In order to meet the standards set by Riot. I must become a punching bag?

I simply refuse to be a victim. I dont go into games insulting people or even cursing out people for making mistakes or misplaying. But when other players are rude to me or actively griefing me i bite back and that is somehow wrong? It takes less than five minutes to read the chat logs and see who instigated a hostile situation. As a jungler whenever a lane is doing poorly its my fault. Doesnt matter how well im doing, how many objectives ive taken or how many lanes ive enabled to win. If one lane feels i shouldve been there more i get flamed. If i priorities counter jungling over ganking. Flamed. If i miss a smite, flamed. The problem is that nobody usually cares unless it affects them. The top laner whos abusive towards me for ganking other lanes is less likely to be reported than a game where the enemy jungler snowballs and carries. Ill get flamed by multiple people and if i dare to bite back i get reported more than once. We arent robots. The expectation shouldn't be on players to have unlimited reserves to patience in the face of spiteful relentless stupidity. Why are reports an investigation of only one player? Every situation is not linear. The whole chat log for the team should be reviewed and the aggressors should be punished. Fighting back and standing up for yourself should never be a punishable offense.