.

edgy xayah main1Jun 4, 20172 votes

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I wish I could sit down with them and explain to them that league doesn't work that way, and like I said before, my parents aren't too hot on me gaming. And yes, they do place a camera near my computer so they can monitor what I'm doing:///

anankeJun 4, 20171 votes

That's definitely unfortunate. There's really no way I can be of help then, I can't just call up your parents and say 'I stumbled upon your daughter's post on the League forums and I have some suggestions for your parenting'. I guess for now it would be your best option to try and show your parents that you can be trusted and that playing video games (in moderation) isn't a bad thing. Again, this is just my own personal advice and I'm not trying to force you to follow it.

zero356Jun 4, 20171 votes

~~You is gamer grill?~~

But for real, sounds like you have a bad case of wanting to press the big red button that says do not press. Of course, it would be easier if there were buttons you could push, but this metaphor is going nowhere

But I think this is something all parents can learn from. My dad (great dad on the whole) but I've stopped trying to interact with him about videogames because he doesn't get it. I can explain how the game works, but he just asks again. and again. and again A bigger pet peeve is people not realizing the game takes concentration and asking me questions while I'm playing. Even in games you can pause, breaking the flow of action could prove fatal.

As for pausing as whole, not having a set time frame is also a problem. But that's more just a complexity added to the larger issue.

The best solution I've seen is doing everything else before When I was still in high school, I started playing at like 8 after doing homework, eating, and any chores my parents wanted (I knew they wouldn't ask for anything else after).

TerozuJun 5, 20171 votes

There TECHNICALLY is; /pause, not sure what it does since it simply says sending pause request and that's it...

KoKobotoJun 5, 20171 votes

Honestly just move out and live on your own. Your parents seem like assholes just leave them, let them be all dictator on your sibling or something.

GET OUTTTA THERE.

I Stealth IJun 5, 20171 votes

Same problem, parents only let me play an hour on Friday and Saturday. Like, on the dot 60 Min. I gotta be real careful. Finally, someone who understands my pain