Well,I played against Heimer a few times before & he's not that bad.........if you play passively & don't expect to win lane.
Sure he may out farm you,but you can still farm once the wave reach the turret.Heimer's turrets cause him to push the lane towards you,so safely farm what you can.Then get some items to either clear out his turrets quickly or be tanky enough to ignore his turrets.Now you can start getting aggressive,though not too aggressive because he may he zhonya's at this point.
Also if you have a long range or long range abilities,you can try using those to poke at him & his turrets when you can.
As for ganks,the jungle should aim for some pre "6 & Zhonya's" gank with plenty of health.If ganks come after this point,then focus on making him use a summoner spell or his zhonya,then came back later for the kill or at least push him out of lane.
Heimer is annoying to lane agains,yes.But as long as he isn't fed or too fed,you should be able to drop him in teamfights.Afterall,the laning phase isn't the only part of the game.Just play passively in the laning phase & you should be good to go.