I got my Gf into league she was super pumped she loved playing it with me until PVP... even in early level People are toxic and yelling insults and telling everyone is bad... How did this community became so toxic.... Why won't people help eachother instead of being mean ?... I'm starting to regret getting her into league
I AM VBAD11 votesafter a while you build up a resistance. I barely notice if someone is insulting me anymore except when it makes me laugh. if she really cant handle it just have her mute everyone.
Zrima9 votesWhile that might work, while you can mute people, while you can 'build a resistance' against bad behavior, that is not how it's supposed to be. League of Legends is a game, a game with multiple aspects, and while I understand the stress there might be in ranked, there are several other gamemodes in this game.
These gamemodes were made to have fun.
Nobody can win every game, and a losing player can only play worse if somebody snaps at him or her. They need advices, not insults.
Besides, this game went downhill since the creation of the holy meta. You have to play the way of the masters, or else!!! Riot never knew if they should enforce the meta or no, and in the end, I think they just gave up and followed the trend. In my honest opinion, you should be able to play whatever, wherever, and as long as you're not trying to lose a game purposely, you should never be punished, whether by Riot or by other players.
I think this game needs some dedicated players, that would help the new one that are taking their first steps, and another group of players acting as moderators, punishing the offenders and rewarding the helpful players. That would probably be abused sometimes, what isn't? But I'm pretty sure that would help that game, it needs an intervention, the community is way too 'toxic' (i hate that word), we need some exemplars, and probably a lot of moderators.
You might say I'm not reasonable, but I have seen communities of some games getting better in 2 or 3 days, just after getting such a system of moderation and reward.
Tl;dr : this community could be better with some self moderation / helping programs. By the players, for the players. 
Karlyr7 votesI suppose your GF is around level 10-20. These are the worse levels. They basically are full of : "I have to level up a new account because I have been banned."
Elderwood Lily1 votesYeah she got level 10 yesterday :/
Karlyr3 votes(OMG I CAN'T TYPE THIS MORNING <.<)
Yeah... I know that feel (I leveled up a secondary account for myself. Just for "fun")
Best thing you can show her, if she still want to play League, is to make her aware of the mute buttons and report/honor features. It'll at least make her feel a bit better about PvP.
And if she gets discouraged you could eventually show her the tribunal, if they can finally bring it back online...
Past level 20 usually the banned players either have gained their main account back or have been banned on their second account too.
Silents4295 votesReally? She "cried" ?
I know saying welcome to the internet would be an understatement and isn't really fair but is she 8 or something? Does she not play any other game online?
Just mute them until you are out of the ass elo, this isn't hard to do, stop riding the "Oh this community is just TOXXXXICCC now" bandwagon.
Elderwood Lily5 votesWhen you don't know someone , don't insult them alright ? , and i'm not whining about the community being toxic i'm just saying that being mean to someone instead of helping them getting better is totally dumb
Silents4293 votesNo you are whining about the community, you are blaming the community for your girlfriend crying. You are indeed riding a bandwagon that has been popular for years right now. Your thread does not solve anything you intend to do and posting here does not help your case at all.
UncensoredAngel3 votesIts not a bandwagon its a truth this community sucks and your not helping it almost seams like you hopped on the being a troll bandwagon that has been popular for YEARS now.
Silents4291 votesIt is a great day when you are considered a troll for saying the community doesn't suck.
I am TOTALLY the problem yep.
Crett5 votesReally? She "cried" ?
I know saying welcome to the internet would be an understatement and isn't really fair but is she 8 or something? Does she not play any other game online?
Just mute them until you are out of the ass elo, this isn't hard to do, stop riding the "Oh this community is just TOXXXXICCC now" bandwagon.
Some people really are emotionally affected by verbal abuse on the internet. Sure, it's anonymous, but we're all humans here.
Silents4292 votesAll the more reason I hate the thread poster and not so much the "girlfriend"
What does his thread do other then point out the same old tired and used "The community is toxic" crap we already know?
Crett2 votesAll the more reason I hate the thread poster and not so much the "girlfriend"
What does his thread do other then point out the same old tired and used "The community is toxic" crap we already know?
Hate is a bit of a strong word, over a thread complaining about a bad experience with a common issue
Silents4292 votesIts more then just that. It is the reasoning for it. This post doesn't solve anything, it doesn't ask anything, it doesn't even put the experience into context. It is just wasted space on the servers of someone whining about something we already know.
Crett2 votesIts more then just that. It is the reasoning for it. This post doesn't solve anything, it doesn't ask anything, it doesn't even put the experience into context. It is just wasted space on the servers of someone whining about something we already know.
