Do you report your own friends if they're being overly toxic?

Memeguel420·6/29/2017, 1:44:53 PM·3 votes·2,575 views

So I've been playing with one of my friends recently and he's been somewhat toxic in most games. He's been trolling people and then flaming other people because he loses lane, stuff like that. I kept asking myself if I should report him. He's my friend and that would be a jerk move to do to a friend but on the other hand his friendship with me shouldn't excuse his toxic behavior. So I want to ask you do you ever report your friends if so why?

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Jo0o6/29/2017, 1:49:12 PM5 votes

Have you TALKED to him about this? That's infinitely more likely to work out well. You don't owe Riot anything, you aren't policing their game for them at the expense of your own friendships.

"Hey man, it's kinda uncomfortable how much you flame people in League, and I worry you're gonna get restricted or banned one of these days if you keep it up. It doesn't really accomplish anything, so would you mind toning it down for me? Thanks!"

ModPrandine6/29/2017, 6:43:19 PM3 votes

Oh yes definitely. I normally try to be a kind and caring person, but even I have my limits when pushed too far over the edge. In fact, I remember this one time in the game Wizard101. Me and my friend were fighting a boss and then this random person joins and later removes the traps that my friend set despite him asking the person not to. He lost it and started harassing them over it, to which I reported him for his behavior. A couple of days later he asked me if I was the one who reported him that day to which I said yes. To my surprise he actually thanked me for doing so as apparently he received a temporary mute punishment for his behavior, which was a big wake-up call for him as he didn't want to lose his account. He also apologized for his behavior that day as well.

Another example is also from W101. A couple of years ago a random player asked me to help him out with some quests, to which I did (he'd always call me "master" like master and apprentice-his idea not mine). Only later on did I discover his true personality of sorts where he would constantly verbally abuse and harass my other friends and also constantly bombard me for help requests for fights that he hadn't even attempted on his own yet*. Eventually it got to the point where I had had enough, confronted him about it and deleted him from my list (ironically in the same place in-game where we first met), to which is final response was something along the lines of "you barely helped out anyways, lol".

TL;DR Yes, even if you're on my friends list I will report you if you decide to act up. I can let minor hiccups here and there slide but if it's at the point where you're just being a jerk to me and/or others then I will report you and/or delete you from my list. This is also partially why I don't like adding random people that I don't know, as I like to try to get to know someone first and see if they are truly worthy/deserving of being on my friends list.

*As a rule of thumb I don't mind helping people with tricky fights but I'd prefer if they'd try it on their own at least once first before asking me for help. I'll help you with it but I won't do it for you.

ForFoxSakes6/29/2017, 3:48:45 PM2 votes

Yep. In a full premade with all RL friends and after a game 2 of us reported one and he got a chat restriction. Another time we 4 person reported one for AFKing and punished with a 20 min low priority queue. He sat in bush as teemo waiting for someone to "gank" multiple times. Sat there waiting so long the leaverbuster warning popped up LOL

Kei1436/29/2017, 2:28:45 PM2 votes

I'd talk to him first like Jooo says.

But I'll also report him when ever he gets toxic in my games.

Wrong is wrong, and you shouldn't let the wrong keep going.

TheEvilQueen1356/29/2017, 5:44:11 PM2 votes

My friend I actually had to kick out of the league club I ran at school because he was toxic towards one of our members (one of his friends and mine) and he had already been warned multiple times about his behavior and refused to apologize or even admit to me that he went too far. he just said that if they can't take criticism then don't play but he was not even communicating or listening. I am very disappointed in riot for never catching on to his behavior and it makes me worried that he never experienced consequences before graduating college and he's going to be a teacher...im worried for his students

BigBellBrute6/29/2017, 6:18:33 PM1 votes

If it's someone I don't know who friended me in the game heck yes I report him. And I probably unfriend and block him too depending upon how severe the infraction.

If it's a friend in real life, I secretly report him and when he gets in trouble I say aww man. All those people you were toxic to must have reported you. I tried to warn you. And the reality is toxic people are flat out just toxic. He probably will get toxic with you at one point if he doesn't change his behavior.

Telephone Booth6/29/2017, 10:03:58 PM1 votes

No don't report him. Tell him how you perceive him when he acts that way. Be a real friend who's honest. A lot of people seem to think friends should just automatically agree with eachother and never point out faults.

Just be honest and tell him "you're literally making me consider reporting you... that's how bad it is. I would never want to report a friend, but you're so toxic it's putting me in that position, which is fucked. I mean, it's whatever, I still like ya, but damn you just rage and it ruins the mood and it's not even fun"

EndlessSorcerer6/29/2017, 1:47:45 PM1 votes

It depends on how they are toxic.

If they are just raging in voice-chat (but not text chat), I won't bother.

If they are raging at other players in-game and/or griefing, I'll report them and not play with them again.

Ispharel6/30/2017, 8:42:27 AM1 votes

idk, ur choice. my friend reported me for fun and i got banned soooo ye feels bad

TheEvilQueen1356/29/2017, 2:29:56 PM1 votes

I have a friend that used to play league (he moved his toxic butt over to overwatch) who slowly got more and more toxic to strangers and to friends so I reported him overtime he went off the handle. sadly nothing ever happened to him and now I hear he is being just as toxic in overwatch. If you're worried about your friendship just don't tell him you reported him because even if he's punished he shouldn't find out.

TrulyBland6/29/2017, 4:44:51 PM1 votes

Depends on how close friends they are and the friend themselves. I like to think that at least some of my real life friends value my opinion enough to allow me to "reform" them better than the automated system. I know I had a positive impact on two of my friends in this regard.

Basically, I stand by my friends in public, then proceed to call them out on their shitty behaviour in private. For the kind of real life friends I play games with that typically has a better effect. And if I ever felt that honestly talking with them about their behaviour would have less effect than reporting them, I strongly doubt I'd continue playing games with them in the first place.

If it's just generic "People on your friends-list" friends, however, I've had a few cases where after adding somebody to play a few games, I ended up reporting them and removing them from my friend list.

NinjaGuy696/29/2017, 5:52:35 PM1 votes

I think the best thing you can do as a friend is to help your friend improve his behavior so that you won't need to worry about you or anyone else reporting him. I'm sure you'll have more fun playing with him too if you guys can take it easy and play games without worrying about toxicity.

rework trundle6/29/2017, 6:03:45 PM1 votes

If they rq (not dc) I will report them, otherwise, no.