Screw it, I'm changing salt to sugar.

Immortal Fenix··19 votes·1,357 views

I'm going to be honest. I like to pretend that I'm a good League player and that I'm full of sunshine and sprinkles and giggles, but I'm not. I, like a -lot-... Not all, not most, but A LOT of League players am incredibly and increasingly toxic the more I play League. Excuse time? Nope. If I'm tired and toxic, I should just not play and get rest. Hungry and toxic? I should stop playing, eat, and chill. Toxic from dealing with toxicity, you say?

Well that's simple. Use 'ignore' and continue playing.

Truth is, I'm not even that great a player. On a good day, I'm anywhere from Silver III to Gold V. On a bad day? Wood V to Bronze I. Most of my days are bad days. I rage at top, I rage at mid, I rage at jungle or bot. Whatever it is, it's not me, and it's their fault. In some cases, I'm (Partially.) correct. In most, I'm just toxic 'cause I'm loosing.

So to this I say no more. No more! I'm a self-proclaimed baker, so I'm going to turn this salty and toxic sourbread into a wonderful cupcake. It's not going to be easy. Or fast. Or pleasant. But I -will- do it, or I'll stop playing League. Other people don't need to suffer because I'm too much of a coward to try and change how I react, and other people do not need to be put down because I'm being toxic. With this in mind, how about a list of things I'm going to try, and suggest trying for other people?

1: Take a breath when you're losing lane. It's frustrating to me when I get wiped in lane, be it from amazing ganks or just not being able to match the laner's skill. Take a breath, step back from the computer for a moment if you need to. A chipped tower is better than a bad game. Try to approach the problem from a new angle, and work WITH your team to secure a turnaround.

2: Team isn't cooperating? Take a breath, let it go. This is what gets me more than anything. I've had teams that work well for the first 4 minutes, but utterly fall apart when faced with a team that has superior teamwork. Just do your best, make smart ping calls, and warn them away from bad mistakes. Like Baron at 15 minutes with 3 people and the enemy team is all up.

3: If you don't feel like you can take a bad game, DON'T PLAY IT! It's a simple rule, but a hard one to follow. I've often put myself into game after game because I've wanted to grind for X, or help Y friend with their objectives... But if you don't feel like the game, nothing is going to turn you salty and sour faster than playing ANOTHER game! Learn your own limits, and take ample breaks between games. Don't let the frustration build.

4: It helps to have some physical relief. Only thing I can suggest here is that, instead of being toxic... Punch a pillow, scream at a wall, or rip up an old T-shirt. Nothing makes me angrier than when I don't do anything and just let it all build up. Anything is better than demolishing my mouse and keypad every time I throw my mouse down after failing miserably at my job.

5: Admit defeat, not surrender. Team doesn't want to surrender 1/4? Probably a reason to it! Admit that you're doing something wrong and that your team MIGHT be able to pull through because -they- haven't given up hope. I've won (And lost.) games that were so bad, we had two inhibitors down. Even if you're definitely losing, don't blame your team for not surrendering 2/3. Just take a breath, try to get those last few kills, and take a break after the game to cool down.

Moral of the story is to not let yourself get too worked up. Irelia toplane? "Well damn... Jungler, can I get some early help?" Jungler doesn't help, then just work with what you have and let him pull the rest of the team through to carry their lanes. Some people will always be salty / sour / even toxic... But don't let yourself fall into that category even if other people have. This community is what -we- make it.

P.S.: This is meant more for myself than anyone else, but if it helps you... Yay!

Edit 1: It's been a couple of days, and I have to say... It's working! Well, it's working well enough that I haven't been reported in a couple of days. I still find it hard to suppress the dry, sarcastic side. But hey! Progress is progress.

24 Comments

HungryJack61913 votes

Tryndamere Wait, so I'm not supposed to rage?

Immortal Fenix2 votes

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Tryndamere Wait, so I'm not supposed to rage?

It's okay, we'll make an exception but ONLY because of gameplay mechanics.

Cheeseyoger13 votes

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Tryndamere Wait, so I'm not supposed to rage?

Rage at your challenges, not at your challengers! Braum

redniwediS7 votes

The biggest thing that helps me is having people to talk to in skype while I play. I get pretty darn salty when I start making mistakes and bad judgements, and that ends up causing even more mistakes and bad judgements, so being able to actively vent to people without using the in game chat makes a world of difference.

I definitely like your points though. I might have to link a few friends to this and hope they take it to heart.

Immortal Fenix5 votes

That's part of the (other.) reasons I made this! I typically game with one person in particular, and I was a total -ass- to them after over 4 hours of League last night. We had lost 3-4 matches in a row, and I finally just said 'Screw you, screw these guys, I don't care if you're going to get your T3 icon or GP skin, I'm done.' And I don't want to be like that to ANYONE in this community, much less my -friends-. Kind of an eye-opener after browsing the forums this evening, and seeing some of the friendly people and kind acts they commit.

