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Ok so when I see this am i the only one that gets angry about it?

Cizan··3 votes·622 views

I was reading a post here in the miscellaneous section that no doubt many of you have read, it was about how a guy's parents get ridiculously angry about him not doing something because he was in the middle of a game so he had to AFK.

In the comments section below I saw several very angering posts from a user that I won't name to protect his privacy but most of you probably know it anyway. What he said is that the youth today are very disrespectful to their parents and how we are immature and such, my response to that is "Don't let a few bad apples ruin the bunch" <-- Not sure I got that right but moving on. This angers me because he portrayed it as if we don't care about our parents feelings rules and such, now I'm 15 the only times that I break the rules in my house are when I feel its absolutely necessary which is almost never. I love my dad I wouldn't try to ever intentionally hurt him or anyone else in my family. Now I'm not your average 15 year old I'm a straight A student and I understand more about life than most kids my age, I don't mean to get into personal life too much here but I already lost my mom when I was 13, and my Grandma just this year in May. I understand many things I'm probably the nicest guy you will ever meet in game and out of it. But I'm pretty sure anyone would get at least a little irritated when you've explained to your parents before that you cant simply "pause" an online game and that it really isn't that long of a game an hour at the VERY most (granted ive seen an 82 minute game but that was bronze ya know) you can't just drop everything and leave because oh hey you will get banned -_-. Now if it takes literally 5 seconds ill do it, but longer than 3 mins and id tell you you're out of your mind. (CS matters!!!) any way you are better off reading the post and then you will understand this one more I've made this one long enough.

P.S. Parents that use the "When you pay the bills you can make the rules" excuse you are asking for your kid to get an attitude with you, and they probably wont call or visit as much as youd like them to.

P.P.S. TAKE THE TIME TO LEARN WHAT YOUR KID IS SO INTERESTED IN!!!!! Otherwise you will never understand them.

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Hethalean2 votes

Depends on the situation. A game not being able to be paused is a very very weak argument for not engaging in family matters. If you have chores/responsibilities (I have no idea the circumstances in this case), ignoring them to play games and getting frustrated when they want you to leave said game "because it cannot be paused" is irresponsible.

My solution would be before sitting down to a (potentially) long game would be to ask if your parents will need you in the next hour or so for something. If they'll want a chore done, hopefully they'll think of it then or let you know that the current plan is to leave the house in 20 minutes or whatever.

As to the disrespect point, it all depends. However, from what I have seen today, far too many children ARE disrespectful to their parents, and neglecting your duties (potentially again... depends on what is happening so I'm reserving as much judgement as possible) to play a game while simultaneously being non empathetic about the situation is pretty disrespectful. Also saying you're being disrespectful does NOT mean they are saying you do not care. Merely that you are being disrespectful. You can care, while being unwittingly disrespectful.

As a prime example, I am an adult. After moving in with my girlfriend and her dog (first time dog owner for me) she FOOLISHLY left me alone with him for a weekend. I was playing a game and our dog (Pepper... sweet boy) came up to me trying to get my attention. I however did not know what he wanted and figured he wanted pets. A couple minutes pass by and he promptly starts urinating EVERYWHERE. Sometimes the game must take second place to life. :P

Cizan4 votes

Ah my bad I should have put in there that he had asked before he started the game if his parents needed anything, he also added that his mother came in at random times to tell him to take the dogs out which was the source of his problem. The rule in my house is chores before games and take the dog out once every 1 1/2 to 2 hours. That said other homes I'm sure have it different. Thanks for the feedback! [slayer-jinx-catface]

Hethalean1 votes

Ah yeah, sounds like you and the other person (friend maybe) have a good hold at least to try to minimize issues.

rtbf2624901 votes

Is this a fn joke lol, i am a parent and this is funny as f if its my house you live in it you do as parents say even if it is at a random time we are parents we can change our minds a thousand times and that's the way it is Done! if you do not like it move out feed yourself and buy your own internet.

"But I'm pretty sure anyone would get at least a little irritated when you've explained to your parents before that you cant simply "pause" an online game and that it really isn't that long of a game an hour at the VERY most (granted ive seen an 82 minute game but that was bronze ya know) you can't just drop everything and leave because oh hey you will get banned -_-. Now if it takes literally 5 seconds ill do it, but longer than 3 mins and id tell you you're out of your mind. (CS matters!!!) any way you are better off reading the post and then you will understand this one more I've made this one long enough."

BUY YOUR OWN INTERNET AND HOUSE THEN LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Chamuel851 votes

Ahuh... you sound like just the most amazing and "fair" parent ever.

rtbf2624901 votes

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Ahuh... you sound like just the most amazing and "fair" parent ever.

Did you even read the post? and i quote,

"But I'm pretty sure anyone would get at least a little irritated when you've explained to your parents before that you cant simply "pause" an online game and that it really isn't that long of a game an hour at the VERY most (granted ive seen an 82 minute game but that was bronze ya know) you can't just drop everything and leave because oh hey you will get banned -_-. Now if it takes literally 5 seconds ill do it, but longer than 3 mins and id tell you you're out of your mind. (CS matters!!!)"

