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Attempting to reach out to a user "hurt me daddy" and a discussion about toxicity and its affects

An Angry Man·4/1/2018, 11:20:44 PM·1 votes·417 views

Hey guys thought i'd come to the boards to try and reach out to a player i just player with and to try and convey a message to everyone playing, hope this is the right place to do so as this has to do with toxicity in game and how it affects everyone in the real world.

So I just got SG MF, and i wanted to play some MF, right? I Queue up for ranked as i main ADC anyway, and i pre select MF after getting ADC, sounds good so far, no?

Our top laner asks for ADC because he is autofilled, i politely decline with a "no sorry" and he picks camille, a champ he has games on and a decent winrate too. Our jungler, a Sejuani opens up with this exact quote "mf in this elo? :(" and it annoys me a little, so i ask "what's wrong with mf? to no answer.

At this point i know what kind of player this Sejuani is because i have been that player in the past, so i prepare to be flamed for every mistake (in hindsight i should have muted her as soon as we loaded in, but thats in the past). I die level 1 to a blitz hook, a mistake by me on my positioning and i know what i did wrong, but Sejuani instantly types "see what i mean?" or words to that effect, sorry i dont remember the exact quote this really got me worked up tonight. I, for some reason, respond with "stop typing, it doesn't help" and the mid lane Xerath agrees with me, i thought that was it.

As the game goes on blitz is playing out of his mid tbh, really good player who zones us from waves and hooks us out of tower, wp to him in retrospect, but it didn't phase me at all, we can still win we have scaling on our side. However, Sejuani begins to go on a mega tirade about how bad this elo is, how we have already lost at 11 minutes, and how bad my pick was. I tried not to respond too much and just told her to "stop that" after she tried the second ff vote at 18 mnutes.

So, we are defending the mid tier 1: Me, Xerath, and this poor soraka. She gets hooked and bursted, immediately Sejuani spam pings that she has flash up and the Xerath types a good old "xD". This pushes the 0/5 Soraka over the edge and she rage quits the game, and i don't blame her at all. Xerath asks if she dc'd and Sejuani starts going on about how we 100% lose now because it is 4 v 5, which is true.

This is where it annoyed me, and i shouldn't have gotten involved, but i decided to let Sejuani know what she had done and how she had affected the game in a negative manner. I told her that she had been negative since champ select, and it brought the whole team down, she had flamed every player except xerath, her premade, for their mistakes and it was miserable, this last one pushed Soraka over the edge and forced us into a loss. She refused to acknowledge that she was the reason Soraka had quit and that she had a negative impact on the game at all, which blew my mind in all honesty.

The game ended and I reported the Sejuani and she reported me for whatever her reasons were, but to my surprise the Xerath had sent me a friend request, in the game he had been fairly nuetral and could understand both sides, so i hit him up and we had a great chat for 15 minutes about how the game affects us out of the game itself, anger issues, maturity, and attitude in the game. It was a nice experience to have really and i think i'll keep him around.

I just wanted to share because i'm trying to reach the Soraka to see if everything is okay. She did not deserve the flame she was getting at all and i wanted to tell her that she played okay and that she could hit me up to play any time.

If anyone has anything to add or wants to talk to me about anything I'd be happy too, also, if a rioter wanted to pull up the logs for the entire game I'd love to go through them and point out what i think was wrong, both from myself and the Sejuani and I'm more than happy to accept criticism for my behaviour. I've tried my very hardest to reform and i really hope that this isn't a step in the wrong direction.

Tl;DR: Jungler was negative since champ select, flamed everyone for every mistake to the point of our support not wanting to play anymore, tried to show him the error of his ways, complete ignorance on his part, had a loveyly talk with his premade about his and my behavior, tried to reach out to Soraka but no luck so far

Sorry for the wall lads but I really wanted to share this as it got me really worked up

2 Comments

Awf Meta4/2/2018, 1:19:22 AM1 votes

So I just got SG MF, and i wanted to play some MF, right? I Queue up for ranked as i main ADC anyway, and i pre select MF after getting ADC, sounds good so far, no?

No, that does not sound good. Ideally, you should consider the enemy team composition and your team composition before picking your champion.

he picks camille, a champ he has games on and a decent winrate too.

Spend more time worrying about team compositions than looking up your own teams win rates and judging them before the game even starts.

She refused to acknowledge that she was the reason Soraka had quit and that she had a negative impact on the game at all, which blew my mind in all honesty.

It was Sorakas choice to quit. No one made her quit.

Seems just about everyone had a hand in the blame pot that game.

report yasuo4/2/2018, 2:03:12 PM1 votes

I think you're being a bit overdramatic about the whole thing like there will always be toxic players but all you gotta do it type /mute all and boom no toxicity like toxicity is not even the problem the problem is you all are so god damn overdramatic the problem is already solved stop making it such a big deal.