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Dear LOL Community - Don't become a dick like me.

q3fogWe6LF·4/29/2017, 1:19:11 AM·33 votes·3,813 views

I was introduced to League of Legends by two of my closest friends back in the mid-season of Season 6, so I am just a baby to this community. At the time, I was extremely depressed while on the tail-end of a battle against renal cancer at the age of 23.

I was actually delighted by all of the wonderful characters, the designs and animations... I was so amazed and excited with this game!! ^_^

League became a very effective and entertaining distraction / "therapy" from the very dark things going on in my life during this time. Play League was fun - I could even bond with my friends, even while I had to be stuck inside a clean room after chemo.

But you know what - I just received my first ever 14-day ban... and it is all my fault.

That's right. It's my fault. Over time, I have become the most salty and toxic ~~son of a bitch~~ (ignore that, mom) person. If I encountered myself in-game, I would undoubtedly report myself in the post-game lobby.

How did I even get to this point? I'm just a lowly Silver 4 support main!

But guess what - I let my ego, my pride and a disturbingly toxic mouth (in chat) get the better of me.

I know that I'm better than this.

This isn't a rant about why my ban wasn't deserved.

Rather, It's a public rant against myself, knowing that I am better than what I've been.

I'm in no place to tell others how to be better.

Just, to the future me...

Please be kinder.
And more patient.
Stop getting so upset... it's just a game ^_^
And please, please, PLEASE stop being toxic and insulting to other people! Who the fuck are you to insult anyone anyway?!

And to the rest of this mostly lovely community, I do apologize. I pledge to no longer contribute to the toxicity in this community.

So please, The 7 DeadlySins, reform your behavior. Just enjoy the game for what it is.

And if anything else - don't lose yourself in a sea of unwarranted and misdirected emotion and toxic bullshit.

For a person who shouldn't even (medically-speaking) be alive, you're lucky, and you should stop acting as though life owes you a huge favor.

@ The 7 DeadlySins, get your shit together bro. Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

Thanks.

37 Comments

shadowlord7234/29/2017, 2:00:33 AM16 votes

Incredibly well said. Most people in this community tend to deny the fact on how toxic they've become to receive a ban. But you, my friend, you have downright admitted your mistakes. You not only chose the path to apologize to yourself, but to those around you as well. You have chose to promise yourself (and I hope you don't break it; I definitely 100% see great potential in you to keep it) to reform and not be the toxic man you had once become. You, sir, are a brave soldier, one which this community needs more of. With a post like this, you have gained my forgiveness (along with many other players who read this most likely). I wish you a successful future, whether it be in League or in your life. Cheers!

[slayer-pantheon-thumbs] [slayer-pantheon-thumbs] [slayer-pantheon-thumbs]

TacoKingIII4/29/2017, 8:51:19 AM3 votes

Why are we upvoting a toxic person?

All of the noobs4/29/2017, 4:46:53 AM3 votes

As a fellow support main you've managed to hit me in the feels. item 3070

Being a support can be one tough mental test, im talking with great experience here. We're expected to hand feed whatever we're given, make clutch saves and prevent players from not stepping on lego bricks- & if one thing goes wrong they'll not resist pointing all fingers on us. On the top of this, we have to depend on someone throughtout the whole game!

The temptation to fight fire with fire (toxicity in this case) is unreal. What you did is fully/ somewhat understandable- mabye not too acceptable, but a majority of us are have been in your shoes on this one. To give so much with nothing in return but hate could bring out the worst in anyone.

As a previous comment mentioned, a majority of such threads does the opposite of you. They disagree/ blame others/ you name it... and here you come laying down admitting your flaws...Even showing you've learnd from previous actions... I mean come on my eyes are leaking! :)

Take pride in your role. Your role, your actions and your decisions is essential & the reason why the game was as great it was. The supports effort is in a majority not noticed nor appreciated, but in the end you are a part of the nameless hero.

Have my upvote! <3 [slayer-pantheon-thumbs]

Cavesloth4/29/2017, 8:43:22 PM3 votes

Anyone else find it hilariously ironic that the people posting saying things to the effect of: DUH don't be toxic good for you for figured it out dumbass, are being toxic themselves?

As for the poster, good for you man, the first step is admitting you have a problem. Its very easy to become toxic in this game, ESPECIALLY playing support (it feels like herding cats most of the time) and riot doesn't do enough about it to discourage it, let alone encourage people to be friendly.

RFPSHBYQl74/29/2017, 10:08:33 AM2 votes

I have been there dude. I started playing late s4 and after a few months I got a 7 day ban, then even 14 day ban and inbetween a lot of restrictions. Afterwards I realised flaming doesn't help anything but ruin other people's mood + I were pretty sure that I'd be permamently banned if I kept going. Since my last ban I haven't even recieved a single warning. It feels good to be reformed and I'm glad you're too.

SecondAirbane4/29/2017, 1:30:36 AM2 votes

i started early season 5 so i'm only a child to this community

also when your ban expires add me we can gift eachother hextech keys and chests each week considering we're losing hextech privs for 3 months

acehole764/29/2017, 2:24:03 AM2 votes

im super toxic but i won't be changing

èGirl Nami4/29/2017, 4:42:07 AM2 votes

not all heros wear a cape

Votable Jester4/29/2017, 6:41:44 AM2 votes

Keep rage irl, don't send it over the chat. That's all it takes to not be toxic.

