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I need help on self control...

Ao Dracona·2/26/2019, 4:40:47 AM·3 votes·4,098 views

So in games that I lose I flame. It’s usually me flaming my adc or my jungler or someone going 0/12 or do poorly which then results in me saying “don’t ever play this game again” or “thx for the feeding” or “ggwp we already lost ff at 15” something like that. So yea I have a flaming problem and flaming doesn’t really help anyone win the game but it’s my only way of venting and whenever I flame or get tilted I end up not thinking what I say and lose control of myself and I don’t think when I get mad and also I REALLY don’t want to get this account perma’d so I’m trying to stop myself from slipping because ONE DAY if I continue my path of uncontrolled rage it will lead me to get banned. But this post and hopefully ways u guys can tell me on how to deal with team mates non verbally or confrontially will help me try to not flame more all suggestion and tips are appreciated thank u in advance

6 Comments

mack91122/26/2019, 6:49:07 AM4 votes

Dont focus on what your teammates did wrong as that will never make you play better instead only focus on you and your impact on the game.

If a play went bad and one of your teammates did something wrong instead think what could you have done differently

y0r1ck2/26/2019, 6:53:10 AM2 votes

Fuck it bro. If you have a bad game, just get on gameplay and vent. Everyone does it and it's better than doing it in game.

Buy a punching bag. Do some pushups. Go for a run. Stretch.

Take a relaxing shower. Watch a funny TV show. Talk to some friends.

Apostle of Light2/26/2019, 7:33:54 AM2 votes

It can definitely be hard to not flame when you're frustrated about being behind or losing, but think about it this way: If you DON'T flame, you might actually come back and win (which is really what you want, right?). Especially in Iron-Gold elos, teams that are ahead (even WAY ahead) often make huge mistakes and give the losing team opportunities to close the gap. And despite the mixed opinions on the bounty system, it certainly makes comebacks a lot more attainable.

However, if you flame, none of you will be focused enough or mentally collected enough to take advantage of the mistakes the other team makes. So, if you feel like flaming, just think: "What I really want most is to win, and there's still a chance of winning if I don't flame."

Koiyaki2/26/2019, 10:28:58 AM2 votes

as someone whose had a hard time in all forms of gaming, aka being flamed for something i cant change, i've learned that you can't control anyone but urself, and those being jerks to u ain't worth the energy.

With regards to league, wat i usually do is have youtube in the background, before i had my second monitor, i would just have some video playlist playing so i had some decent background noise to chill with. Now that i stream, i have music instead to try and deal with the jerks.

Another thing you could do is play norms with friend/find a dedicated duo to rank with u. if both of u can voice chat, not only will yall communicate better, then yall can bag on the jerks without wasting time typing out to them. And have a few laughs while doing so :3.

Another thing to remember, though the mute feature is not an excuse for flamers to continue flaming, its ur first and best front of defense. as soon as someone starts something, mute their chat, mute their pings, mute their emotes. outta sight, outta mind. Then remember to report those who made ur game more annoying than it needed to be. And for the love of sugar, leave post game chat as soon as ur done reporting as nothing good comes from arguing in post chat. u can get reported/banned for being a jerk in post chat as well.

Remember, at the end of the day, league is a game you play to enjoy, not to increase ur blood pressure. people think their big bad dude on the net, so don't indulge them by getting angry. Only you can control how u act.

p.s. if u do ever need another friend, i still have room on my list :3

NoDiscussion2/26/2019, 10:52:51 AM2 votes

You need to learn to have self control on your own which requires for you to stop and think about what you're doing. Insulting people online is different than having a quick tongue irl. You have to type it out in-game and that takes a little bit of time, starting from the moment you decide to flame someone to the point where you begin moving your hands into a typing position.

The only way you'll gain true self control is not by exerting your frustration elsewhere in some sort of way you vent, but learning to take your time and think first before you act. Think about what you're doing and stop yourself of your own free will.

Doing this will heavily improve your gameplay regardless of whether you're at the point that you're about to flame or not, and it'll further improve how you play when you'd get to a point where you'd normally start throwing insults around. When you starting insulting others, often times your own mind shuts down completely, and if you think that your team mate is making silly plays beforehand, then it's only going to get worse as even if they ignore or mute you, their mind has also shut down, even a little bit.

Tele II2/27/2019, 5:17:27 AM1 votes

Stop thinking of them as extras in your movie. They are humans like you who know damn well that theyre getting shit on. Theyre tilted, they may be screaming at their computer, they may be fucking miserable and feeling guilty because they know theyre losing hard. Then you chime in to state the obvious and pour salt on the wound. Just ...dont do that? Idk man. Its fucking simple.

You should ask your parents to ...parent. They should be teaching you lessons on how to deal with your emotions. You shouldnt be learning from strangers online. Its a life problem, not a simple league problem that some tips will fix. You need to mature.