Friend going in for major cancer surgery

zivist·Feb 5, 2017·38 votes·2,557 views

We have a very good in-game friend going in for explorative cancer surgery on the 15th of this month(Feb). We are not looking for hand-outs or free stuff, but any suggestions that anyone who has similar experienced that they did in-game or Who to contact at riot that may be able help do something out-of-the-ordinary for our friend. We are willing to do whatever we would need to help our friend who is scared and unsure of her future. Maybe we could start a campaign to stop the use of "cancer" for trivial matters in-game. But, we would rather focus on something positive that we could do rather than policing others in the name of someone who is so positive herself.

Thanks to anyone who read this all the way through or has any suggestions at all.

Sincerely,

Zivist

41 Comments

SegiusFeb 5, 201714 votes

Good Luck to your friend!

zivistFeb 5, 20171 votes

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Good Luck to your friend!

Thank you!

ExhibitDFeb 5, 20174 votes

Maybe we could start a campaign to stop the use of "cancer" for trivial matters in-game.

A million times this. People don't think about what certain words mean before they same them. I'm not really one to be PC, but how did such a life threatening illness become associated with pixels on a screen?

SpyKayleFeb 5, 20172 votes

Not sure but maybe its because people feel the game for them and therefore their life, I suppose

VenomarFeb 5, 20175 votes

I've had plenty of cancer victims in my family and not once have I been triggered by someone using the word cancer to describe something other than the MEDICAL definition of cancer. Becuase the actual definition of cancer means evil/destructive/hard to get rid of etc. People are too word associated, the medical ailment adopted the term, not the other way around. The word "cancer" existed before the medical "cancer" was discovered.

To OP. If this is an ingame friend I don't know of much you can do to help them other than a go fund me or something. If it's an Irl friend there's plenty you can do. In times of crisis one of the absolute most Important and impactful things anyone can do is help that person along in thier daily lives so they can focus on the hardship. Something as simple as buying someone dinner or bringing them a huge bucket of KFC goes a LONG way. Where I live we do a lot of bar rides and gun bashes and shit to raise money for people so that's a thing if it's pertinent to your area.

Just send em love, support, and anything else you can afford to sacrifice that they might need.
You don't have to change the world to change one person's life.

vOmvbrawfUFeb 5, 20172 votes

Because cancer has more than just one definition. So yes, you are being PC.

Covert Ops GnarFeb 5, 20174 votes

This post gives me cancer

kS7jqhxrGiFeb 5, 20173 votes

Lmao whats crying on boards doing for ya bra.

DanjengFeb 5, 20172 votes

The word cancer is thrown a lot here on boards. I'm not too fond of the word's use for topics like "Yasuo is cancer", but that's just the way people like to express their opinions. I really hope your friend gets better, and enjoys her days before the surgery.

h5LYF41LamFeb 5, 20172 votes

you should have warned him not to main yasuo.

BIG DADDY BARDFeb 5, 201713 votes

I'm kind of amazed that you can joke about someone having cancer, and the fact that you didn't even read the post, the person is a her, not a him.

h5LYF41LamFeb 5, 20171 votes

: v)

oSEXYPLATYPUSoFeb 5, 20171 votes

as someone whos dad dead of cancer and buried him on fathers days and whos grandfather passed of cancer just a few years before that and a great aunt... and so on i second this

zivistFeb 5, 20171 votes

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as someone whos dad dead of cancer and buried him on fathers days and whos grandfather passed of cancer just a few years before that and a great aunt... and so on i second this

Thank you! Maybe we can brainstorm for others out there whom need help and experience. We are a pretty fun aram group. She will be pretty heavily medicated after surgery. Maybe, we can set up some games where both teams agree to go ham the whole time and really have some fun with it. I mean, it's aram.

SpyKayleFeb 5, 20171 votes

I'd enjoy that! Want to friend on league?

