Abuse towards girl gamers

Mermaid Season·11/21/2014, 8:24:06 PM·3 votes·1,988 views

In the vast majority of the games we all hear comments like “that is so gay” etc as if being gay or homosexual is an offense. I don’t care if this is how you speak nowadays or whatever excuse you use, it is not cool at all. You might think it’s not a big deal since you really don’t mean anything bad by it, but to some like myself, it really is offensive. All the negativity and hatred we all have to deal with, just has to stop. I’m sure we all have to deal with it from time to time in any form, and I’m just as sure we’re all just as tired of it. We’d enjoy the game so much more if we all were a little bit more positive and encouraging so please just ditch all the offensive crap and start spreading the love instead.

Aaaand, now to why I actually decided to write this post in the first place. I just finished an Aram where I had to deal with a very toxic Ashe who decided to flame the butt out of me for not being a player to his/her standards and for being a girl RL. I was being called names I am sure would not be allowed anywhere near this forum so I won’t give any examples. I sent in a report, and I am sure other players did as well, but what happens now? Is this even being dealt with? This player laughed when we said we were reporting his abuse and it’s not the first time I get that reaction. Nobody seems to believe this matters, that they can say and do whatever they please but I still have hopes for the opposite.

Who stands up for me? Am I protected in any other way than with the mute-button?

PS. And for the record, I don’t tell I am gay, and I rareeeellyyy admit to being a girl even, although my name gives a hint I guess.

37 Comments

Drunk Rummate11/21/2014, 8:35:41 PM10 votes

Here's something that a lot of "victimized" people don't seem to understand.

Everyone gets made fun of

There are bullies. They're especially common on the internet where there aren't any repercussions. It doesn't matter if I'm gay, female, black, white, christian, muslim or anything because they will find something to insult me for.

You don't see me on here complaining because someone called me a basement dweller - and yes, I do live in my parents basement. I'm 24 and just getting started on a career after finishing college a couple years ago. Houses are fucking expensive. So just because someone is making fun of you for something doesn't mean that it's specifically targeted towards your gender, or religion, or sexuality, or anything. People are just assholes, that's really all there is to it.

So your topic really shouldn't be about abuse towards girl gamers. That's incredibly self centered. Your topic should be "people should stop being complete assholes all the time." That would probably get better traction, friend.

Tooterpillar11/21/2014, 8:40:15 PM3 votes

Note - I'm a girl.

First, your title could have been "abusive players" instead of "abuse towards gamer girls". I'm sure that abusive player was a jerk and saying how girls can't play video games and whatnot. But, frankly, just because you are a girl, then you shouldn't be treated in a special way. That's what your post sounds like.

Second, yes, if the person is reported enough and they severely have a bad streak of being a jerk, they will be suspended then possibly banned.

Yandere Carry11/22/2014, 1:29:14 AM3 votes

In the vast majority of the games we all hear comments like “that is so gay” etc as if being gay or homosexual is an offense. I don’t care if this is how you speak nowadays or whatever excuse you use, it is not cool at all. You might think it’s not a big deal since you really don’t mean anything bad by it, but to some like myself, it really is offensive. All the negativity and hatred we all have to deal with, just has to stop. I’m sure we all have to deal with it from time to time in any form, and I’m just as sure we’re all just as tired of it. We’d enjoy the game so much more if we all were a little bit more positive and encouraging so please just ditch all the offensive crap and start spreading the love instead.

Aaaand, now to why I actually decided to write this post in the first place. I just finished an Aram where I had to deal with a very toxic Ashe who decided to flame the butt out of me for not being a player to his/her standards and for being a girl RL. I was being called names I am sure would not be allowed anywhere near this forum so I won’t give any examples. I sent in a report, and I am sure other players did as well, but what happens now? Is this even being dealt with? This player laughed when we said we were reporting his abuse and it’s not the first time I get that reaction. Nobody seems to believe this matters, that they can say and do whatever they please but I still have hopes for the opposite.

Who stands up for me? Am I protected in any other way than with the mute-button?

