How to be happy in League

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• I know this sounds trite, but this game doesn't matter. No, really. It doesn't. If going from 75 CS to 100 CS in 10 minutes is the most important thing to you right now, you have a warped sense of importance.
• What a person says to you doesn't matter. What matters is your reaction. Nothing bad is going to happen if they start calling you a slur or choose this bad game to deride your overall skill.
• Be charitable towards people. Even if they insult you, just shrug it off or smack right back civilly. There is a difference between clever banter that is crass and childish idiocy. Yes, people can tell the difference. Some people might just want to have some fun trashtalk or playfully throw their weight around
• If you do not trust your emotions not to run high, then simply mute people and move on. Talking and hashing out your emotions with someone you trust can be useful, but as I can attest through personal experience, they are not your shrink. They will get tired of it, and you won't have the tools to deal with your emotions on your own. Exploding at people does not help them, your teammates or you. *This game does not require teamwork. What it requires is a series of learned behaviors through exposure to various skill levels that when put together in a group appear to be teamwork. It's that, "I just knew what to do," event in your games. Teamwork is communication within a team. Solo queue and normals are not teams; they are groups. Bettering your adaptation to these kinds of learned behaviors will keep your mind optimistic.

FOOLED YOU. THE TL;WR IS LONGER THAN THE POST!

1. I used to be sensitive. I used to think that when someone didn't finish me off in Hearthstone in the minimum amount of cards, they were insulting me and BMing me. 100% of the time. I used to think that I was responsible for my teammates' feelings. I would be reporting people every game or so.
2. I went to therapy for roughly 15 months.
3. I now understand that there is a wide berth of acceptable behaviors. Calling people slurs is probably not the best idea to make friends. Returning, "Good job" after a failed dive with "yeah, I fucked that up" instead of getting defensive or vindictive is good. Returning "good dive" from the enemy after said failure with "good dive" after he makes the same mistake is playful banter.
4. I honestly don't give a fuck now. It's liberating. I can't remember the last time I reported someone or even muted them.
5. I also hardly surrender now. Even 4v5s. Though I do find ARAM more fun than Rift...