Guy being toxic cuz I´m girl

NoobyCzechGirl··6 votes·1,733 views

Recently I played draft game and one of my teammates had such a big problem with me.... Cuz I´m girl! And that´s all. He told me that **I shouldn´t play LoL cuz this aint game for girls ** If I´d had bad score like 0/3 or worse, I wouldn´t complain about it. But my score was pretty good to be support. Or if I will try to have attention of other players cuz im girl. But nope... I just play like anyone else and im givin my best all the time. I just dont understand what´s that big problem. I never had problem with someone, in 3 or 4 months of playin, based on my gender. And now im askin... ** Should girls play LoL or not? ** I mean... It´s about how I play and I helped my team when they needed, I support as best as I could...

And I feel really strange to say it loud... but I really need opinion so If I should just let it go or change something... Im gonna repeat myself... I wasnt playin bad at this game cuz If he was toxic about me feedin... I would understand.. I didnt try to have some attention or something... I didnt even say something... and when they killed me, while we already destroyed enemy turrets, he just wrote this.

btw... i dont cry about it... im just askin for opinions so I know how other people feel it :D just in case :D

34 Comments

EL HAMSTERO6 votes

if you dont like getting ripped on for being a girl then dont put 'girl' in your name.

people are going to attack whatever they can in this game. when you give them that you are a girl you are giving them something to attack. it would be the same if i put canadian or jewish in my name. then people will say canadian jews shouldnt play LoL.

The Cream Reaper2 votes

that's racist

NoobyCzechGirl1 votes

well I asked for opinion and this is opinion so I take it as advice

Anomander5 votes

Just respond with "guys like you are the reason i date other girls" Doesn't matter if you do or not. This is just a back handed way of saying that the guy is so pathetic only his mother will love him......maybe.

The Cream Reaper4 votes

Should girls play LoL or not?

i know a bunch who do and i see no issue with it

play if you want to

don't play if you don't

[slayer-jinx-catface]

and ignore the douchebags. the gender tjing is just an excuse. even if you were a boy, other players would still find something to bi*ch about

NoobyCzechGirl2 votes

It would be the best.. just ignore but I felt bit hurted and thought like.. maybe really girls shouldnt play or just me its weird for me cuz I started to play with note in my mind that some are going to tell me things like ,,youre feeder,, ,,you suck,, but i didnt expect this... but thanky you for reply

The Cream Reaper1 votes

if you wish to, add me and we can play whenever i get in the mood for league

[sg-ahri-2]

NoobyCzechGirl1 votes

I will ^^

Bettnachleger1 votes

Would you have offered the same thing if the title was ;

Girl being toxic cuz I´m boy

[sg-lux-2]

The Cream Reaper2 votes

probably

since that never happens there must be something special about this boy...

Bettnachleger1 votes

lol true ;^)

Xidphel2 votes

Should girls play LoL or not?

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/247827285498003456/394977133660995618/60chaq9u3t501.jpg

But honestly, keep playing if you like the game. Mute and report if they continue.

Jo0o2 votes

https://www.wired.com/2015/07/gamers-troll-women-literally-losers/

Studies show that gamers who lash out at women tend to be shitty at the game they're playing. Take some solace in that. You have as much a right as anybody to be here, so fuck the assholes telling you otherwise.

That said... I'd generally recommend nipping this sort of thing at the bud and not using an overtly female summoner name. I respect that this can feel unfair to you, and hope I'm not coming across as victim-blaming here, but with as much sexism as the gaming community is plagued by, declaring yourself to be female can draw disproportionate attention towards yourself.

Lyndris1 votes

As a girl, no this does not sound like victim-blaming. When you give any troll or flamer something to work with they use it, end of story. Also, the link, I love it so much, thank you for sharing that. I had already known them to be losers for other reasons.

higura1 votes

Studies show that gamers who lash out at women tend to be shitty at the game they're playing.

you just read the article and didn't really look into the study, didn't you?... because it's filled to the brim with flaws.

http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0131613

the first big red flag comes in the first sentence:

Gender inequality and sexist behaviour is prevalent in almost all workplaces and rampant in online environments.

already here are they just assuming this to be the case.

the problem with it, is that they already have the conclusion they want and this becomes even more clear later...

Three Xbox LIVE (XBL) accounts were created and assigned to a respective experimental manipulation: control, male, and female. The control condition simply played in matches of Halo 3 as one normally would; however, this condition did not use the real-time voice channel to communicate with other players, and as a result, was not further analyzed here.

they just ignored the control, which not only is the basis of the experiment but also what you are gonna need if you want to repeat it.

in order for a study to be trustworthy does it need to have been run several times with close, if not, the same outcome, so this raises 2 other problems with the study.

1: they don't tell us how many games they ran the control in total.

2: because they didn't include the control, can they run this test as many times they want and get a different result.