PS. And for the record, I don’t tell I am gay, and I rareeeellyyy admit to being a girl even, although my name gives a hint I guess.

So, I am going to address a lot of stuff here.

First off, your post, title, everything, screams woe is me. The way your presenting it has you as some helpless victim that needs to be catered to. I see you asking people to just move past that. Well the issue, they can't because you wrote it that way. Why not make it less skewed?

Following this is the reference to reporting. You act as if you, again, deserve special treatment beyond the norm. "I reported them but what's next?" Well... If they're being assholes constantly and really aren't just having a really bad day, then they will get punished by tribunal. Simple as that.

If they are just having a bad day and this is a small incident within a wide span of games, they don't deserve punishment. Do you really want bans for ANYTIME ANYONE GETS UPSET AND RAGES! F$%# THOSE GUYS RIGHT?! No, that's basically you doing what they would be getting punished for.

Let's say they do this often and then they get punished. Is it that you want to know they got banned? Know how long? That's ridiculous. If you feel the need to see out their tribunal case this isn't about right and wrong, it's about you. You wanna see them pay for upsetting you. That's childish. I'm not saying that's what you meant, but that's what it comes off as.

Is it a matter of not trusting Riot? They said "here is how the report system works." It's simple and explained thoroughly. Honestly, there is no reason for them to not do it. It isn't like the tribunal is just made up for funzies. They are a sincere company making something for the enjoyment of everyone.


Here's another thing that you might not like. I realize it upsets you, but people that say phrases such as "that's so gay" are going to continue to do it. They don't say it to offend you, and it shouldn't offend you. Why shouldn't it? Because you are perfectly aware of what they mean by that. That's like me deciding you can't say guacamole anymore "because I find it offensive!" It's a word. Words literally have zero meaning unless we give it to them.

For example: Shit, Shithead, Flipping someone off In Chinese the word for snow sounds like you're saying shit In arabic Shi'thead is a normal name (im aware of pronunciation differences) Flipping someone off now and flipping someone off originally, while both meaning the general "f%&$ you" had very different meanings behind them now it's generally offensive, but originally it was done by archers to show they still had their fingers (captured POW archers would have their fingers chopped off)


Also, you need to take a step back and think. This is because you are probably incredibly biased since the key things you see as a problem are directly related to/core aspects of your life (gay and female). The reason I say this is actually explained in a very "edgy" show, Drawn Together, where they create a character that is literally part of every group they tend to make fun of. Point being is that you just need take a step back, rethink, and repost a better worded thread.


Summary TL;DR: I dislike your post because you seem to be playing the victim too much and asking for special treatment. I think this thread should be remade after you've taken time to think of a better way to present your point.

Godly Pro11/21/2014, 10:47:59 PM3 votes

There is a lot of trollness towards girl gamers on this. My g/f plays and if she doesn't build what people want, do bad in csing, or dieing to much. I see people chat and rage hard. She doesn't report and she doesn't read it personally. I mostly take screen shots and report people for her. Regardless what that other supposed "Female" gamer said, Women do get treated differently on this game. Culturally women are different. We do and like the same things however a man doesn't treat another man like a woman. In this aspect you have to accept in order for us to have acceptable appreciation for one another. I do feel bad for some female gamers as if the name of that person reveals sex or orientation they will get raged at more then a female with a neutral sounding IGN. I do hope that when players rage on girls and when they are reported that riot views this as sexism and perma bans those players. I applaud any female gamer and I love seeing them get into games. Growing up being a gamer you were viewed as some Nerd who is a virgin. Now gamers have that proud female gamer support and I feel as a community we should give back to the women and be respectful treat them as another gamer and just enjoy the game together.

AnotherAccBanned11/21/2014, 8:28:54 PM2 votes

Go hug a tree.

DrCyanide11/21/2014, 9:08:50 PM2 votes

In the vast majority of the games we all hear comments like “that is so gay” etc as if being gay or homosexual is an offense.

Uh... how does that relate to abuse towards girl gamers?

Xemeron11/21/2014, 9:52:05 PM2 votes

"OMG, I am Gurl gamer, pls be nice to me..." "Just shut up and play!" "OMG, you sexist, I report you!!!"

