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HELP ME BE MORE POSITIVE PLEASE

Furge·8/31/2015, 11:01:19 PM·1 votes·737 views

I'm a douche. I'm frequently toxic as all hell, and often feel salty in champ select, expecting of a negative experience. I do not enjoy it, I regret it immediately (or shortly afterwards when frustration ceases clouding judgment), and I am constantly aware that many of my losses may have been wins if I could have resisted this compelling urge to ruin everything. I feel trapped in Silver (I'm currently silver 2) and though I believe my mechanics and knowledge are consistent with players in higher tiers, I am aware that my attitude is wood 5 and is the primary thing holding me back. I legitimately hate being toxic, and yet I struggle with resisting it. Although it's just a game, I find it very difficult to not feel as though my time and effort is being wasted when I'm consistently watching the same mistakes made by generic PUG teammates, and that feeling of time being wasted frustrates me to no end. I don't yet understand why I struggle so hard to not be toxic, but I'm actually pretty surprised I've never been banned.

I'd appreciate some tips to be a less sh*tty person, lol

7 Comments

Loli Lulu8/31/2015, 11:20:39 PM2 votes

Everyone is different I suppose - maybe you're just very competitive by nature, and quick to anger. Wanting to improve and recognizing your fault is definitely a great first step! =]

There are many things you can do to keep your mind calm. Some ways are better than others depending on the person. You can try playing while listening to your favorite music for one. Something cheesy that's always thrown around is "think of rainbows, sparkles and unicorns" or something like that. While you don't have to think of those things, having an "anchor" is very helpful. It would be anything that can quickly calm your mind and/or bring back pleasant, positive memories. Could be something like your favorite Champion in the game!

Try to analyze the instances that are making you react in a mean way. Think back on how you can avoid doing so.

  • Didn't get the role you wanted? Think of this as practice for another role! Perhaps there may have been something you could have said to convince your team to let you play your role. (And I don't mean, "-role- or feed!")
  • Is there a troll on your team? Mute them, and ignore them.
  • Is there a "feeder" on your team? Did your team make a mistake? Maybe they're having a bad game/day. You have those too, don't you? You wouldn't want to be yelled at when you already know you're doing badly right?
  • Is there a purposeful troll feeder on your team? Tough luck! Mute them, play and try to learn even when knowing defeat may be inevitable. Never stoop to their level.

Something important is just to be mindful of yourself and your desire to be less toxic. If you catch yourself starting to get angry, try one of those methods mentioned earlier to calm yourself. If you're feeling bad at the end of a game, take a little break. Don't immediately queue into your next game, or that will likely make things worse. In the meantime, you could do something to relieve stress. Maybe do some physical activity, walk around, yoga, etc.

You can do it!

Treeofwar8/31/2015, 11:23:07 PM1 votes

try and just calm down look at what happened some times people have bad days and they cant help but not do well so when that happens to me i just either have fun with my friends joke around and stuff or listen to music and play to myself. Most people rage at the team instead of saying that was not a good time to engage lets just stay back for a bit, or something along those lines give positive feed back and even if you are mad just say it anyways to keep the teams moral good and maybe they will do more for you and the team such as listen to the shot caller or over all there attitude will go up.

Forsaken18/31/2015, 11:23:27 PM1 votes

Set a standard so high in your play that you do not have time to worry about anything but your own mistakes. Ask youself this how many games have you played perfectly not missing one cs landing all skills shots warding flawlessly, and lost. Unless your in the lcs its none.

personally its what I do atm my last score I died two times in a match, atm im upset about it and im think WTF im dieing to these terrible kids?!@!

Lyless8/31/2015, 11:28:42 PM1 votes

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I'm a douche. I'm frequently toxic as all hell, and often feel salty in champ select, expecting of a negative experience. I do not enjoy it, I regret it immediately (or shortly afterwards when frustration ceases clouding judgment), and I am constantly aware that many of my losses may have been wins if I could have resisted this compelling urge to ruin everything. I feel trapped in Silver (I'm currently silver 2) and though I believe my mechanics and knowledge are consistent with players in higher tiers, I am aware that my attitude is wood 5 and is the primary thing holding me back. I legitimately hate being toxic, and yet I struggle with resisting it. Although it's just a game, I find it very difficult to not feel as though my time and effort is being wasted when I'm consistently watching the same mistakes made by generic PUG teammates, and that feeling of time being wasted frustrates me to no end. I don't yet understand why I struggle so hard to not be toxic, but I'm actually pretty surprised I've never been banned.

I'd appreciate some tips to be a less sh*tty person, lol

Be yourself the end.