How to Play Lissandra
So over the last few couple of days I've tried to use
effectively, but it's almost always gone wrong. In the laning phase I feel I can poke melee champions but whenever I get into a trade I get shafted. I throw out a q first while they walk around the minions and they've probably jumped on me by now so w gets used and I try to e out. But by then I've been hit by a couple of painful auto attacks and abilities, usually that ends up with me losing too much hp for that to have been worth it. Not to mention my auto attack is delayed and does low damage. If I trade too much my mana will run out. Trying to build cdr and health 
makes me lose out on damage. but If I build mana, health, and damage
I won't have enough cdr to fight people with. And if I dare to build cdr and dmg after I come out of my r im gone.
In teamfights I can't engage because e is slow and predictable (thank you icy claw outline), and it seems all I can do is wait around for someone on their team to attack or my own team to attack, but when my team does attack I'll go in with e>w>r>death, if I'm a midlaner that means I didn't bring enough because I'll die straight after my r unless I use hourglass, but given the problem with building lissandra by the time midgame teamfights roll around my damage will be lacking if I build that or my r may already be off of cooldown due to an earlier engagement. If I'm a top laner I failed my role as a tank because even if I did build tanky my damage was negligible and or predicted + negated due to the slow nature of e.
Even if I make it to late game, it gets worse because the carries which i do dmg to are all nestled in the backline which is hard to get to and going in up close runs the risk of being caught out pressing w and r in panic and dying while only having dealt damage with 2 spells. I don't know what I'm doing wrong but it feels like
or
would fulfill her role much better.
If I chose Ori instead in the mid lane I'd have the aoe cc and I wouldn't need to build any hp due to better range and being able to ult off of the tank that went top or in the jungle. Vlad has better poke than she does because people can't just move around the minions to put q at a manageable range, and in teamfights i'll just r or w to get to the squishies and actually survive due to the lifesteal and not being easily caught out due to w, plus I'll have damage from w e and r all being aoe.
How do I play lissandra effectively, and should I even given the better less counterable by people with range or sustain options?
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