"Seriously, could you damn noob stop feeding?" "OMG; you only flame me cause I am gamer Guurl! I cant even! YOu reported!"

D0nC11/22/2014, 4:52:18 AM1 votes

Here OP, I know you need attention.

SarahElle11/21/2014, 9:17:00 PM1 votes

It is not because you are a girl, there is no special attack mode, because of women who play video games. People are just bullies and they've found something to bully you over. It doesn't matter what is it, in this instance, it happened to be because of your gender. If you had been anything else but a lady, that person would have still tried to find your hot button, and upset you.

People heat up quickly over this game, and when they decide to vent their frustration on another player, they will typically go for something they assume will hurt the most. In this case, you being a woman, and the accusation that you are not a worthy player because of your gender.

As a lady myself, I rarely see this happen to me. I have not had one instance that I can recall, of anyone hating over my gender in relation to my skill, or lack there of.

This isn't some special need to be investigated, in my honest opinion. You worry that no one stands up for you, but what about those who are gay, or have slower machines, or live with their parents, or have autism or whatever it may be. Everyone's in the same boat when it comes to harassment on LOL.

You were targeted by a bully, and no doubt that bully has targeted many others who were not female. Mute, report and move on.

Ayzmo11/22/2014, 8:22:05 AM1 votes

Am I the only one who sees half of the posts in this thread as a pretty good example of the problem? It is fine to argue points. But posts of "You whine like a girl" have nothing to do with her points and really just demonstrate the problem she made a post about. Nope. No problem here.

Megachile11/21/2014, 8:30:10 PM1 votes

It is called a mute button. I have seen so many players laugh at the report option, and I myself have never been punished for ANYTHING besides going afk in game. For future reference, just make the username DykeOnABike, then it clears it up any questions for your fellow players.

Pryotra11/21/2014, 11:18:36 PM1 votes

Oh look, another woman complaining about how she was treated on the internet. Please, go into great detail on your trials and tribulations. -This native american's thoughts on the matter.

Seriously, grow up. Everyone gets called names. At least you can mute, report, and move on.

Commit Sudoku11/22/2014, 12:56:38 AM1 votes

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SUPPOURT SUPPOUR11/21/2014, 8:29:02 PM1 votes

maybe change summoner name to something that doesn't imply that you are different and you wont be treated differently

Meehehe11/22/2014, 1:50:22 AM1 votes

After reading this post and hearing many stories of female abuse in the gaming industry we really should have a harsher tribunal for people being sexist. Saying things like i am going to r@#e you, you dumb girl is hurtful even if it is in a game. When a person kills themselves because of cyber bullying people get charged with the death of the person, so saying words don't hurt people is a load of S**T.

gourl8811/22/2014, 2:55:42 AM1 votes

You're equal here. You have the same tools that males have. Use the mute button and report feature if needed. Otherwise, don't be surprised when trolls try to exploit a perceived weakness.

Being gay, female, brown, black, or mentally handicapped is only a weakness if you allow it to be.

AnotherAccBanned11/21/2014, 8:43:12 PM1 votes

Aaaand, now to why I actually decided to write this post in the first place. I just finished an Aram where I had to deal with a very toxic Ashe who decided to flame the butt out of me for not being a player to his/her standards and for being a girl RL. I was being called names I am sure would not be allowed anywhere near this forum so I won’t give any examples. I sent in a report, and I am sure other players did as well, but what happens now? Is this even being dealt with? This player laughed when we said we were reporting his abuse and it’s not the first time I get that reaction. Nobody seems to believe this matters, that they can say and do whatever they please but I still have hopes for the opposite.

Who stands up for me? Am I protected in any other way than with the mute-button?

PS. And for the record, I don’t tell I am gay, and I rareeeellyyy admit to being a girl even, although my name gives a hint I guess.

Please stop playing video games and go back to real life where you have to ignore what people say or think unless they're your boss or law enforcement.

Android Cowboy11/21/2014, 9:02:43 PM1 votes

you whine like a girl