There are really better things to hate on principle than this This thread isn't adversely affecting anyone; He's just talking about his experience, don't you relate to that at all??
Silents4291 votesNo I don't relate to it at all, I hardly see the big bad toxic blob of evil that people describe League as.
Better or worse things it is one of the things.
UncensoredAngel1 votesHate is a strong word...
GiantRobotCamels3 votesThe sad truth is that there are people in this world that are only happy when they view someone else as "below them". At the moment this person happened to be your GF and I am sorry for that. I wish there was a way to stop this from happening but to be honest the only solution is to ignore them like the idiots they are. Tell your GF not to give up on league just because the league community gave up on her.
Elderwood Lily2 votesAlright i will thanks for the comment :)
Blancmark3 votesIgnore the people who tell her to get a thicker skin or build up resistance to toxicity. It doesn't work that way for everyone. I've been playing for over a year and I certainly haven't built up resistance. I doubt I ever will, either, for it's not who I am, and I don't feel like I have to deal with people's toxicity every time I play. "It's part of the game", my butt. It shouldn't be. It's why I generally mute everyone at the start of the match myself.
It's what your gf should do, too. Just use pings to receive and send messages. Or if you must, you can type without needing a response. Just a simple "help me" or "retreat". No shame in that at all. It certainly works for me.
I know it ain't the best teamwork, but random people usually aren't the best at teamwork anyway. It's not ranked, not a ranked team, and not friends, so whatever. Those very same toxic players would probably consider it "bad behaviour", but if you ask me, I'd rather win a game with minimal communication than lose a game because some dick in my team can't stop spitting toxic goo at me and others. And since you can't control the as shatter of others, take preemptive measures and mute them, as that is within your control.
Just my two gold pieces.
Megarolf3 votesPro tip: Show her some more casual games. Moba's are a bad idea imo. Almost every moba community is toxic since players think if they don't win in-game they die irl.
Takeuchi 173 voteslol my gf plays league and does a pretty good job of dealing with toxic assholes. your gf must be too nice of a person. unlock her gamer rage and all will be well
DrCyanide1 votes... my wife unlocks her "gamer rage" from time to time.
Lets put it this way. You're nice and safe on the other side of the screen, possibly not even aware she's raging. I'm on the same side of the screen, and it's much scarier over here. You have to put up with her being mad for maybe 40 minutes, I have to put up with her being mad for the rest of the evening.
The better way is if we're all kind and understanding in the first place.
sbsp136683 votesI got a friend who I just recently introduced to League, and I've been doing my best to teach him how to play. I would love it if you and your girlfriend could join us in games! I'm worried that my MMR is affecting the games too much for my friend, putting him against opponents in low silver, when he just got to level 10 on his account. Having more newbie people on our team will help with MMR issues I hope. (We're Eastern time zone and have plans to play together tomorrow evening).
My boyfriend got me started on the game, and my first few games got comments like "omg is this person a bot?" and "sbsp13668 is your username no wonder you suck" (best username ever; they're just jelly!). It never made me cry because those people don't matter. Remind her that she is not playing the game to please those people, she's doing it for you. So, your behaviour with her is the only thing that matters! :)
Elderwood Lily3 votesI am in estearn Times :) just add me and we can try to work this out ! And thank you for that sentence "she is not playing the game to please those people, she's doing it for you. So, your behaviour with her is the only thing that matters! :)" It really made me realise why i wanted her to play with me , thank you :)
sbsp136681 votesI'll add you tomorrow evening, then. Looking forward to it, and thanks! :D
Sinister Snail1 votesI'll add you tomorrow evening, then. Looking forward to it, and thanks! :D
This is the best way around the issue of toxic teammates.
In squad I trust!
hgjkdlsaf jeldvb1 votesThis is my main
sbsp136681 votesJust added this account and your smurf. (Sorry for being so late; I got off work later than expected today!)
Edit: I think I'll be playing tomorrow evening/night, as well, so I can add you again, if you're still down.
DarkFaun Fortes2 votesMute button is beautiful!!!
Elderwood Lily1 votesIt is indeed
Sirsir2 votesWell to be fair you really shoulda warned her about this. Its not like League toxicity is a big secret. "Oh by the way, a lot of these people can be pretty mean, mute button is right here."
Side note, try to give her pointers. I spent a good 2 weeks ulting minions in bots before someone told me it was a bad thing. It helps to reduce toxicity if you give them the least amount of reasons.
