Bringing down the ban's and chat restrictions for toxic behavior. Would that really be so bad?
Hey, I'm 100greenmen. To give some insight as to where I'm coming from, let me shed some light on myself. I've been playing league for a little over a year now, and throughout the years I've observed a lot of the culture that has circulated around league over the years. I gotta say it's pretty impressive how rich it is. I haven't said much of anything on the forums simply because I didn't have anything to "add" to any discussion. In an attempt to minimize the amount of rash backlash (if any) I won't specifically refer to any incident or user unless asked to back up my points.
One thing I've always been divided on however has been the treatment of people who would make the game more miserable for others. There are varying levels of toxicity and I'm not trying to say grow a pair and deal with it. Nor am I saying that you should be free to let loose every death threat and obscenity you can think of in a fit of rage. I am also aware of people that do deliberately go above and beyond making other people miserable because they're either really dense or they have no sense of self control.
I'm not here to call anyone out about how they feel, I just wish riot would be more lenient with who they permaban or chat restrict based on community feedback. It's happened in the past where a reputation or status can be enough to condemn someone who may not have been worse than other's without a bad reputation, whether they earned it or not. Or to immortalize someone from ever getting a restriction of any kind.
What I hope to get across to anyone who reads this, is that I don't think a system where anyone who works for riot should restrict or ban people for foul language. I can think of very few other games that do this, and I think the reason why is because riot does try to be very close with their playerbase. I'm sure that many think that riot is upholding an illusion of care for the community and that they're stupid. I do believe that some riot employees who frequently interact with the community are the ones who genuinely enjoy it, but I'm getting off track.
So what then. Allow toxic, trash talking, inconsiderate, sadists to say whatever they want whenever? Well. It's tough to say. League has a large player base, and odds are you're going to encounter more than a handful of people who are unable to restrain their rage are pretty high. Or you could just stumble across a few players who would be more than reasonable and pleasant under the right circumstances, but they had an unfavorable match up and got killed by something they didn't see coming.
I've seen people with fan loyal fan bases get banned whether they seemed to deserve it or not. In some cases very unjustly while others are seemingly immune to the ban hammer. I feel bad for the fan bases and that's partially what inspired me to talk about this. Most of what I'm saying is off the top of my head, and with that I welcome a discussion where we can earnestly talk about a compromise that riot could take for those that want to trash talk, and those who prefer calm collected sportsman ship.
One thing that could be done is having toxic players put in queue's with other players who are toxic. I hardly imagine I'm the first one to think of this, the only downside I can think of is what is essentially branding players as the bad guys and further dividing the community. Or maybe not. I dunno. It's all I can think of at 1:40 in the morning.
Or riot could just lay off completely as far as silencing or banning for toxicity. However I don't think that could happen, as much as some people would love it. But I do have to point out one inconsistency. There is a way to mute players. Ally or enemy. So why would there be a system in place to get rid of foul mouthed sailors.
And to reiterate, I'm not condoning or condemning toxic behavior. Personally I've actually come a long way as far as dealing with people who do flame. When I started playing a year ago I knew people were going to call me garbage, tell me I sucked, threaten to report me, etc. I thought it would be easy enough to brush off any insults hurled my way. But alas I have Asperger's (a form of autism), and one of the things that people with that (including me) have a hard time with it's anything that can be perceived as a threat. While writing this I realized that I can perhaps encourage people with the brief story I have to tell about how I overcame that. To some extent.
When I was like, 6 or whatever my mom got married to a man who at the time, seemed like a very caring and generally all around nice guy. Before the initial "incident" where he scared me to the point of wanting to either die or get rid of him somehow I had lived a fairly sheltered life. I'd never been yelled at (which is all he did at first) or felt scared of anything in my life. For the next 7 years or so I had been getting more and more afraid of him, to a point where I seriously considered jumping off a cliff that was nearby. The only thing that stopped me was worrying about weather or not the fall would kill me. That and a persuasive talk with my mom. It wasn't until I was 16 when I was over what was an extreme fear of the man, and I just kind of accepted that he was not going to change (although he has started). Just to clarify he'd done more than yell at me in between my childhood and mellow teen years. So I had reason to fear him. so for the next few years I avoided him as much as I could, simply because I didn't want to give him a chance to hurt me in any way, and because he was generally unpleasant to be around.
Since then I've started making amends and I will credit it to God, as I am a christian man. He's overcome his own child abuse and past relationship scars in the last few years. It's helped me to forgive him and now I know how to deal with people like him. I even managed to stand up to him, quaking in my socks when I thought he was putting my younger sisters down in a similar way that he did to me.
This never would have happened if I didn't every realize that I was the reason I was miserable around him. Yes his behavior was appalling but if I could take myself back 10 years, I wouldn't have been as hurt as I was.
So what am I trying to get across? I know it's annoying to deal with toxic people, or just people who hate you for being new and not knowing how to play a champ when it's your first time playing pvp. I also know what it's like to be the person raging at someone who could be new or having a bad game. It was miserable on both sides of the boat. So let me say that sheltering yourself or quieting others who offend you is unhealthy as it does not allow you to improve as a person. You have to challenge yourself in every aspect if you don't want to stay the same sad person. Bettering yourself in anyway weather in real life or online is more essential now than it's ever been. Just like your muscles, you can't build yourself up, unless you break yourself down first.
Some people might need to be broken more than others, some just need to be torn a bit. Either way don't be a turtle. Someone who lives within their comfort zone and retreats when things get uncomfortable. Unfortunately I can't offer a top ten list of the trendy tips and tricks for dealing with toxic people and becoming immune to them. (buy a wit's end) I just want to make a simple request that with time, patience and a whole lot of effort, could bring the community together and allow people who had problems with toxic talk to get over them.
Also as an afterthought I'd like to say I've seen a handful of threads that suggest not being a toxic player and to sort out any real life problems you may have. If you have anger problems or you are extremely toxic for the fun of it, I'm sorry you wasted your time reading through here. I'd recommend looking for any of the other threads for self improvement and anger management. Or discussing what I had to say here tonight. Even if you just want to call me a... you know I probably shouldn't be the first to say it. You never know when those who wield the mighty ban hammer might be watching. [slayer-jinx-wink]