How do you deal with the "I give up" mentality in teammates?

Hilsun·2/25/2019, 6:37:38 PM·1 votes·3,532 views

This past weekend I played a string of ranked games (I'm a low-tier gold jungler mostly, though I'm probably shifting roles to ADC) and I swear EVERY game I played included at least 1 player who lost lane super early and just gave up, openly stating in chat that "it's gg" or "I give up" or some iteration of surrender by minute 7-10. It didn't matter if we had another lane that was stomping, it didn't matter if literally everyone else on the team was doing well--all that mattered to them is that they personally weren't doing well, and they were willing to spoil the entire game for the rest of the team because of it.

I find it nearly impossible to win games when this happens, even when it's just a single teammate doing it, and when it's happening every game, it becomes discouraging. This becomes especially difficult for me because I am the type with a tendency to try helping/following teammates even when they are making poor decisions/plays. I recognize I need to stop doing that. :X

So...how does everyone else deal with those teammates? Does anyone else notice this occurring more frequently now than in the past?

I typically try to be actively encouraging, saying things like "we can still win" or "we have more towers/dragons" or "bottom lane is super fed, we'll be fine" because I find that offering actual gameplay advice like "stop trying to pick fights with your lane opponent who is 5/0" or "you should keep wards up more since their jungler has ganked you so many times" typically just makes failing players more angry.

14 Comments

CloakAndGrenade2/25/2019, 7:41:21 PM2 votes

Telling them the win condition usually helps. Pointing out that X, Y, and Z are going well and how that translates into a win helps. Don't flame. Give them a compliment on something that they are doing, make them feel needed in the fight. Usually, when this happens as well it's because their lane is going poorly, they are getting camped, and they feel like they don't have agency in the situation.

When I play jungler I offer up some camps (gromp/krugs, wolves or raptors), especially when I am not in a position to gank their lane. This gives them xp, gold, and it makes them feel like their team is trying to help atleast in some way. When I'm bot, I tell the ADC i'm building items for them. Whether it's knights vow, ardent censor, or zekes. If I'm top I might try to sneak the rift and take it to the lane of the person struggling, or make a TP play to help.

Show team synergy, express positive attitudes, and describe the game plan. It usually helps. Also, I find that when someone says "gg" or "I give up", they aren't necessarily actually giving up. It tends to be an expression of frustration more than anything, atleast in my experience. It's usually the people hard flamming in chat who have actually given up and theres not much you can do about them but mute them.

Boltonator2/25/2019, 6:57:19 PM1 votes

Try to convince them to keep their head in the game. If that doesn’t work, and it’s clear they have no intention of playing smart/being a team player, report them after the game for Griefing/Giving Up.

There is only so much you, as a player, can do when teammates refuse to cooperate. If you decide to continue doing ranked in the future I highly recommend you find a duo partner.

Alzon2/25/2019, 7:09:32 PM1 votes

If only one lane is winning, ask those in the losing lanes to keep an eye out for that lane so “you’re not losing hard enough” doesn’t happen.

ThisGamelsTrash2/25/2019, 7:50:02 PM1 votes

As someone that wins lane most of the time, it disgusts me to see people like this. It's just fucking disgusting to see people saying "ff" when I'm destroying my lane. It's usually bot lane that does this shit too lmao

BoRnToKiLL6662/25/2019, 7:57:08 PM1 votes

How i do is just mute all and try hardest, if its 100% over then FF

Nasarie2/25/2019, 8:16:56 PM1 votes

Wait....are you saying I have teammates?! I was just bush hopping with oracles with Annie to win! Joking aside, sometimes i feel paying attention to non game related banter is pointless. If you are not telling me about jungle location or asking for assistance I pay you 0 mind at all. I do not even really pay attention to feeders anymore it just makes me go up and steal the bounty to fatten myself. [sg-miss-fortune]

Mr Elessar2/25/2019, 6:55:07 PM1 votes

I see them as trash, unless they are good. No point in talking to trash.

Deliberate Inter2/26/2019, 8:04:52 PM1 votes

I don't really get any giver uppers or negative nancies because I play RANKED