I finally took a reasonable steps to be less toxic.

Step one: If I am annoyed with someone i criticize them in the most ridiculous way possible so it is fun/light hearted. For example, I would say "be a real fucking American and get your CS up, this country wasn't built on kills alone". Almost taking on a Stephen Colbert persona. Making a point, but being so absurdly ridiculous about that the person can either say something just as absurd back and its funny or they actually take the advice. If I take on the persona and someone still disagrees with me at least they are disagreeing with my persona im presenting and not my actual personality. I know that sounds strange, but I think it keeps me having fun, and its fun for the people who understand satire.

Step two: For every ranked game i lose, I go and play one or two norms with the spot i lost at. Keeps me learning so I feel I am better prepared for the next match up in ranked.