I understand, completely.
It bugs me to no end. People are not considerate.
Even in this thread, there are folks who will ridicule you after you have achieved the ultimate form of defeat in League of Legends: The Permanent Ban. Going out on a tangent here, Even some of Riot's staff have utterly disappointed me at times.
Tyler1 has anger management issues, and there has been a Rioter who was called out for wishing death and torment on him in a painful and humiliating way (granted that individual was forced to quit or was fired, depending on how you look at it). It goes to show you that people have literally no sympathy towards the defeat and humiliation of another individual at times. But that is because we are all people with different stories.
I personally have anger issues and have gone through some really crappy times in life. But people I know, especially classmates, have described me as a Godly Nice individual (i would refuse such praise often).
Back to my point, i will not walk behind you and twist the knife that has already been placed in your back as others would. I prefer to see you as who you might be rather than who you are based on a moment of lapse. As an individual with anger management issues, I can relate to your feelings of having a game ruined and finally having "enough-is-enough" feelings. One day, I hope that Riot really does consider reforming its policies on punishment as they are often times severe and very final, more so than they should be at times. That they can ban an 8-year old Legacy account on the whim with the reasoning that "You shall never reform" is arbitrary at best, since HELLO! I'm still here on a new account, honor level 5, just suffering the loss of something I held with memorabilia over a few bad outbursts during a time of hardship in my life that will forever haunt me. Sorry, that is not the point of this post.
I sympathize with you. Unfortunately, the decisions made are backed legally by the Terms of Use.
What we have to do is forge the opportunity that one day we can force Riot to wholeheartedly consider that they are perhaps approaching the issue of toxicity the wrong way, perhaps making it worse. From my perspective, the only way to succeed in doing this is to prove that we can, will, and are able to reform and prove them and the system they employ wrong. It is flawed, But we have to make it appear so flawed that they have no choice but to revise the policy on bans.
Perhaps a 1 year ban should be the next step after a 14-Day Ban. People mature. Children grow up into adults. Men and Women make life changing decisions. Perhaps it is not so wrong to believe that an individual can become a whole new person after a year break from League of Legends.
It is a terrible thing to happen to people like us. Putting so much of our energy, emotion, chakra or vital essence into a common goal, only to be told "You are apart the 0.006%" is a toxic action unto itself and does not do anything to promote reform.
It might sound very corny or New Age-ish, but the best thing we can do is help others to beat negative expectations that Reform is impossible.
Did this make sense? I am not the best speaker, but it all comes from the heart.
That 0.006% message almost made me give up on League of Legends. If it did that to me, there's no telling how many other people actually DID give up on it due to a toxic message like that.
If it helps you out, I will share with you what helped me to reform and get this account to Honor level 5 and stay there:
Remember, It is every bit as much THEIR game as it is YOUR game. You cannot and SHOULD not ever try to play someone else's game for them.
- Playing your own game is already stressful enough that you feel the need to take a break every now and then from grinding out games.
- When someone else starts flaming or insulting or generally being toxic, LET THEM DO THEM. Your job is to do YOU better than they can do themselves.
- When someone else starts becoming toxic, they become a toxic timebomb. As you have witnessed first hand, the system is very strict about toxicity to a certain degree. Do not make contact with them. Don't tell them about themselves. Do not mention what makes you feel a certain way in chat. If you do this, you are already infected with their toxicity.
- Lastly, WE are not JUDGE, JUROR, NOR EXECUTIONER! We do not get paid to talk to toxic people. Riot does. Let THEM do their job. They have guidelines they must follow, and they make a living doing it. You and I on the other hand give voice to the injustice they inflict on your games or on other people. NEVER fail to report toxic behavior. It is YOUR game, too, afterall. The reporting system is the tool they provide us to help them clean up the game.
I type this to you because you have a sense of decency. I do not type this much or put this much effort into everyone. I know you will make good on this, or else I would not do this (it would be a waste of time).
Help me, and others like us, prove that the Policy on Bans needs to change. What is banned is banned, and permanent is everlasting.
Going forward, lets make the road for the Next Generation of League Of Legends Summoners not be so rocky and frustrating as hell.
Sorry for the massive wall of text, but I'm not so great with words that I can say what I want to say in so few.
Good luck out there, and stay awesome, man.
Please, stay awesome.
[sg-ezreal]