VizulixFeb 5, 20172 votes

People can survive cancer. Tell your friend that she's going to make it through and see the glorious day when Supports get buffed. I wish you and your friend the best of luck!

zivistFeb 5, 20171 votes

I forgot to add that she is support main! And she loves aram!

zivistFeb 5, 20171 votes

The thought and concern is very much appreciated! It is my humble opinion that we should focus on a show of support that would focus on boosting the spirits of our friend. I'd like to steer the convo more to suggestions that would directly boost her spirits rather than seek to censor others. In other words, I'm not sure if policing others would make her happy. But, I am sure that a positive show of support to her directly would make her happy. Please understand that an open conversation about our language and how it affects people is always welcome. But, our time is short and we want to do something awesome for this person.

Again thanks for all the comments and all the care/concern that every single comment has displayed so far!

Zivist

NastyMcOutplayFeb 5, 20171 votes

ban yasuo

xelakerFeb 5, 20171 votes

usually terminal cancer peeps get cool guy stuffs btw. anywho, gl with the cancer and such, intentional supps are rare it seems

logic301Feb 5, 20171 votes

Have u ever seen the skins for Kenny thing?

zivistFeb 5, 20171 votes

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Have u ever seen the skins for Kenny thing?

No I haven't. I will look it up! Thanks Jared!

logic301Feb 6, 20171 votes

Tell me if you find it, it's like 5 pages down on the most popular boards posts I think

zivistFeb 8, 20171 votes

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Tell me if you find it, it's like 5 pages down on the most popular boards posts I think

I'll check it out! I did a search and all I found was some custom South Park skin for kennen. Thanks so much for the follow-up Jared!!!!

logic301Feb 8, 20171 votes

Aha!! http://boards.na.leagueoflegends.com/en/c/miscellaneous/Go9Z5OYN-wanting-to-do-something-special-for-an-awesome-friend-riot-please-help-3

zivistFeb 9, 20171 votes

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Aha!! http://boards.na.leagueoflegends.com/en/c/miscellaneous/Go9Z5OYN-wanting-to-do-something-special-for-an-awesome-friend-riot-please-help-3

Your the man Jared!!!!

logic301Feb 10, 20171 votes

Tell me if it helps u! :)

Kukan SeishinFeb 5, 20171 votes

Tell him I say fight hard! This is doable never give up!

vOmvbrawfUFeb 5, 20171 votes

Maybe we could start a campaign to stop the use of "cancer" for trivial matters in-game.

Cancer has multiple definitions...and I'm pretty sure the other ones were used well before people even knew what medical cancer was.

ArakadiaFeb 5, 20171 votes

I hate cancer. It's so unfair and horrible to have your life ripped away. I'd rather have cancer a cure for cancer than any number of millions of dollars. None of my family in CA have had to deal with it, but others have.

Sorry for your friend.

zivistFeb 6, 20171 votes

Just an update:

We are leaning towards doing a kind of random rules tourney. We haven't figured out what the rules are yet. She will be really zonked after the surgery so, we want This make a tourney that would mess with everyone else though sorta level the playing field. Thanks for all the care and concern so far! Let's keep the good ideas coming!

Zivist

K0SMOSFeb 6, 20171 votes

My heart goes out to you and your friend and I hope all will go well. I know that this community can be mean however in cases like this I know that we will band together to support you and your friend.

"You have to fight through the bad times to earn some of the best days of your life."

To your friend I would like to tell them to not fret about the surgery. Trust in the doctors, stay calm and the procedure should go smoothly. My grandmother had cancer while I was very young she went through surgery and through our support and the great effort by the doctors she was able to have a successful surgery and is able to spend time with her grandchildren.

"Life is to short to fret about the storm of tomorrow, spend today doing what you enjoy and being with those you love."

Do not spend these few days before the surgery worrying. Do what you enjoy and love each of these few days to the most that you can. I suggest you stay calm and be happy.

I want to put myself out there and say if there is anything I can do within League to help make these few days some of the most happy days of your friends life I am up for it. Your friends positivity should be rewarded especially in this time and I hope that all will go well with the surgery.

