A few things:
Trash talking:
(Someone misses an easy shot/execute/smite/etc): Nice one, way to get that kill|smite|etc
Harassment
(Someone misses an easy shot/execute/smite/etc): you're legit brain damaged (to use one of your examples).
Hey look someone who is probably fairly new to online gaming. So if you have someone literally running it down mid you just say
"oh don't worry you'll get them next time" as they proceed to throw away a promo you played very hard to get. If you do then congrats you're an enabler of bad behavior because you care more about the one person who is trash than the others who are genuinely trying to enjoy the game and win because that person maybe ruining the game but hey he is a human being and he shouldn't suffer any consequence for his actions.
It is not about caring more, it is about all unacceptable behavior, chat or gameplay. Just because someone is breaking the rules does not give you license to do so as well.
Reporting for verbal gets more a response than someone feeding so spare me the "report for feeding and move on".
No, it is more frequently, and quickly, punished because it is easier to detect. If inting was as easy to detect as chat behavior, I guarantee the boards would be flooded with people complaining that "I wasn't inting, it was just a bad game!" There is also confirmation bias going on here. In many cases, people truly don't understand why their chat is unacceptable or they disagree with the rules. Most people truly inting, and punished for it, one can surmise that they know they were and know that it is against the rules. So they take their lumps and don't post here about it.
I personally find nothing more frustrating than doing everything right just to have someone come and mess it up then demand they be showered with praise.
To be honest, the fact that this is a team game, and it requires team effort to play well, anything other than 5v5 teams seems crazy to me. It is like playing in an organized league of basketball/baseball/soccer/football/hockey/etc with a bunch of random people you found at the local Starbucks. It makes no sense. The problem is most of the playerbase don't have the time to put in the time to practice enough for 5v5s. This is exactly why I don't and never will, play ranked solo/duo.
If you don't think people are assholes online then I have to ask where have you been? There's no changing how people are going to act behind a screen instead change yourself to be strong and not take things said in an online game seriously.
How about instead of treating the internet as a protective shield where you act like a complete and utter jackass in the face of anonymity, treat the random players as they are sitting right next to you; remember that there is an actual person at the other end of that chatbox.
So instead of venting to either an afk troll or someone who feeds from misplays then afks you would rather players just go to forums to vent where they will be told they are acting foolish. Instead of venting to other people in the game and have some sort of moment of collective hatred for the one or more persons ruining for everyone and you want to ban people for that instead of just letting what needs to be said out to the person who caused it. Because humans are so special yet they cant handling things said in a virtual space?
Collective hatred helps...how?
Hint: it doesn't help at all
What needs to be said? You need to start flaming? Is it going to help?
Answers: 1) Nothing, 2) No, 3) No
All it serves is to breed further discontent within the team. If you are losing at the time you start berating your teammates, you will surely be losing even harder after. Again, pretend you are in-person, playing a pick-up game of basketball, because that is essentially what solo/duo queue.
I'm not the one trying to get someone banned from a game because i do poorly and get flamed. I know my feelings are not above anyone elses' I know people get mad and say things that shouldn't be said. You hurt yourself on accident you curse and its relieving in a way why is it any different when you do it to someone screwing your game is all I'm asking? Why does the guy who ruins everything you worked for get a pass for his feelings but yours of anger and frustration have to bottled up for the sake of them? Yet they can do all the toxic in game behavior they want as long as it isnt saying anything that can be taken out of context that can be negative?
Curse all you want. You can say any fucking curse word your god damned heart desires. Say that shit with me, out loud if you want:
FUCK
The difference is you are not directing this at anyone in particular. Once you decide to say "you fucking suck, uninstall" it is harassment. Plain and simple.
Lastly, use the reply button on another reply here, rather than using the main box. Otherwise, you are losing the conversational nature of the boards, and your posts can get out of order (and no longer appear to be coherent).