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I'm toxic and want/need to stop. Help

KeZeio·1/14/2018, 10:42:59 AM·2 votes·621 views

For example: I get into a ranked game and matched with shit silver players because i myself am a shit silver player and I acknowledge that. Say for example I'm playing for teamfights like Shadow Assassin Kayn where I make a fight 5 v 4 where im absent but actually waiting for my team to engage so i can go in from the side or behind to W Q AA R or something to get a lot of big damage off of the backline, but yet even if i were to explain myself and my strategy people would flame me for being "absent in teamfights" or if I wait for someone to engage so i can engage with them as lets say rhaast where I see people pinging omw or wanting to engage so i engage with them when its a very winnable fight the second I use my R the entire team would back out and i would die and they would flame me for going in 1 v 5 whenever they would engage or i would try to engage. I cant help but flame because no matter what I do they just wont follow up. I do get the occasional game where my team actually works together and I win those games easily. But it's really hard to not flame someone if they start flaming at me for no reason. Granted theres always the option to "just mute them" but it just tilts me because people like that shouldnt be in the game to begin with. The last game I played I had a kayn who would only go for kills and flamed me for my shit KDA whenever I was going for towers and inhibs. He always wanted to start a fight whenever he was rhaast and told me that i was trash because of my shit kda. So naturally i flamed back and told him that kills dont win games, objectives do. I know for a fact I will be permabanned if I dont stop soon but sometimes i cant help it when i get players like that. Someone please help. Thanks,

KeZeio

7 Comments

Umbral Regent1/14/2018, 11:24:53 AM3 votes

Before I start, I'd like to say that it's good of you to take the initiative and look for ways to better yourself. Just doing so is a step in the right direction.

My advice would be the following:

Breathe. Take measured breaths - four seconds in, seven seconds out. Whenever I get particularly frustrated, I do those breathing exercises to level myself out and regain focus on the situation. It may not work for everybody, but it's certainly worth a try.
When it comes to allies not engaging and teamfights going awry, I'd personally advise to take some time in the match to recoup the losses - spend a bit more time farming if possible, and avoid actively getting into fights. Take them if you must, but you probably need a minute or two to recover from the teamfight, and getting straight back into another one would likely be detrimental.
It'll probably sound like a broken record, but it still works wonders - if someone is flaming you, your best bet is to mute them flat-out. Pings, emotes, and chat. Sure, this could lead to matches where you're more-or-less flying blind because everybody on your team is flaming you, but I've found that silence allows me to better collect myself and work off of my intuition towards a win.
This one is pretty tough, since it sits in the realm of willpower, but, if you feel like typing something to somebody - especially if they're flaming - try to think: "Is my response good or bad? Am I being sarcastic, or a little snappy? Am I keeping my cool? Do I even need to say this?" - These are just a handful of questions that can help prevent flame, but again, it requires a fair bit of conscious effort and the ability to catch yourself before you type.

I hope some of these suggestions help!

TheProfezzor1/14/2018, 11:17:35 AM2 votes

I understand where you're coming from. I used to be like you. Felt like I was better than my elo and very openly flamed people who I thought were bad. I didn't say very offensive stuff like racist jargon or "kys" to lead to perm but I did get several chat restrictions. Couple reasons I have stopped flaming (well not entirely but prob reduced 90%) 1. I'm burnt out. You will be matched maked with bad players again, and again, and again...it doesn't stop in low silver, high/low gold, high plat. Get used to it. You cannot control it. I have become numb to the garbage that is this matchmaking. 2. I don't want to be permed. I've probably spent at least $500 on this account in RP/skins. If I lose it I won't be coming back (actually may be a good thing-lawl). 3. It's just BM to do. Back to point 1 you/we really should be blaming Riot matchmaking. I often question how these bads have the same MMR as myself. Something is wrong here. It's not their fault they are on my team, that's Riot's fault. Put them in the damn bracket they deserve. You're doing every a disservice! 4. No one likes a BMer. Do your best to hold your tongue. The only thing you get out of flaming is being able to vent but you have a lot more to lose...like your account (not worth).

GL out there. Your stats aren't bad though you do have a couple very high death games. Don't die as much. :)

IvernBramblefoot1/14/2018, 12:27:17 PM2 votes

inhale of the mystic herb, it shall cleanse your soul and your heart of all the sickness of rage.

https://vignette.wikia.nocookie.net/hmwikia/images/f/fd/Mystic-herb.png/revision/latest?cb=20160403160641

kevin heals you1/14/2018, 9:11:56 PM2 votes

you have to accept your trash and stop blaming others. your blame for others comes from the fact u THINK you know what your doing but you don't, if you did you wouldn't be silver so instead of flaming your teamates for your shitty no brain mistakes look at what you could have done differently instead

Bijeesny1/14/2018, 1:16:01 PM1 votes

idk if it's still avaliable, but if you type /note <message> it will be only visible to you and not your teammate. i used to do it if I have and urge to flame some1 but i forgot about it with time xd for example: /note fucking garbage top lane no followup pls uninstall the game and jump of a bridge you maggot it will create a notepad folder in ur league folder and it will appear like you typed a message to somebody so try that it can be rwally useful if you can't hold yourself from flaming

VeganScout1/14/2018, 4:04:39 PM1 votes

I feel the pain man.

General Esdeath 1/14/2018, 11:12:26 AM1 votes

Best advice, take a break. Work out your anger, find what causes it, because it's probably not League.