how to tell somebody to stop feeding ,(but in a nice way)
Is it possible ?
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"see if you can play smarter" "try to stay behind the team" "try not to fight alone" "stay with me" "dont initiate a fight until i/we do" "try to take objectives instead of fighting" and more
Give actual gameplay tips on how to play better, like tell that Sion to shield when Aatrox or Riven uses the 3rd Q.
Not really. League players are super defensive and will likely get upset over any advice you give them. Its best to just not say anything.
"stay safe" "get mag resist/sustain/etc" "stay with us and you'll be fine"
and this one takes longer to type, but it's really what a nervous player in a bad situation needs to hear:
"don't try to kill them back, it's ok. just don't let them kill you and farm while you can"
In some games I managed to send a player who wasn't really great in teamfights and not marked as dangerous by the enemy (so the enemy didn't keep a proper eye on them) go and backdoor while they all are busy mid. It worked (maybe because it was a normal game, but still).
Is it possible ?
If the person is intentionally feeding : he won't stop if you tell him to If the person is having a bad time : telling him to stop while he already has no real choice is not putting him into a situation where he actually has the choice to not feed.
tl;dr : both useless if intentional or not. Telling someone to stop feeding won't make him suddenly better at the game.
Ask if they need help. Formulate a plan to help, or if they don't want a gank, then you plan around the fed laner and the less fed teammate. Suggest building tankier.
Can u please help to push line and build some sustain? But the most important please stop dive into the enemy team.
They will still troll u........
"pls play safe <3 "
Too variable. Some people are set off by the SLIGHTEST suggestion that they are playing poorly. Stupidly enough, the average response to being called a feeder (or them deciding you've called them a feeder when all you said is "pls stop diving malzahar, he's just gonna keep ulting you to death" or some such) is to feed HARDER. League players are all collectively about on par with pouting 9 year olds on the maturity spectrum for some reason.
Most times, I'd say the possibility that saying something to them will actually help or change their strategy or behavior at ALL is so low that it's just not worth doing. Drawing attention to their failure or bad score will hardly ever inspire someone to nod, agree that they've been too reckless and make them play smarter. If they were the sort of person who played that rationally, you'd likely not be needing to tell them not to feed in the first place.
HOWEVER... in the rare case of someone who is feeding super hard through no fault of their own, you might be able to help the situation a bit. I would still not suggest saying anything along the lines of "pls stop feeding"... because that is blaming them for things and in this case they are not to blame. Maybe they're new to the champ or having a bad day and could be doing better but they are not INTENTIONALLY dying, so calling them feeders will just upset them. In the case of these people, I would suggest trying to uplift them. "don't worry, we'll still outscale them" after a death perhaps. Or "Hang in there man, I'm going to try to draw them to drag/sneak herald/gank for you/get bot fed/etc.". Let them know that A: you're supporting them, not blaming them... and B: You are still trying to win the game, even if it's not by helping them directly. People who are getting stomped and just DEMANDING help, well... there's not much you can do about them. They're not the kinds of people you should be talking to about this anyway. But a person just plain having a bad game? Them you can inspire a bit, just so long as you're not being a dick to them.
"Play safe."
In this community, even opening with a greeting will anger people. Telling them to "stop feeding" or "stop dying" or "play safe", or anything else stupidly vague and ambiguous will just anger people. Suggesting anything to anyone with a tunnel vision for a kill count will just anger them. Not everyone will know the lingo either. In worst cases, they don't even speak the language of the server they are playing on(I run into this one a lot)
No one is going to know how to "stay safe" from those words alone. Clearly they don't understand how to play safe to begin with. Using any vague words will just confuse them, and send them over the edge. First ask them how you can help, if they don't want help, leave them alone. Otherwise you will just anger them. Much like primal animals.
The best you can do is somehow use the situation to your advantage. The enemy team will likely tunnel vision attack the guy, use that as bait.
Broadly speaking, advice that has the best chance of working is:
- said to the whole team rather than one player, AND
- focuses on what to do rather than what not to do
For example "focus Vayne first", "remember to stay spread out in case of Malph ult", "we need to stick together as five now" MAY work depending on the circumstances and the players. "Stop getting caught out" or "Stop taking so many risks" are not likely to go over well.