I sense I'm going to have a ban or a chat restriction again sometime soon, i just want some tips on how not to get seriously pissed off when others make mistakes. I want to know how to deal with such problems in ranked because i like to take ranked seriously. Any tips would be useful I don't want to lose my account... I know i can be down right rude too, i just get so mad. i know its a game . ;/
What helped me was when i watched WildTurtle's stream. he said if you have an attitude "no matter what happens in a game, there's always something YOU ALONE could have done to carry and win that game for your team"
the idea behind it is, even if it's virtually impossible to carry, you always blame yourself instead of your teammates for the loss, and you learn from your mistakes if you're only looking at the things YOU did wrong.
when i took up this view, it helped me improve my game and reach platinum at the end of season 4. when your teammates are doing stupid things, take it as an opportunity to learn how to win with THESE people.
Then it becomes about learning rather than raging.
hope this helped!
if you arent on skype or playing with friends nearby i recommend just saying it out load. it works for me when im getting fed up
Its tough. Ive always had a temper, and this game exacerbates it like none other. I can go play CS:Go, TF2, basically any other game but this game just pushes my buttons.
For the most part I dont get mad at my teammates poor plays. I get mad when I get baited by them. Like, when you know its a bad idea, or you want to back, or you want to do anything else because you know its a bad idea, but you follow through anyways like a good teammate and get baited. That just sets me on tilt and rage mode fast. Also, playing team-oriented builds and roles and getting screwed over by people who dont care and do whatever they want.
I get out of this occasionally by just doing my own thing. Stop playing full tanks, and pure supports, stop getting baited by my supports and junglers, and generally focus on having a good game or wrecking some people to the beat of my own drum. As bad as it sounds, I am worse when I try and be a team player. Its no surprise that I do the best when I first come back to league and I dont rage, and I dont care what happens, I just do my own thing and work on getting my abilities back, and I magically play 100x better in that first month or so than I will the next 3-4 I tryhard in. I really noticed this when I made a smurf to play another role, and I cared so little about winning or what my team was doing, and just did my own thing top lane with cheap champs trying to learn the lane and got an entire division/tier higher than on this account. Kind of opened my eyes. But I still rage from time to time, and I am trying to not rage.
my advice is, if you get mad then just yell in your own house and get as mad as you want but just don't say anything offensive in chat and instead of saying "You Suck! Just fukking AFK already you miserable feeder!" try re-wording it as "Hey ashe try to stay behing ur turret and farm safely, I'm winning my lane so I'll come help as soon as I can just try not to die" point is to just try to help ur teammates rather than scold them, not everyone is as good as the next guy. besides screaming at teammates through chat isn't only immature it shows a lack of leadership and it will only help an already losing team to fall faster.
The bottom line is you have to stop caring.
You need to not care if you win (even though you will try your best to win)
You need to not care about other toxic people
Easier said that done. Its a Zen thing
Appreciate the tips. I feel like I've tried the whole blame myself one for a while and it just had a wear and tear affect on me. There is only so much that can be my fault right? If i own up to mistakes there is always one guy who calls you out on it too. Like i feel like in every game if you're not giving insults you're receiving them. Maybe I'm just not a people person and that's why this game is hard for me. I'm with Dave too i play all kinds of games and no other game pisses me off like this one ahaha.
Agreed with farner, just focus on your own play and ignore what your teammates may or may not have done wrong. You can't control them anyways so it's a pointless effort.
I honestly don't know, yesterday I was having a problem with 2 games having really toxic people and I wasn't having a great day to begin with so I know I said some stuff back but the second one was obviously just looking to annoy someone and it happened to be me so I just muted them. That's honestly the best thing you can do and hope you get into a game with some decent people just looking to play the game and have fun.
Try disconnecting the Enter key from your keyboard so you physically can't chat :)
Seriously, it may be hard to do, but you have to remember that this is just a game. Try to look forward. If a teammate plays badly and you lose, so be it. That's the risk you take when you play an online random team game. Look forward to the next one. There will be more games than the one you just lost. Also, you will NEVER win all of your games. NEVER. Try to remember that also. You will lose games, that is inevitable. It might be because you were outplayed, or it might be because your team wasn't as good. But there is always a flip side. You will also have games where the enemy team has bad players. Think about the big picture, not just a single event in a single game.
Honestly? Do what I do. Stop caring about your team mates. You are not there to make them better, look at your mistakes.
I know it is hard to rage at the 10 mistakes someone made when I look at the 2 horrible ones I made and blame myself partly for the loss on them.
this is something you have to change about yourself at the foundation. take some time to meditate - no electronics, books, or anything. just take 15-30 minutes of alone time to think about it. ask yourself a few questions and try your best to answer them:
What happens to me personally when I get angry? Do I play better or worse? Does it impact my decisionmaking?
When you tell people off in chat, how does that impact them? Put yourself in their shoes - you're playing badly and some guy is ridiculing you and/or telling you what to do. You're already on tilt and you probably know it, so how does this person going off on you impact that?
When somebody is playing well and the rest of his team isn't, how do you feel? A little embarassed maybe that you aren't pulling your own weight? Angry at yourself? Maybe you're angry at them for stealing the limelight, or for constantly patting themselves on the back in chat? How does that impact your already poor play? Do you play worse or better? How could that strong player help improve your play and lift you rather than keep you down?
Human psychology is an interesting monster. It's easy to see what others are doing wrong, it's easy to see what you're personally doing wrong, but a lot of times it's best not to communicate that. Sometimes the best course of action is positive feedback for good actions and ignoring mistakes. Try your best to reinforce and lift your team's mood, rather than piss them off. Take some time to meditate and think about how you can do that and it will help you a lot.
