I have to ask how do chat restrictions work 1 game and i get a 23 chat ban when the worst thing i said is "dense".
Chat restrictions are largely dealt on a basis of consistency and severity. If, as you say, the worst thing you said was "dense", then you likely had more than just one game of low-key misbehavior that contributed to your 25-game Chat Restriction; especially likely given that you had to have had a 10-game Chat Restriction previously for the system to step you up to a 25-game one.
We can't really say much regarding your behavior. You may think the worst you said was "dense", and that may be true, but calling someone dense is certainly only a part of the reason for your chat restriction, not the sole reason. Your behavior as a whole contributes to whether or not you get a punishment, so if you want to try to get a better understanding of the punishment, I'd personally recommend posting your chat logs for peer review.
wtf is that reasoning why cant i critique peoples gameplay?
You can critique people's gameplay, but calling people "dense" doesn't accomplish anything. You can give non-constructive criticism, but you can't give destructive criticism, and you're largely encouraged to give constructive criticism over non-constructive.
Tact is a major necessity when critiquing things, whether it be art or gameplay. If you can't be tactful, then your criticisms won't confer much, if any, benefit.
you wanna say tone and how you go about it but thats bull shit you ban chat on people with more direct natures to protect fucking snowflakes.
I have a pretty direct nature, and have even spoken plainly about failures on my teammates' part that resulted in lost fights. I have yet to suffer so much as a 10-game chat restriction.
Again; tact. It's a necessity. Despite the quote having somewhat inflammatory connotations, I may as well quote Winston Churchill here; (I think it's Churchill, anyway. If anyone knows the correct quote, please do tell me if I'm wrong.)
"Tact is the ability to tell someone to 'go to hell' in such a way that they'll look forward to the trip."
The best way to have your criticism have an impact is to make sure it's phrased well enough that people will accept it. I.E., calling someone "dense" is a no-go.
Additionally; if you have to call the people who reported you "snowflake", then it should be readily apparent that the problem is you, and not the person who reported you. You're not going to get anywhere by trying to deflect blame for your punishment onto the perceived lighter sensibilities/frailties of other people. Your behavior got you punished, not someone else getting offended by it.