Immortal Fenix4 votes

Oh, and Pantheon approves this post.

Jubbinaut3 votes

Well said!

Best of luck to you, and if you ever need someone to rant about a rough game with, feel free to drop a line my way. I'm big on private commiseration.

Cheeseyoger3 votes

Well said! I've seen a few people on the boards accepting and facing their toxicity and it really makes me feel good about the future of the league community.

I know the salt can be real sometimes and that frustration can be nearly insurmountable at times, so if you want another person to keep you honest, or just to be patient with you, feel free to hit me up at Cheeseyoger

GLHF ^.^

TurquoiseYoshi2 votes

I had a pretty bad game earlier today where their Zed got fed and somehow their Trynd got a penta. I just sat back, farmed bot lane, and let people come at me. I even got a couple of solo kills on Zed because I fight under my turrets pretty well. We still lost, but I had some fun.

Immortal Fenix1 votes

I had one not too dissimilar. Teambuilder with a troll blitzcrank support... that I picked. It was SO HARD to not say very mean things to the blitz, or the enemy team... Their Pantheon kept making obscure tumblr quotes because I mentioned 'senpai' in the beginning. Moral of the story: If you KNOW you're going to do bad, embrace it and do the best you can. I came out 8/16 in the end, mostly because I was getting caught out by a Pantheon that just would -not- stop. Musta had CDR runes...

TurquoiseYoshi2 votes

I played a match with a full AP support Blitz. He did very little, but what he did do was funny.

And FYI, this AP Blitz was my friend playing with me for a few games.

CookieKitKat2 votes

I had to bookmark this. I need to read this more than once every hour. Great post!!

Immortal Fenix1 votes

It's what I have this post here for. ^-^ It's tough for me, and I find myself slipping back into the mentality every game I play with trolls and teams that just don't care... But it's working, slowly.

Wheatloaf2 votes

The mindset I like to keep is, "Yeah, I didn't play terribly, I may have even played the best in that game... but I still fucked up, right? I saw that fight turning bad, but went in anyway. I missed some cs in lane and couldn't buy all the items I needed when I went back. Maybe if I had done better I could have carried? Let's try to test that theory."

If you can't change something, accept it as fact. Change what you can. And in League, that'd be you yourself.

CookieKitKat1 votes

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The mindset I like to keep is, "Yeah, I didn't play terribly, I may have even played the best in that game... but I still fucked up, right? I saw that fight turning bad, but went in anyway. I missed some cs in lane and couldn't buy all the items I needed when I went back. Maybe if I had done better I could have carried? Let's try to test that theory."

If you can't change something, accept it as fact. Change what you can. And in League, that'd be you yourself.

Same. After I die I always question myself as to why I died and what I could've done to prevent it.

gubigubi2 votes

** 5: Admit defeat, not surrender.**

Best advise you can give. I may rage, put up an /ff, say its gg 12 minutes in, but If my team doesn't surrender I will play until the nexus explodes.

Immortal Fenix1 votes

This in it's entirety. Even if I'm being toxic as all hell to come, I have only truly given up on a small handfull of matches in my three or so years here. Played an entire co-op game where it was just me and a friend against intermediate bots. We lost, but only barely... 2v4 teamfights were happening left and right. I just couldn't push hard enough with Malphite.

The best thing about this is that we were duo-teamed with Aatrox / Malph mecha skins. Jaegers OP.

Hello I am Bird2 votes

Hey, I have played with you in game, you really aren't that bad of a player.

Keep an optimistic view, but not a narcissistic one is what I say.

Immortal Fenix1 votes

Oh trust me, I'm a lot more toxic than I seem when it comes down to it. Just because someone sees me on a good day doesn't change who I am 75% of the time.

EL HAMSTERO1 votes

don't change who you are for a video game. be yourself. everyone is beautiful in their own way.

DeadlyQuestion1 votes

Rubberband on the wrist. Snap yourself every time you feel the rage building. Not saying it's going to work for everyone but it helps me. I don't even grumble audibly anymore. When my friends in game go "why would you do something so stupid" I reply "Because I'm bad at this game. Don't play with me if you don't want to deal with the suck" and they continue to invite me anyway.

Immortal Fenix1 votes

Pain is bad, and usually causes me to just get angrier. ;v;

HayRoss1 votes

Gangplank Just hurl pirate insults (Only works as Gangplank)

S2C2Xd9KOy1 votes

A tutorial on how to avoid every negative attitude report: "OI M8 STOP FEEDING THE FUCKIN FISHES" .

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