Too Upset to Keep Playing?
This is copy-pasted from my reply to some rager's thread but I thought it was pretty good and that it will have more of a chance to benefit everyone in it's own discussion as well. Take it as you will. long hair dont care
I realize you don't get to choose your team in Solo Queue and maybe you could benefit from learning how I deal with those guys. It's aggravating when my teammate blows a mistake out of proportion and begins trolling me. And it's even harder for me to receive such negative handling without lashing back. I play a lot of LoL, I mean a lot of LoL, so I naturally make a lot of mistakes. And mistakes in competitive games with strangers tend to bring out the worst in people. In the past I would deny mistakes, or try to make light of my error, or even push blame for what I did as the result of a teammates action. I still do sometimes, and I'm sometimes right. But when I'm playing and I get really upset... and the game ends but I'm still fuming from something a teammate said... I want to continue playing, start a new game and have some fun while kicking @#$... but at the same time... I'm very reluctant to hit play and to potentially experience again whatever it was I went through... In a game composed of complete strangers, whom I will probably never see again, those strangers have made me feel negative.
I don't like that. Personally, I don't get angry immediately, and I am usually none too bothered by what my teammates say. But sometimes I derp, and derp hard, and that one guy -maybe even the entire team consists of that "one guy"- will speak up and say "WTF Bro? GG". They usually don't say it as pleasantly but even if they do it's not any better. With the ranked environment as competitive as it is, I am usually trying my best and it's really embarrassing when I screw up and get called out on it. I tend to get angry at the person or people who treat me poorly for a mistake. And whenever I have a game that really just makes me feel negative, I know that it almost always begins with something I did or I simply would not be so upset. Whether I own up to my mistakes (sometimes I will, I'm definitely not perfect lol) or not, the games that make me feel worst are always, always, always the ones where I am at fault. It's even worse when everyone on the team knows it, worse yet when they say it. There's only one thing I know to do that makes me feel like I can hit play again. I just think. I sit and I think. I think back on the turning points of the games and I try to be honest with myself. I usually start with examining whatever led to my teammates being negative toward me and work out from there. When I find one or two things that I can take out of the game as something learned then that whole game was worth it for me. And there's always something to be learned, otherwise I wouldn't feel the way I do. But I'll take those "lessons learned" like that quote about the hot coal, and I'll hold them in my head, and I'll drop the rest of the game from memory. The only thing I want burned into my mind is what can help me navigate past any similar encounters in the future.
That's just how I handle it though. I have master friends that rage all the time, nothing as bad as you've described, but their way works for them. But whatever you're doing is clearly not working out for you, try changing it up for a while. I also have lower ranking friends that get really really really upset over losing even the most menial game of LoL, come on man Xd. They have their own way of "coping" with these kinds of losses (it usually involves tilting for so many games that they don't remember what started it) and they seem to become apathetic but you kinda need to care in order to win. I'm saying be apathetic to what your randomly matched teammates say, not the game. If you really need to then just mute them. I find that I sometimes need to be told I screwed up, however bluntly put, in order to better myself.
It may be really hard to do during the game, when the actions up, and when everyone is being critical and pedantic, but afterwards just try to make the game matter for something. Don't let them bad game tax dollars go to waste ;p