Realistic Thoughts on Community Blaming Each Other

So let me begin by saying that I am a top laner. I am a cautious player and if I see that I am against a counter then I play it safe, take cs, keep my tower up, and try to get a kill or two when the jungler is around. I realize that many players do not play like this nor am I asking them to but, I am getting into consistent matches where my team feeds and then blames me. Sure if I was a jungler or a mid that could gank easily then I may be at fault, but I am literally at top way away from my team. All that I can do for the most part is hold my lane and try to get fed or keep their top from getting fed until mid game. Yet, once we have progressed into mid game if I die to the enemy team even while tanking for my team purposefully then my team points fingers at me and blames me. Ex: A 1/10 teammate trying to ask why I built a certain item when it worked perfectly well up until I got 3v1ed a single time. Note: My build is pretty standard for my main champions and I constantly keep watch of what the enemy is building to counterpick items. I also play for the team as often as possible without feeding. I also find that in most of these occurrences of the "blame game" I aim pointed at right after 4 people are in top lane and killing me/taking my tower when I am like 1/2-0 and they are collectively 10+ kills. Are these just toxic players that want to point fingers at me for their own mistakes? I have given up trying to give them advice because then they just "reee" that I have built situational items rather than the same 6 they do for that champ (aka: Building thornmail/dead mans vs 5 ad rather than 1 magic resist item, its obviously not needed that match). I assume it is just because its Friday night and all of the toxic kids are on, but my main point here is that if you are going to blame someone else, at least make some sort of sense. Aka, blaming a guy who was winning lane but is now dying to fed enemy players should not be the one criticized. I am not saying "go blame others", I just know that some people will always blame others (and they often are not banned). So if you are one of those guys, then at least try to point out what the 1-11 guy that lost lane did wrong rather than the guy that just went from 0 to 3 deaths due to the fed enemy team. Who knows, maybe the guy that actually caused the problem did, in fact, build wrong or made really bad plays against a particular champ.