Advice on being calmer?

Stop caring if you lose or make a meaningful impact to the game. How do you do that? No idea.

Try to watch a lot of calm game players or ones that mess around a lot and emulate them.

OP,

I have a few tips that will help.

First, move the chat off screen. If you can't argue with your teammates, you can't continue being mad over stuff. Two, focus on what YOU can do, not what you want them to do. If they go in 1v5, don't follow them, ping everyone else to back off, so no one else dies. Sometimes, you gotta just let darwins' theory take over. Third, while I recognize that everyone wants to win, It's just a game. Try to remember it's supposed to be fun. If you're losing, try to play around, and have fun with what you can do. Often times, even in losing games, I have 1:1 or higher KDA. I may not win, but I'm not going to be the person that's feeding if I can at all help it, right?

Above all keep in mind; most games in a losing trend can be turned around. The first person to rage usually ruins that chance. While you and 2 or three other people are arguing, the opponents are busy getting objectives. CSing and getting better items, and you're just taking that shovel and getting that 6' deep hole all ready for your next death. And then loss.

The person that rages is ALWAYS the person that loses the game for the team. Maybe not from a numbers perspective, but once you break morale, and people no longer want to work with you as a team, they're not going to do anything to help you win. So, all those games you lost while you were raging, they were your fault. Always remember that.

-T

I have a playlist specifically for playing games that keeps my head clear so I can make better decisions as a player. It has the side effect of calming me down, so I don't get upset.

It's basically ska + jazz + alt rock + instrumental stuff. Try something like it based on your preferences.

I don't think there is a way, imho. I am a competitive person. I literally take this game as serious as I did my college football games. Best thing to do is mute the "it's just a game" players to avoid getting chat banned over it.

Hello there! I am someone who truly believes that level of anger is unhealthy and, imo, irrational. I think that an often overlooked method of controlling such impulses is the "thought experiment" with cold logic as the objective.

Run scenarios that make you mad through your head so you can experience them but without there being anything at stake. This may allow for a more rational perception, one not clouded by anger.

I have thought about the impact of being critical of a teammate and my brain calculator predicts overwhelmingly that something unpleasant will ensue. So I don't. Not necessarily because they don't deserve it but because if I say something I am increasing my risk of them increasing whatever it is thats pissing me off.

Besides the risk of turning a giant ass into a bigger one, I consider that maybe the other person isn't what they appear. They could be 6 years old. They could be drug addict. They could blahblahblah whatever there are other ways to justify their behavior. If its the case that the person upsetting you is a 6 year old it changes how you should view their behavior but also your own. Telling a 6 year old hes the shittiest whatever and should kill himself, even feeling that way, turns the tables and now your the one with shit on your face. IMO at least.

Id be happy to discuss this further if you want just post a reply=)

Turn off all chat and when someone on your team starts to act up, mute them, don't respond. Takes less than a couple seconds to do this. This definitely helps block out the most toxic players of all, the "it's just a game"/"i get laid" players. I've been playing for 3 years and have close to 5000 games played. Every player that had said that, only says it when they're losing. Then they start to fuck around and it's game over.

I would love to comment in full here but alas I will have to wait until I have a little more time on my hands tonight.

Push ups before the match starts should help you keep calm. And if that's insufficient it'd probably help to get some more physical exercise.

I just quit caring. Enough to where I don't care about what people say in chat and just focus on making decent plays.

after losing like 8 ranked games in a row, reaching the apex of human anger you realize that being angry is alot of work.. wouldnt you say? I still still get at auto lockers, but das just about all that ever bothers me anymore cuz being mad all the time is too much work and im too fuqing lazy be like Dyrus ;l

music

If you go into a game with a positive attitude and are looking for fun, it's hard to get mad.

a healthy dose of horse tranquilizers usually does it for me

Best way i'd say is to mute anyone that makes any comment towards you, or a teammate that pisses you off. Anything at all, even if they don't mean it to, mute them, and you won't see any of it again.