We played a total of 163 games of Halo 3 in the two manipulations. We stopped at 163 as this is a substantial time effort. Data could not be analyzed during the experiment as the transcripts needed to be transcribed. Of the 163 games, 82 were in the female manipulation and 81 were in the male manipulation and players only spoke within 102 of the games. A total of 189 players spoke in these 102 games; all of them were male.

so they played 163 games (82 female, 81 male) once and then didn't run the experiment again.

hmm...wonder why it would be 163 games and they didn't run it again...almost like they where trying to get a certain conclusion and just let the simulation run untill they had the outcome they wanted...

...and this is just scratching the surface of the study, throughout the whole thing are they just thowing assumptions, like we saw in the beginning but let me just give another exsample:

This is not to say that women did not play, just that they did not speak. This does, however, reinforce the fact that women are entering a very male dominated environment.

"got hat all idea who the players are but lets just assume they are female, because you can't prove otherwise"...

the study is a joke and whoever made it should feel bad.

Jo0o1 votes

Full disclosure, I read up on a study to that effect a while back, figured I'd link it, couldn't find it, then just linked the top Google hit without a ton of actual research in response to this thread =P

mandrain2 votes

This game is overpopulated with misogynistic little boys, at least in NA. But riot's garbage ban system never bans these people or the racists either, unless they are dumb enough to use a slur. They can easily avoid the buzzwords that get flagged by the useless ban bot. And anyone who says that you shouldn't put "girl" in your name or mention gender in-game is part of the sexist problem of this so-called community. Nothin but victim-blaming cis boys who think "feminazis" is a real thing. Fuck the haters. Mute/report/repeat. We need more discords for the femmes and queers <3

dKiWi1 votes

the person who introduced me to LoL was a girl so why not

NoobyCzechGirl1 votes

thank you for reply I just wanted to know opinion of some more guys

Mordius1 votes

I just dont understand what´s that big problem. I never had problem with someone, in 3 or 4 months of playin, based on my gender.

You admit this is an isolated incident, clearly this player simply has something wrong with them. We don't know their history, or what kinds of things they went through to lead them to the current hateful person they are today. What matters is that this is the only person you've encountered with this behavior. So simply report them and move on.

SnyperWulff1 votes

Let it go, or tell him to shut up, and if all else fails, mute, block and report him via support ticket. My wife plays as a support main. Your friend just sounds like an asshole.

A woman playing a game is no different from a male. If he wants to be a sexist asshole that's his problem.

NoobyCzechGirl1 votes

I even dont know why it hurt me that much... but yeah I agree and thank you

SnyperWulff1 votes

No worries, it most likely hurt because it may have been a close friend, who had never said something like that before. Just do you dear. Fuck people like him.

Also, like Reaper, feel free to add me in League. I won't be able to accept until the first due to my next being throttled. But I'm sure my wife and I wouldn't mind having another person to play with.

deathgod51 votes

I would just dodge the match where anybody says something like that, because people like that are not worth my time. Girls can play this game perfectly well and so can guys or somewhat intelligent monkeys. Fuck that person for being a downright ass and please don't feel pressured in leaving.

Erusaurus1 votes

Personally, I love answering with sarcasm when they talk about my gender, because after that they all become mad and they are not focused on the game anymore. I suggest you to just mute, play your game and report them. If you think it won't be enough, send a ticket to the support. There are no reasons for girls to not play this game. Don't let some idiots tell you otherwise. Have fun for your next games. :)

IvernBramblefoot1 votes

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Recently I played draft game and one of my teammates had such a big problem with me.... Cuz I&acute;m girl! And that&acute;s all. He told me that **I shouldn&acute;t play LoL cuz this aint game for girls ** If I&acute;d had bad score like 0/3 or worse, I wouldn&acute;t complain about it. But my score was pretty good to be support. Or if I will try to have attention of other players cuz im girl. But nope... I just play like anyone else and im givin my best all the time. I just dont understand what&acute;s that big problem. I never had problem with someone, in 3 or 4 months of playin, based on my gender. And now im askin... ** Should girls play LoL or not? ** I mean... It&acute;s about how I play and I helped my team when they needed, I support as best as I could...

And I feel really strange to say it loud... but I really need opinion so If I should just let it go or change something... Im gonna repeat myself... I wasnt playin bad at this game cuz If he was toxic about me feedin... I would understand.. I didnt try to have some attention or something... I didnt even say something... and when they killed me, while we already destroyed enemy turrets, he just wrote this.

they absolutely should! don't let that guy get you down hon, you deserve to play whatever game you want!!!!

TheEvilQueen1351 votes

i've been playing for over 4 years and ran a league club at college...if it's not for girls then i don't know why i got a leadership award for running that club and a pokemon club...

seriously though those guys are sexist jerks who have low self-esteem. if you're worried about more remarks i'd say just change your summoner name to something that doesn't giveaway your gender. honestly though if you enjoy the game play it, same with basically everything. also i've found more guys hit on girls in this game than hate on them

Kaioko1 votes

Not that the behavior is acceptable but I have no idea why you think putting "Girl" in your name is a wise thing if you truly have been playing online video games for awhile.

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