sitting in que for 30 min at gold elo

sitting in que for 30 min at gold elo i tryd to leave a champ sel because i didnt want to play a game that our top and sup didnt switch and was just going to troll but the game had connected i was fine taking a penalty which i thought was -3 lp and time of 5 because i dont leave games but i just wanted to play a real game but it was -16 lp (feels bad man) but now been in a que for 30+ min ?????? not sure why