As for things that happen in the game itself (I.E. people getting too greedy and tower diving/dying..etc) All you can do to better that situation is say something along the lines of "shit happens, try not to be too greedy lol" (throwing the lol in there seems to lighten the criticism sometimes) Or if someone's having an off game, just say "happens to the best of us". (There's a difference between someone intentionally feeding, and someone who's really just having a bad game) Responding to mistakes with constructive criticism helps everyone in the long run. It keeps you calm, and also comes off as you trying to help another player get better. If you respond with anything toxic such as "WORST JUNGLER NA" or "WOW yOU ASK FOR GANK AND THEN B WHEN I GANK, NO MORE GANKS FOR YOU" or anything else you could think of that literally has absolutely no positive addition to the game, I would refrain from typing it. You can think it all you want, but the second you type any type of toxic comment, the game is probably gunna be a loss.

Also, if you happen to be in a streak of off games, or games with toxic people, I would suggest logging off for a little while to calm down. Going into a game already pissed off is just setting yourself up for disaster. I do this a lot, because since I am unranked I have the mix of players that are bronze V and below, and also the random Diamond smurf. And more often than not it's the apparent diamond smurf who is toxic or trolling. (They most likely made an account just to troll lower level players) It's pretty sad that there's people out there with that much time on their hands.

Best way.. Listen to some cool laid back music.. Say nice things like youll get them next time.

okay, I have a few minutes to type now, and I think many of the prior posts may have covered this but it doesn't hurt to say it again.

First off the most helpful thing to do is to get into the right mindset. "You can't win every game, but every game is winnable". This quote really helped me to understand what I needed to know when going into a match. Going into every match with the mindset that you may lose. This isn't because of you or your allies or even your opponents. You just can't win every match. The second part of the quote also gets you to understand that the game can be won as well, because if you knew every game was going to be a loss you wouldn't want to play. You can win game too but regardless the losses are usually where people rage. Earlier on someone made the comparison between thinking "Losing doesn't matter" and "Winning doesn't matter". The reality is it shouldn't matter if you lose. But it should matter if you win. Losing is part of the game. Even the pros lose, and yes sometimes they lose to even the bronzies. It isn't always about skill, there is a luck factor in there aswell.

Also to help your mindset try to find some music. Now I see a lot of comments about finding a playlist that calms them, and yes this helps but don't spend too much time trying to find the perfect songs. You also shouldn't find songs where the words are what is soothing because players tend to zone out of what they are listening to when they are in game and focus on the game. Therefore listen for the background of the music. I personally play with classical music, and my friend plays with techno because they are without senseless words and we can focus on the game itself.

Once you're in the right mindset you can really look at the gameplay. One of my mentors said it best as far as the gameplay of others. "You can only change how you play, and you have no control over how others play. So why focus on how they are doing?" This helped me out too because I would, like many other people, ask myself "WTF why didn't XXXX ult them??" or some such nonsense. Since hearing this advice it becomes, "Yea I can get mad at XXXX for not ulting, but what could I have done to turn that around?" This makes it less about them and more about learning what you can do. Many players think themselves better than their competition and allies, but the reality is you play where you are at skill wise, if you want to do better stop looking at your allies and opponents and try to figure out what you can do to get better.

"Be a duck..." No this isn't a troll quote. Let it run off. Matches are like a drop of water and they will end. At the end of the match leave the anger, rage, and whatever happened in that match stay in that match. Let it run off and move on. The game is set up in such a way that you start with a clean slate each time, why carry emotions over when you otherwise have a clean slate for a new game.

That being said many times you end up getting mad anyway. There are some simple things you can do between matches that can greatly reduce your overall anger. First off is to do some quick exercises. You can burn off some anger pretty easy if you drop and do 20 pushups and 40 situps before queuing up again. Many people don't want to exercise and that is fine but don't blow off the value of burning that anger up in some healthy physical manner.

A final thought, when you are getting those people that are raging, just mute them. If you make an error, someone says something to irritate you, mute them. Someone taunting you, mute. It really isn't a bad thing and it takes a lot less time out of your game to click that little mute icon than it does to type out what you want to say to them. Focus on your game not the chat.