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Any reformed players here?

Drukna·1/2/2019, 1:24:04 PM·1 votes·4,644 views
Drukna - Summoner Stats - League of Legends

I just received my second permanent ban and i gotta say, its pretty depressing. My first account was gold and after being banned (totally deserved) i was just about to hit 30 with this one when I got my second ban. I just spent my christmas money on the account too :(. Im not going to lie or excuse my behavior, I acted like an ass and totally deserved it. I didnt start it mind you, this feeding duo (0-11 mid and 1-11 jg) were being racist towards me and saying i must be trash because im black, but i totally took the bait and crossed acceptable lines.

I flame a lot but i never int, i never troll and i always try my hardest and often carry games even as a support main. Even if i get into it with someone like the jungler i'll still poke his camps for him while passing by and will never steal. My winrate with pyke is 70-80 percent even. I rage even on winning games.

Im not here to complain, i deserve what i got. Im here to ask how you guys deal with toxicity and feeders/inters without getting mad? what do you do to keep yourself off tilt?

How do i be a better person and player and calm tf down?

Just for a bit of background i grew up with a hooker for a mother (died of aids) and a dealer for a father and endured every form of abuse there is. Its left me pretty angry and hurt so i do have a few issues but i'd like to beat them and be able to play this game i love. When i get reported its not because i flame people doing bad or struggling, its usually when people flame me or call me trash. I go overboard in response. I think its reactionary because it hurts so much, i heard that enough growing up and im just trying my hardest.

So please, any tips from reformed players?

And if i flamed anyone in game that reads this im sorry, i'm mad at my own incompetence, not yours.

Thanks ahead of time guys.

8 Comments

NaturalSponge1/2/2019, 2:02:16 PM1 votes

Don't point out what they did wrong just encourage them to lighten up their mood. If they flame you again just breathe in and then mute them simple :D)

Kuponya1/2/2019, 3:00:30 PM1 votes

Everyone has their own issues, having them doesn't excuse the actions you CHOOSE to take.

GoDTroX 1v91/2/2019, 3:36:41 PM1 votes

1st what you can do is mute all at the start of the game, just to be safe, but dont mute pings ( mute pings only if it tilts you when your teammates spam) 2nd try to tell yourself bad things that your teammates could tell you, its for making yourself tilt-proof, but i am not sure if it will work for you. 3rd try to find good players that will not flame/trashtalk you and play with them. There is few tips that you can try, and tell us if it helped you.

XD haha1/2/2019, 4:58:25 PM1 votes

Look, on here people are gonna give you some really good tips to avoid raging, but if you really wanna change you gotta hear me out.

You said you grew up with some pretty bad influences right? Yeah it makes sense because it seems like by watching her behavior you have from the bottom of your heart subconsciously started copying her. I've personally played with a couple of players over 30 and they're all less susceptible to rage, like they still get angry and frustrated but then they just get over it. You should find some more mature players that are better at containing their rage, and make them your role models. Surround yourself with people you look up to, because slowly you will undo a lot of the effects from the negative influences that had been around you.

Another thing is you gotta understand where you are coming from, and where the other person is coming from. By the former I meant, you're really just here to play a game correct? Pride doesn't last any longer than the end of game screen, so just hold it until then, as soon as the game is over all your anguish will disappear. By the latter, I meant if you get permabanned you must have said some pretty bad things right? There's a reason those things are zero tolerance. Have you really been fair to others, and to those words, by using them without knowing what their full implications are?

Finally and this is if you have emotionally issues, you have to learn to be the controller, not the controllee. There is nothing more vulnerable than a person who is easily influenced by their surroundings. If you get mad then you are allowing the world around you to pull your strings. Know that you can break free of them, but taking a step back, even if it is a small one, and just examine the situation at hand. I personally like to imagine a ring of bells around me, and that each one of them corresponds to a certain emotion. Everytime I feel that emotion rising I would toll that bell to acknowledge it. It works so well because as the ringing resounds I am allowed a moment of peace to rethink my actions. If I feel lazy, the lazy bell, if I feel angry the angry bell, if i feel greedy, the greedy bell.

^_^ best of luck!

kneel on Ice1/2/2019, 5:31:16 PM1 votes

Dude if i were u i'd uninstall the game and find some sport hobby , not only you can put ur negative energy there instead of playing with some dumb strangers and having to be nice to them , but you already wasted so much time on those 2 accounts , and time is more valuable than you think bro ;) if the game banned you twice it doesn't deserve you (honest personal opinion )

Aseraan1/3/2019, 11:04:05 AM1 votes

I can be hardly called reformed since did drop to 0 honor got back to level 2 than droped to 1 again in just 1 season.