Double Rainbow2 votesI know that feel. I cried too, when I first started playing League. We were playing AI vs bots and some guy started to flame that I was a noob, should uninstall and wanted to report me. I felt bad, because I had a feeling that I will never become good at this game and I will be flamed constantly. But I'm happy now that I didn't quit because of that, my skill improved and I gained more confidence, so now even when someone is raging, I'm not taking it that personal.
skyfall6192 votesthe internet shows peoples true nature. just a reminder then humans suck
Elderwood Lily1 votesYou're damn right
Crett2 votesJust do what I do. Make a circle of people you can trust not to be asses to you in-game, and invite them all to every queue. There are people who've lost touch with their sense of empathy playing this game, and you'll have to mute them when you encounter them Don't say "muted" when you do it, though, that might get them upset which may affect their gameplay, etc.
Fires of Justice2 votesYour gf may be playing with other new players who come from different gaming backgrounds where negative behavior might be more lenient. Let your gf know that those players are some of the first to be introduced to reform and offered help towards giving back more pleasant moments for others. For now, I recommend playing with her as much as possible, and help her to focus more on the mechanics of the game for now, and ease into player interaction. What do you think about that?
To piggyback on sbsp13668, my bf recently started playing also and we'd be happy to play with you guys!
Ophelmark2 votesIf you have some buddies already that you knew they good people.Tell her to add them and play only when they are available.Problem solved.Look i understand that people react differently when they get treated bad.Nothing wrong with that.Just try your best to protect her.
RainbowIcee2 votesplay with her and support her (: there's a lot of losers that make new accounts and play vs the new comers to feel superior to them because they can't handle a challenge. Then they get mad at new comers learning.
Truly Prideful1 votesThis is the reason I can't get people to play this game. A majority of them quit while leveling because the community is just so bad along with the insane requirements to buy runes / champions.
Shogunai1 votesYou got to remember that league is a part of everyday society. The same people that are in the world play this game an the world isn't a nice place. I agree with a previous poster, if you or her run across so nice people an that will help her add them, there are some very friendly people in the league community. There are more than many may think but sometimes it takes time to find them an your more likely to run into some real toxic people. I have found 1 friend on here that I've played with for about a year now an became friends with IRL so it is possible an he's help me a lot of learning the game. If you or her need any help find me in game, I don't know what her strength an weaknesses are nor what role she plays but, I can help in anyway possible. The more people offer to help an be friendly the more enjoyable the game experience will become.
yukonl1 votesProof?
Elderwood Lily1 votesWhat , why would you want a proof ? , want me to take a picture of my girlfriend crying that happened 2 days ago ?
yukonl3 votesSorry if that offended you. Many of these kinds of threads (experiences of cyber-bullying on league) are made to fuel mob mentality and are usually false/lacking any evidence. If you had a few pictures of what made her cry, I wouldn't have questioned the legitimacy of this thread.
Also, to answer your question, most people don't trust others due to anonymity which causes them to be "toxic". This community isn't entirely toxic, and there are a lot more people who try to help instead of being toxic. It's just that many people choose to focus more on the negative experiences than the positive ones.
The Internet has always been a place for toxicity and the only thing we can really do is just ignore it. It's not just League, but anywhere where people are hidden behind computer screens.
Elderwood Lily1 votesIt didnt ofend me don't worry , and thank you for your answer it really helped , i know not everyone is a toxic player , but its rare to see some people not being a little salty
TwoD1 votesangry nerds swarm this realm
Xietnin1 votesHi Loui, here's some helpful things I look back to in my experience: LoL is a competitive game. There are real people on the enemy team, and they want to win as much as your team does. Everyone hates having a bad time. When someone tries to care about their team and makes sure they're having a good time, its hard for them to be negative. Give the benefit of the doubt. If your support is saying somewhere along the lines of "Wow, your engage was horrible", consider that you may have made a mistake there, be the bigger person, and apologize. Although it might not even be true, and perhaps your engage was even "flawless", showing others that you care about their opinion should keep them on your side. Everyone is human, unless they're a bot. Especially Annie Bot, that thing is the devil. =)
AMYS GRAVE1 votesIt's the main reason why i wouldn't invite many people to play the game.
Daen1 votesUnfortunately, low level play is particularly bad because of the incredibly low barrier to entry. Players that get banned can create a new account and be back to playing the game within five minutes, and it can take twenty levels or so for the smurf account to finally get removed. At level 30 the toxicity falls off quite a bit, but in a competitive game where one teammate can doom everyone else there's going to be some friction.