I've played this game for 4 years and have never had so much as a chat restriction, so I'd say I know what I'm talking about. I've cussed people out numerous times while playing (in fact, probably over 90% of all swearing I do is while playing LoL), but then in chat I'm super nice or at least silent.

Casual Anne4/29/2017, 11:06:07 PM2 votes

I believe in you! You're on your way to bigger and better games with this new attitude. I would know, I was a pretty toxic piece of trash when I first started playing. I never got a warning or a ban though so i guess I got lucky that I realized my own ugly behavior before it got out of hand. This made me so happy to read! From one support main to another <3 PS: I hope everything has been going well for your cancer. Wishing you the best. [slayer-jinx-wink]

Tik1154/30/2017, 12:02:13 AM2 votes

While I haven't gotten a ban yet (God knows how I haven't) I have taken steps to try to prevent things like that such as

Disabling all chat Muting teammates at the first hint of toxicity from or to them

Its amazing how the worse part of you is in the moment and if you restrict that means to retort in the moment you find you enjoy the game better

It also doesn't stop you from complaining about Yasuo or Lee as I am well aware

OnlyYouCanHearMe4/30/2017, 4:49:52 AM2 votes

It takes an incredible amount of personal strength to be able to face the things you have faced, and at such a young age; not only to face those battles, but to keep moving forwards and look for healthy sources of distraction. Most of the people here can relate to some form of depression, or will be able to at some point in their lives, but to carry that burden at the same time as cancer? That is enough to weigh heavily upon anyone's mind, and while even you are acknowledging that you did take things a bit too far at times, I would venture that there isn't a single other player reading this thread who has had to deal with both when they were so young.

But even more than the perseverance that you have shown in your battle for your health, I have to respect your strength of character for being able to firstly, admit your mistakes to yourself, and secondly, be willing to admit them to others. Many people prefer to delude themselves, seeking only for a way to cast the blame onto others and thus remove a need for absolution. But we all know that this only works for so long before a person can no longer deny the truth behind what they have done. And while it is never necessary for players to come here to the Boards and confess to any rule-breaking they might have done, it does take courage to do so. Which is something you seem to have shown time and again.

The last thing I will say is an exhortation to you. As you have no doubt read in the email/Reform Card which accompanied your 14 day suspension, if you receive another punishment in a short period of time, and your account has not had a chance to downgrade itself to one of the lower punishment tiers, that next punishment is automatically a permanent suspension of the account. Please, please be warned. It does not take much to trigger the permaban. A single use of hate speech, for example calling a duo queue friend a f-g or n----r as a joke, if reported by someone else in the game, would be more than enough. People have said that it's actually easier to go from the 14 day suspension to a permaban than it is to go from no punishments to the 10 game chat restriction for the first time.

You seem like a decent person, who has been through a lot of difficult things. I would hate to see you lose access to an account that has been a large part of your distraction and amusement during a very difficult part of your life. I don't mean to paint the situation as being bleak; it's far from that. The fact that you have already decided to change your behavior on your own is the biggest and most difficult step to make. If you ever have any questions about how to proceed with or how to handle a situation, you can always come to us here. While the majority of us are not Riot employees, the Arbiters are volunteers who work closely with Riot, and there are many players who comment in this section of the Board daily, who will try to help you in any way we can. There may be a handful of commenters who don't necessarily seem overly sympathetic, but the rest of us are like your own personal team of supports.

BLACK REALM GOD4/29/2017, 4:05:13 PM2 votes

i recommend no longer using words like "bitch" "shit" "toxic" etc. those words promote negative feelings in both the speaker and the listening party.

A Violet Raven4/29/2017, 10:52:55 PM2 votes

I completely understand how you feel. I've been playing this game on and off for the past four years, and even though I've never been restricted in any way, shape or form, I find myself feeling a lot more toxic than I was before I ever started playing. (It's bad enough that I wouldn't recommend any single person for any reason whatsoever to start playing this game at this point in time.)

As mentioned by others already, the first step to fixing the issue is admitting there is a problem. If need be, stop playing ranked if that's what gets you worked up and/or try to find a good couple friends to play with that can keep you from getting too frustrated. As a result of how aggravated I can get at league now, I decided to stop playing on my own completely and basically only play with friends (usually close to or completely full premade parties). They're chill, keep me from getting frustrated and actually make me enjoy playing again.

Bard Blyat Bard4/29/2017, 3:20:29 PM1 votes

Such a bullshit thread. You realized the obvious, good job.

Too bad this is not your personal Facebook or something, but the forums of an online game and you are right now grabbing some cheap upvotes with your disease or mental problems (many tried before in my 7 years here in the FORUMS, later BOARDS) for your self-esteem. Which is nice, but Jesus Christ, who the heck cares that you eventually behave normal and act like this is a great thing. You are not a good driver just because you do less road rage either.

Apparently this sort of self-centering is a thing in North American culture, hence all the social media shit coming from that place.

Keep this for your teacher or your psycho doc, they are more likely interested in what you achieved than some strangers over the internet - which you clearly over-estimate in both ways. They never care about you nor do they really want to hurt you with "toxicity". When someone flames me, I usually find something clever to make them shut up but you won't see me writing an essay about it with a lot of shoulder-patting like yours.

Bard Bard

paisy4/30/2017, 4:33:43 AM1 votes

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Great Muta4/29/2017, 2:04:18 PM1 votes

Yep, another Rito shill post.