It is their house he is a child living in their house! If they say jump he says how high. Till he buys his own house and that is "fair"

Chamuel851 votes

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Did you even read the post? and i quote,

"But I'm pretty sure anyone would get at least a little irritated when you've explained to your parents before that you cant simply "pause" an online game and that it really isn't that long of a game an hour at the VERY most (granted ive seen an 82 minute game but that was bronze ya know) you can't just drop everything and leave because oh hey you will get banned -_-. Now if it takes literally 5 seconds ill do it, but longer than 3 mins and id tell you you're out of your mind. (CS matters!!!)"

It is their house he is a child living in their house! If they say jump he says how high. Till he buys his own house and that is "fair"

Yes, I read their post. I'm simply judging your opinion on what it means to be a parent and how you deal with a child. It's just a totalitarian way to deal with your kids especially when it sounds like all your reasoning boils down to "I do not have any reason why but this is my stance deal with it!!!". Just to break it down for you, I'm saying that "I pay the bills" is an extremely weak position for argument. It just says that you have nothing better.

It's not 'fair' to have that sort of reasoning with a child whom has no other options on his or her living arrangements. It's a slightly MORE fair argument to say it's because I pay the bills when they have other options and are choosing your living arrangement.

Tldr; I disagree with your reasoning, and was judging a lot about you just laughing about it saying that it's fair that just because you have $$ and someone else does not that you get what you want.

If you were mentally and logically unprepared to raise a child, I would have suggested not doing it. Also, just because you A) got someone pregnant or B) became pregnant, doesn't increase your opinion on the matter of dealing with a child. There are definitely 'shit parents', and just because they have a kid, does not mean they know what parenting means nor a good way to deal with a child.

For example, children are not slaves. "I say jump... you say how high." is how you deal with slaves.

EDIT: I'm also guessing that your'e the type of person that if they COULD go somewhere else and live withs omeone else, you'd be irritated and ramble on about 'ungrateful children!'. Basically, an unreasoning adult without the ability to really quite look at a whole situation.

rtbf2624901 votes

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Yes, I read their post. I'm simply judging your opinion on what it means to be a parent and how you deal with a child. It's just a totalitarian way to deal with your kids especially when it sounds like all your reasoning boils down to "I do not have any reason why but this is my stance deal with it!!!". Just to break it down for you, I'm saying that "I pay the bills" is an extremely weak position for argument. It just says that you have nothing better.

It's not 'fair' to have that sort of reasoning with a child whom has no other options on his or her living arrangements. It's a slightly MORE fair argument to say it's because I pay the bills when they have other options and are choosing your living arrangement.

Tldr; I disagree with your reasoning, and was judging a lot about you just laughing about it saying that it's fair that just because you have $$ and someone else does not that you get what you want.

If you were mentally and logically unprepared to raise a child, I would have suggested not doing it. Also, just because you A) got someone pregnant or B) became pregnant, doesn't increase your opinion on the matter of dealing with a child. There are definitely 'shit parents', and just because they have a kid, does not mean they know what parenting means nor a good way to deal with a child.

For example, children are not slaves. "I say jump... you say how high." is how you deal with slaves.

EDIT: I'm also guessing that your'e the type of person that if they COULD go somewhere else and live withs omeone else, you'd be irritated and ramble on about 'ungrateful children!'. Basically, an unreasoning adult without the ability to really quite look at a whole situation.

Parents make the rules the kids follow those rules.

BeatzBoyFTW2 votes

You don't sound like a parent at all when you're one who's this lazy in reading & uses the "this is my last point cz idgaf" statement.

rtbf2624901 votes

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You don't sound like a parent at all when you're one who's this lazy in reading & uses the "this is my last point cz idgaf" statement.

Again we make the rules the kids follow!

Cizan1 votes

This was previously a little too harsh.

If you don't work with your kid you won't ever have a healthy relationship with them.

Don't even try to pull the cards you have been, "We make the rules the kids follow!", that statement only works to a degree. I pay for my internet by mowing lawns. I even saved enough to take my family to a waterpark just yesterday. So what would be your rule if the child helped pay the bills. Or completely payed some of them O.o

Also legally until the age of 16 children cannot work as an employee or get payed under the table. They have no choice but to let you pay the bills unless you have your own lawn mower that they can take out and mow lawns with. (which doesn't get much these days trust me I know)

rtbf2624901 votes

{quoted}

This was previously a little too harsh.

If you don't work with your kid you won't ever have a healthy relationship with them.

Don't even try to pull the cards you have been, "We make the rules the kids follow!", that statement only works to a degree. I pay for my internet by mowing lawns. I even saved enough to take my family to a waterpark just yesterday. So what would be your rule if the child helped pay the bills. Or completely payed some of them O.o

Also legally until the age of 16 children cannot work as an employee or get payed under the table. They have no choice but to let you pay the bills unless you have your own lawn mower that they can take out and mow lawns with. (which doesn't get much these days trust me I know)

If you live in their house no matter what you pay for, they make the rules.

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