Sincerely, ShadowDragon48

zivistFeb 6, 20171 votes

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My heart goes out to you and your friend and I hope all will go well. I know that this community can be mean however in cases like this I know that we will band together to support you and your friend.

"You have to fight through the bad times to earn some of the best days of your life."

To your friend I would like to tell them to not fret about the surgery. Trust in the doctors, stay calm and the procedure should go smoothly. My grandmother had cancer while I was very young she went through surgery and through our support and the great effort by the doctors she was able to have a successful surgery and is able to spend time with her grandchildren.

"Life is to short to fret about the storm of tomorrow, spend today doing what you enjoy and being with those you love."

Do not spend these few days before the surgery worrying. Do what you enjoy and love each of these few days to the most that you can. I suggest you stay calm and be happy.

I want to put myself out there and say if there is anything I can do within League to help make these few days some of the most happy days of your friends life I am up for it. Your friends positivity should be rewarded especially in this time and I hope that all will go well with the surgery.

Sincerely, ShadowDragon48

That was an amazingly thoughtful gesture Shadow. Yeah, trolls happen. No worries. Thank you very much for the kind words. And, for the others whom have put forward similar sentiments. I'm sorry if I haven't responded to everyone who has put so many thoughtful words here. But, I assure you it is very very appreciated.

zivistFeb 6, 20171 votes

We have come up with the first really solid plan so far!!!!!

We will all be using banana icons staring the 15th of this month to show solidarity for our friend! Her summoner name has banana in it and she is support main so we think it fits great!!!!

If anyone uses the banana icon on the 15th take a screen shot! We will be deciding where to send the screenshots this week. Any help spreading the word would be very much appreciated. THE 15th IS GONNA BE THE BANANARAMMA!

I'll start a new thread to post screen shots by next week!

We are not done brainstorming though!!!!! If anyone has any good ideas, we are still more than open to suggestions!!!!!!!

Thanks again everyone!

Zivist

CresmontFeb 8, 20171 votes

you could try going onto reddit, a lot of high elo / rioters are on there, you could always appeal there

zivistFeb 9, 20171 votes

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you could try going onto reddit, a lot of high elo / rioters are on there, you could always appeal there

I have got to be honest, I have never been on reddit. I don't know where to start. I barely even use facebook. I don't have a twitter account. I know. I'm a caveman. This forum was the closest thing to social media I've used in a while. It's a good idea!

CresmontFeb 6, 20171 votes

hey there :D had a friend go through something similar, hope he turns out better than my friend did :(

anyways, try reaching otu to meddler, hes pretty active in the community jatt might help too

i can play with you sometimes if you want too IGN:cresmont

see you on the fields of justice summoner :D

zivistFeb 8, 20171 votes

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hey there :D had a friend go through something similar, hope he turns out better than my friend did :(

anyways, try reaching otu to meddler, hes pretty active in the community jatt might help too

i can play with you sometimes if you want too IGN:cresmont

see you on the fields of justice summoner :D

Thank you so much! Ya anybody we can get in contact with to get the word out would be great! Really appreciate it cresmont!!!!

zivistFeb 8, 20171 votes

I can't seem to find it, Jared. If you have the link it would be greatly appriciated!

midnight oil24Feb 8, 20171 votes

I know I'm late to the party, but I agree with you that using the word cancer or cancerous so lightly is a pretty terrible thing to do. Unfortunately, I can't think of any ways to help but I hope riot sees what you've got up here and works to stop the problem.

zivistFeb 9, 20171 votes

Just an unpdate! I can seem to find a banana icon or ward skin! Was it a fever dream?! Maybe we can all use the power up icon to wish her well!!!! You know the pixelated star icon. We still haven't decided where to send the screen shots. So, if anyone is more adept at Reddit maybe we can do it there. Otherwise I was thinking of posting it on a new page but in these forums so she can go directly to link and see the support!!!!

Again thanks so much everyone! I've been trying to scrape this together while in bed with a fever for the last 5 days and I'm sorry if I've been all Over the place.

Zivist